A Big Choice

[Teh_Poet]

Okay, I have a girlfriend, who I've been going out with for about 3 months now. We've been good friends for a while, since september. But, I don't love her.

I love this other girl, who is stuck in a mental hospital for attempted suicide. I feel really guilty, and I'm not sure what I should do. I really don't want to hurt my girlfriend, but we're drifting farther and farther away.

So, basically, should I break up with my girlfriend, or should I keep living a lie?

 

[Danimal]

You should break up. But gently.

 

[xLostx]

Break up, I hate when people stay in relationships when there's nothing there and it's pointless KJ)#JGF)#OJRGFOIW;jer

 

[Ikerous]

Live the lie.
Its not nearly as bad as it sounds.
Either way you'll be unhappy.
But you'll be less unhappy with the lie

 

[bvasgm]

Like Danimal said..break up, but gently. Btw, Teh_Poet, your sig. confuses me.

 

[Tr0n]

Break up.

 

[Dan]

Just stop talking to her and go on as though you are broken up until it becomes fact. Saves the hurt of an actual break up

 

[bliink]

Just stop talking to her and go on as though you are broken up until it becomes fact. Saves the hurt of an actual break up

Nah.. break-up through neglect is a bad way to do it.. its cruel and also confusing..

If you want to break it off, just say it.

 

[Tr0n]

Nah.. break-up through neglect is a bad way to do it.. its cruel and also confusing..

If you want to break it off, just say it.

Wish it was that simple.

Telling a girl/guy you're breaking up is a really hard thing...so it won't be that easy poet.Just like everyone else said...lay it to her gently.

 

[Alix Mcdean]

Definatly break up, no doubt.

It will be better in the long run.

-Alix

 

[Danimal]

If you lived out the lie, she will eventually find out. Making things more difficult.

If you neglect her, she'll feel as if she was only being used, and now you no longer need her, you just abandon her.

If you break it up by telling her, it'll be better, you can always still be friends.

 

[Ikerous]

Just stop talking to her and go on as though you are broken up until it becomes fact. Saves the hurt of an actual break up

I did that.. it involved a lotta time on the phone with her crying though :/

 

[bvasgm]

If you break it up by telling her, it'll be better, you can always still be friends.

No offense Danimal..but have you ever actually broken up with anybody? Usually you can't still be friends. That's at least what my limited experience tells me anyway.

 

[Danimal]

No offense Danimal..but have you ever actually broken up with anybody? Usually you can't still be friends. That's at least what my limited experience tells me anyway.

It depends on how you say it and if you were friends before the relationship started.

 

[Ikerous]

It depends on how you say it and if you were friends before the relationship started.

Lol, you're just silly...

I'm not friends with any of my ex girlfriends
One of whom i can't even stand to talk to
(Probably because she has the mental age of around 9...)

 

[Danimal]

I am not saying you'll end up just friends 100% of the time.

 

[xLostx]

bliink....it's over between us....;(

 

[Garfield_]

Never live in a lie, the truth will allways be known later. You decide if you brake up with her or not, but i wouldnt lie, and if the only way is to lie i would brake up instead and tell her how you feel

 

[Fat Tony!]

wow lots of girl threads around must be because it's spring aka mating season

 

[Mr-Fusion]

wow lots of girl threads around must be because it's spring aka mating season

Good point, yes you're right. Spring up there.

Slaves to human instincts....all of you!! Just ask yourself one question "Are my genes really worth spreading? Should i really dilute this genepool with my faults and weaknesses?"

Ok thankyou. The ultimate goal is to create a super race, it probably won't happen until government controlled human reproduction is introduced and enforced! Until then we have all sort of idiots spreading the idiocy.

 

[jondy]

Good point, yes you're right. Spring up there.

Slaves to human instincts....all of you!! Just ask yourself one question "Are my genes really worth spreading? Should i really dilute this genepool with my faults and weaknesses?"

Ok thankyou. The ultimate goal is to create a super race, it probably won't happen until government controlled human reproduction is introduced and enforced! Until then we have all sort of idiots spreading the idiocy.

Yes. *looks at chav doing chavette in alley* You there, good sir! You're ruining the human race!

 

[Kristafon]

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Im going to the "special" ward
And dumping you!

 

[Teh_Poet]

Btw, Teh_Poet, your sig. confuses me.

It's part of a poem I wrote.

He’s reaching for the stars,
But there’s a long way to fall.
He can not cover his scars,
Some memories he can’t recall.

His life shattered in pieces,
Scattered all over the ground.
His hope of love decreases,
His emotions now are drowned.

He’s lost in this sea of fear,
He’s afraid he’s lost his chance.
But on his face, not a single tear,
He’s working a fake romance.

But he knows it’s doomed to fail,
This relationship of lust.
No much more behind this veil,
But a consequence unjust.

 

[ailevation]

:dozey: Break up, be gentle... think about it... you've only been together for three months! Although, that's how long i've been with my girl(monthly anniversary was yesterday, the 16th) and we're in a heap of love with each other, not to sound like an ass or anything :naughty: .

 

[Darkknighttt]

this is happening to me but modified version some girl wants to make out with me tommorow and i like her to but i like this other girl to andi dont want her seeing us doing it if i decide to. but you know im a guy and i cant reisst it but the girl that wont make out with me asked me on a date and i said the week after well go on one and now im just like ****. well see what happens but i feel really bad right now.

 

[oldagerocker]

It's possible to break up with a girl and still be friends, im 'friends'... well, we still talk, with all my ex-girlfriends so far.

But beware Teh_poet... just be careful, dont think you're so in love with this other girl unless you are 100% sure, she's going through a tough time and sometimes guilt and sympathy can be overwhelming, so much so that you'll think its love. But im not saying it isn't. Good luck to you.

 

[Farrowlesparrow]

Yeah I was...infatuated with a girl who was having a hard time once. I realised, after she moved away and all my chances were gone, that really I was feeling how I was largely because of sympathy and simply wanting to comfort her. But those feelings should have been as the friend I was, not as anything more. Sometimes its hard to make that distinction.

 

[bvasgm]

It's part of a poem I wrote.

Thanks for the explanation, now I feel slightly less confused. [I suck @ understanding poetry]

 

[Teh_Poet]

It's possible to break up with a girl and still be friends, im 'friends'... well, we still talk, with all my ex-girlfriends so far.

But beware Teh_poet... just be careful, dont think you're so in love with this other girl unless you are 100% sure, she's going through a tough time and sometimes guilt and sympathy can be overwhelming, so much so that you'll think its love. But im not saying it isn't. Good luck to you.

No, I had these feeling towards her before she had the troubles.

 

[oldagerocker]

Alright then tread very carefully around the girlfriend you're with now and end it as nicely as you can. i hate breakups.

 

[Qwert93]

Slowly talk less to her. Then you'll naturally break up.

 

[Teh_Poet]

Slowly talk less to her. Then you'll naturally break up.

That's already been happening, but chances are afterwords, it'll be harder to be friends.

Gosh, this is so hard. I don't see any good coming out of either. If I break up with her, then we're both left single. If I don't break up, then I'm left dating a girl I don't like, and she's stuck dating a poor jackass.

This sucks.