I call upon you Helplife2.net! Where should I go to college?

[Taboo]

Now that some of my college letters are starting to come in I've realized how hard this decision is going to be. I'm applying to five schools but Ive pretty much narrowed it down to three. Of these three, Ive heard one is better for my major (although, not amazingly better), one I'm more familiar with because both of my parents went there and we visit it often and thats kind of where I always thought I would go, and the last one is where my girlfriend of a little more than a year is planning on going. I know that sounds like a pretty weak reason, but we really love each other and if I go to either of the other two we will only be able to see each other maybe three times a year.


So I'm calling upon your superior advisory skills helplife2.net! What should I do?

 

[TCfromBN]

/facepalm


Keep in mind, that things don't always last. However, if the college she is going to has your major, I don't see any reason not to go.

Heh, I'm going to be struggling to pay for college.

 

[Taboo]

Eh, wont we all?

I never want to see another financial aid or scholarship application again... but I know I will. They're like annoying relatives.

 

[Krynn72]

Based on the very little information ive been given, I'd say go with your girl.

 

[French Ninja]

Jesus, I'm glad I'm done with that phase.

Go with your major.

 

[JNightshade]

Based on the very little information ive been given, I'd say go with your girl.

NO. NEVER bet your education on someone else's preferences.

How about telling us the actual schools? With what we've been given, you're apt to get very bad advice like that (no offense Krynn).

 

[Taboo]

Okay, well I live in OK right now but I grew up in Texas for the most part. My parents both went to Texas A&M, I think UT would be better for my major (computer programming) and my girlfriend is going to OU. I would probably get a pretty considerable scholarship if I went to OU, and I'm not sure if I will get into UT because its really competitive for people out of state. Hope that helps.

 

[Social Bacon]

Come to Canada! You can get an entire University degree here for less than the cost of one year at an American college.

 

[Taboo]

Based on the very little information ive been given, I'd say go with your girl.

Yeah, OU would be closer to home and cheaper, apart from the entire girlfriend thing. I've always told myself to never make an educational decision based on a girlfriend, but honestly idk if I could deal with only seeing her a few times a year.

 

[huntingbear]

Mizzou? lol, no don't

 

[Taboo]

So, I was consulting one of my friends today and he said that I definately shouldnt go to OU with my girl because then we would just always be together and I wouldnt get to meet new people and then if we ever broke up I will just be ****ed socially. Could it really be that bad?

 

[Tollbooth Willie]

Go to hell.

Actually, it's your decision. It couldn't be that bad going to a different college......Could it?

Go to Cananada they have bacon.

 

[Murray_H]

Don't go with after your girlfriend. If it's really as good as you say it is, you can make it last no matter what. And if it doesn't last....all aboard the pussy train!

In all seriousness, don't follow her. Get the best education you can. Start from scratch in a new place, make loads of friends and visit her occasionally - you'll cope. At times you'll be very frustrated, but you'll cope!

 

[sinkoman]

k, you can either go with your girl, and see her till you break up with her, thusly being happy for another year or two, and then possibly realizing that you're ****ed major wise.

Or you can go to the college you actually want to, drop her dirty ho ass, and be happy for the rest of your life.

 

[Sheepo]

*doesn't read anything in thread*

UVA!

 

[Taboo]

Where is it written that all high school relationships fail?

 

[Ennui]

for the love of god and all that is holy, do not allow your girlfriend to be ANY factor in where you decide to go to school.

1) going to college together will give you about 90% chance of breaking up within the first semester of college
2) long-distance sucks but if you are actually in love it will work and might actually be healthier for the two of you and your relationship in the long run.
3) you won't make any damn friends if you're with her all the time, and if you do and then break up it'd be a bitch

I personally am completely in love (and vice versa) with a girl whose been my best friend for several years, but she goes to school 4 hours away and I really enjoy being able to talk to her / depend on her but still date, hook-up with, and **** other girls HERE.

 

[Baal]

Have you seen the OC? I don't know the answer to your question, but that show probably does.

My sister and her husband met in Grade 10 of High School, by the way.

