Grandmother died today

[Ravioli]

So yeah, came home from school and saw my mother crying. She told me that her mom had died earlier today. I wasnt really that shocked, i mean, she has been really ill for a few years and she was really old. I hardly knew her, only met her twice in my life (once when i was a babie) because she lived allllll the way over in Venezuela. So therefore i dont really have any emotions about it, ofc im sad about it but about 3 minutes after i was told i just continued my day and thought about other stuff. Worried about my mom tho, shes pretty messed up right now.


Has anyone else had someone in the family die that you really didnt know? Its kind of akward i guess.

On other notes, im in deep shit in school. I "stole" a teachers edition of the chemistry book and scanned all the answers and i was to turn it back today but they had already gone all crazy about it so i just kept quiet and pretended i didnt know anything. The news spread like a wildfire and i was freaking out. Finally i just threw it away in the libary, hopefully someone will find it. Phew....yes im evil.

Random thread ftw

 

[Druckles]

aww *hugs*

My Grandad died a few years back. Knew him a bit, just wish I'd known him more.
My great-grandmother died before I was born. Thus, someone in my family died who I didn't know...

 

[Pulse]

Condolences man, I remember when my great-grandmother passed away when I was around 9-10 years old. It was a strange feeling, I was upset of course but I'd only really met her a dozen or so times in my life time, and she was in a really frail condition, but we still bonded fairly well. The part that hurt me the most was seeing my mum distraught about it, as she would be of course, but that played on my mind the most. It sucks but life does go on, it'll be awkward for a few weeks but your mum and family will recover eventually.

 

[lePobz]

I cried more when my dog died than I did when my great gran, grandma, grandad, or nanna died.

Also, more recently i've had friends die in car accidents and tragic accidents - and not cried...

Am I a heartless monster?

 

[Dekstar]

I cried more when my dog died than I did when my great gran, grandma, grandad, or nanna died.

Also, more recently i've had friends die in car accidents and tragic accidents - and not cried...

Am I a heartless monster?

Definitely not, with that amazing hello-kitty avatar.

 

[mchammer75040]

Yea true sea, which will suck when we are all in that position. I had a cousin die not too long ago from a car crash..I knew him and I think he was like a year older than I was, so he was 19 when he hit a tree and killed himself. We had all the same interests, so Im sure had we kept in contact we would be good friends probably. Its heartless to say this but when they told me I just shrugged it off. By that time I hadnt seen him in 5 years or so, and really Im glad I didnt know him that well otherwise I would have been devestated like his dad was. They still go to his grave every year on his birthday to pray for him and grieve. Gah can any of you imagine losing a friend (or a child) at this age? I'd probably kill myself :\.

 

[Ennui]

I cried more when my dog died than I did when my great gran, grandma, grandad, or nanna died.

Also, more recently i've had friends die in car accidents and tragic accidents - and not cried...

Am I a heartless monster?

no, some people just arent disposed to crying very often.

i've cried maybe 3 or 4 times since i was 10 or 11, but that doesnt mean i havent had my share of sad times

 

[Asknoone]

no, some people just arent disposed to crying very often.

i've cried maybe 3 or 4 times since i was 10 or 11, but that doesnt mean i havent had my share of sad times

This is very true. I've come up against very tough times in the past 8 years, but it's hard for me to pin point when it was I last cried. Probably 1-2 times or something.

I tear up like a bitch when watching a movie or reading a book though.

 

[Druckles]

This is very true. I've come up against very tough times in the past 8 years, but it's hard for me to pin point when it was I last cried. Probably 1-2 times or something.

I tear up like a bitch when watching a movie or reading a book though.

Only times I recall crying are girlfriend orientated. 22 months are a lot to put on a teenager. Funny though, because alot of the worst times during it I didn't, like when breaking up seemed almost inevitable. Think it might be because I knew it wasn't going to end... didn't cry when it finally did. Very odd.

 

[Acepilotf14]

My Grandma on my stepDad's side died a week or so ago.. I havn't even met her. :\ Also, my Great Grandma on mah mom's side is sick all the time, too. >.>
It happens.

 

[Tyguy]

I tear up like a bitch when watching a movie or reading a book though.

The last time that happened to me was when I saw Big Fish. For some reason that movie evoked so much friggen emotion, and I started thinking about my grandmother after that which made it worse...

 

[Atomic_Piggy]

/me hugs
Sorry to hear about your grandma.

 

[Raziaar]

My dad's fiance died like five or so years ago from cancer. I didn't know her very well, nor liked her very much because it seemed she didn't like me.

 

[Ennui]

Sorry about your grandmother by the way Ravioli, didn't mean to ignore that when responding to Pobz

 

[Instinct]

Its really weird, my dad's auntie died recently. He wasn't bothered at all. He went 300 odd miles to the funeral and came back happy as larry. Aparently, a catholic's funeral is more of a family get together/party so everyone goes and leaves in a merry old mood.

I hate everything else about that particular religion but I don't mind the funerals. Its how someone's death should be marked if you ask me. A good time, a celebration of life and being at peace with god (or whoever)

 

[Druckles]

I believe the Irish do it the opposite way round. They celebrate at a funeral and are really solemn at a christening.

Or so I heard long ago... no doubt I am almost totally wrong.

 

[Shift]

Something that has always bothered me, is that when my brother died 9-10 years ago in a car accident, I didn't cry at all. I mean it shocked the hell of me, and while my family cryed a lot, I didn't. What really haunted me for ages was the fact that a week before his death, he was annoying the hell out of me and shouted that I wished he were dead, and he just laughed in my face. I told that to my mum and you wouldn't believe the look she gave me.

In fact, I walked to school the next day myself, and had to endure everyone asking if my brother had died and all I could do was deny it, and then my friends thought I wasn't told and started being extra nice to me, so I told them that I knew, and they all looked really funnily at me as if there was something wrong with me.

I mean even to this day, the night he died and the day after plays over in my head, I remember every single detail, and the depressed state if my family really was bad to witness, and I couldn't take everyone trying to comfort me or offer their condolences.

I think in a way I cant describe, that event did change me dramatically. I mean to this day, no matter what bad things have happened, I just want to get on with it and not look back, I used to be a right little wimp before the accident, cryed a lot when I was younger, but I cant recall I single time I have cryed since his death, any fears I have I face up to them, and I became a VERY determined person.

But why I did not feel sorrow for his death I just cant get around.

 

[Ravioli]

thx for all responses.

I just now thought of it, i didnt cry or get any emotional feelings when my dads sister died either. I had known her for years and met her alot, but still, when i was told she was dead i was just like "oh..ok" and that was it.

Makes me look like a jerk :/

 

[Druckles]

Don't let it build up, that's all I can say.