 

[Taboo]

Have you seen the OC? I don't know the answer to your question, but that show probably does.

My sister and her husband met in Grade 10 of High School, by the way.

Did they go to college together?

 

[Baal]

Did they go to college together?

They moved to the same city together, but different colleges.

 

[sinkoman]

Where is it written that all high school relationships fail?

It'd be naive to assume that they won't.

Relationships just seem like one of those situations where it's best to assume the worst.

 

[Pesmerga]

Indeed. I kept waiting for my ex to break up with me, and when she did, I was all like "Oh, ok."

But yeah dude... you're obviously not going to listen to any advice we have to say because, well, you're in wuv. Awwww, he's in wuv!

 

[Taboo]

I'm just saying that its probably going to weigh in my decision more than I want it to... which is why I'm consulting the brain trust here. :hmph:

The price alone, available scholarships and a convenience of being so close to home is almost enough... but the girlfriend kind of tips the scale.

 

[sinkoman]

I'm just saying that its probably going to weigh in my decision more than I want it to... which is why I'm consulting the brain trust here. :hmph:

The price alone, available scholarships and a convenience of being so close to home is almost enough... but the girlfriend kind of tips the scale.

Well, i'm just saying. Assume that you're going to end up breaking up with her halfway through your term. Assess how bad you assume it'll be, how you'll handle it, and how shit out of luck you will or won't be educationally.

That way you're not surprised when it does happen, if it does at all.

Assume the worst. You wouldn't go out with a girl if you knew that all of your friends would hate you after breaking up with her, would you?

 

[Taboo]

Well, i'm just saying. Assume that you're going to end up breaking up with her halfway through your term. Assess how bad you assume it'll be, how you'll handle it, and how shit out of luck you will or won't be educationally.

That way you're not surprised when it does happen, if it does at all.

Assume the worst. You wouldn't go out with a girl if you knew that all of your friends would hate you after breaking up with her, would you?

tbh, it depends.

 

[Pesmerga]

Well, if you don't go to her college you can rest assured knowing she'll cheat on you. Or you'll think she is. Or she'll go crazy because she thinks you're cheating on her, so she'll go to a frat party and get raped because she didn't come with any friends. Or the two of you will break up because you'll be the nosy boyfriend who wants to spend all his time with her and she'll have work to do and you'll think she doesn't like you anymore, and she'll get tired of all that shit and end it.

But then again you could always just go to whatever college you think is best for you, don't be too concerned with keeping your relationship together, and build your own life and depend on yourself.

 

[highlander]

Do not follow your girl. Get a good education.

 

[Taboo]

From what I've heard it doesn't really matter where you go as long as you do well at that school. So I might as well go to OU and make really good grades and be high in the class than go to UT and be struggling to survive.

 

[B.Calhoun]

DEFINITELY do not go to school with your gf who you love so much, my roommate was in the same situation and he went to school with his girl from highschool and they have been going out for like 2 years. after 1 semester at college hes broken up with her and is now transfering cuz its just so different than a HS relationship

 

[Ennui]

yeah seriously. going from high school to university is an EXTREMELY big change in your life both internally and externally.

i can't stress enough how vehemently i believe you shouldn't let her factor into your decision at ALL.

 

[theotherguy]

1) apply to all the schools you want
2) Seriously think about your future and what you want to do in life.
3) Of the schools you're accepted to, pick the one that will best further your goals and where you feel you will be happiest.

I might end up at UT or A&M as well. UT has a great Compsci program, but A&M is offering me $50,000 and my gf is going there. I also hate college station but love Austin.

 

[theotherguy]

From what I've heard it doesn't really matter where you go as long as you do well at that school. So I might as well go to OU and make really good grades and be high in the class than go to UT and be struggling to survive.

That's not true. The better program the school has the better education you'll get and the more prestige you will have. Better schools also provide more research opportunities and you will more easily be able to find work afterwards.

But by all means don't go to a school which you feel you can't compete in. However, I truly cannot imagine how anyone would struggle at UT unless they were taking all honors classes. UT is a very large public university that caters to the most average of people.