lil' help

[highlander]

ok , i needd help, i like this girl at my school, but, i dunno if she likes me , and i'm scared that if i ask her out, she'll reject me , please take this seriously! any comments or tips would be great

 

[Alexferris]

Dude... just hit on her quietly without directly asking her. If she responds, you're in. If she doesn't, she might just be shy... or doesn't like you.

 

[highlander]

well, i've known her for..a long time, and liked her for a long time, since like grade 6

 

[Glirk Dient]

if you dont know then you haven't flirted or have tried and she hasn't given any signals because she doesn't like you back. If your thinking of asking her out before even talking to her your gonna be a creep and get a definate no.

Talk to her, subtlely flirt and leave hints and don't act desperate. Remain confident no matter what but not cocky and remember to not act desperate at all costs even if she starts to flirt with yo. You might get excited and move things too fast and the ugly beat will rear its head and it will be over before you know it.

Oh and umm good luck!

Try to ask her out in a creative way and do something fun for your first date. Movies are a bad idea. Dinner and a walk after is a plus. Try to leave her with something to remember you by. Something cliche like going to a carnival and giving her a teddy will work. When your walking around town you could stop by one of those little machines that have plastic rings for a quarter or whatever and pretend to propose in a joking way.

Well, good luck. Remember practice makes perfect so get out there and get flirting!

 

[highlander]

thanks glirk, nice advice , hmm, problem is, i'm not that good with girls....stfu. i dont know why ah hell, hmm , i guess its just me i dunno

 

[Jintor]

First: Asking for advice on the internet? lol!

Second: Be yourself.

 

[Solaris]

All Hail to Thee oh King.

 

[CyberPitz]

thanks glirk, nice advice , hmm, problem is, i'm not that good with girls....stfu. i dont know why ah hell, hmm , i guess its just me i dunno

Ha you and me both man. Well, I always think I'm bad with the ladies, but I can't seem to put my finger on why I get laid. Man, this whole successful low self esteem thing really confuses you.

My suggestion is going to be the same as the others. Just flirt. Not the hardcore "Is that a mirror in your pocket because I can see myself in your pants" flirt, but more like a 'make her laugh and smile alot' sort. I've had my shares of "I wish I knew if this girl liked me so I can act on it" moments..hell, I've had alot of where I thought she DID like me, so I asked her out on a date, and well..she....never talked to me again. THAT'S BESIDE THE POINT. You'll know if she likes you. Don't take her talking to you as a hint though. Think of that as a doorway. If she talks to you, that means you have to walk through the door, and ...find a hotdog stand....or something.

All in all, act yourself, be calm, and don't over react to anything. Calm is a good key, as is confidence.

Hell, reminds me...my roomate told me I had confidence, but how can you have confidence when you have a next to negative self esteem about youself?! D:

Good luck kid.

 

[highlander]

thanks all, guess what? your advice worked ;D;D;D thanks guys

 

[CyberPitz]

thanks all, guess what? your advice worked ;D;D;D thanks guys

You got yourself a date? Alright man! Good Job!

 

[baron insig]

wooo haay

now jsut dont screw up!

gd luck now!

 

[Beerdude26]

Idd, now don't screw up
Just be yourself, and if you think you're going to be clumsy, just move your limbs a bit slower (although my girlfriend always rofles when I accidentally bash over a glass of water )

That's all the actual advice I can give you if you're going on a date

 

[Sulkdodds]

Don't **** up - **** her instead.

 

[Beerdude26]

Don't **** up - **** her instead.

www.askmen.com

Best online advice ever. (If you rule out Angry Lawyer, that is)

 

[highlander]

thanks guys, hehe sulkdodds , i'll do that on the 3rd date lol, where gonna to a theme park then to the beach, yay ,

 

[Shamrock]

Shut up kinghenry!

 

[Que-Ever]

...

why would you care if she rejects you, anyway? just move on :/

 

[Beerdude26]

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why would you care if she rejects you, anyway? just move on :/

Not everyone is a hawt sechs machine like you and doesn't have the offer of a complete stable of girls.

Shut up kinghenry!

He lost his virginity earlier IIRC

 

[highlander]

now, i've gotta hold the relenship together!

 

[Kamikazie]

you did all this in a span of 18 hours?

what a man

 

[highlander]

i just got a big coinfidence boost , dunno why, just told her i liked her and see if she wanted to go out with me and she said yes!

 

[Glirk Dient]

thanks glirk, nice advice , hmm, problem is, i'm not that good with girls....stfu. i dont know why ah hell, hmm , i guess its just me i dunno

Gotta start somwhere. You gotta build your confidence up. Talk with any girls you know or girls that are complete losers if you wish. You don't have to hook up with them just talk with them and become friends so you get comfortable with talking to girls and then move up the ladder till your in the area of attractive girls you would date. Just try to work on your game before that and expect to get turned down while your working on your game. Just flirt with girls you don't necessarily want to date just to see if you can get anywhere and to improve your game. Remember...subtle hints work best. Things that leave their imagination open work 1000x better than something straight forward. Things that could be just a joke/your being nice but also could mean your hitting on them. It is tough to find good stuff like that but just work on it till you get the idea and go from there.

Also, remember women think romantically while guys think sexually so leave sex references out.(as funny as geeky ones are "Hey...nice case, can I open it?" and "Wanna see how big my hard drive is?") Hitting on them sexually might work for a girl that wants not much more than sex but unfortunately for you they tend to be popular among the guys...imagine that and also want guys to be dang good in bed so stay away from those girls as it could be a disaster. However don't act like you don't want sex at all...girls will know your lying. Just show them that your not like every other guy. Sex is awsome but its better when your in a good relationship and dating/romantic stuff is also awsome.

So basically be confident and funny. Also try to improve your looks as best you can. You don't have to be the best dressed person but don't look like a geek. Do something with you hair so it doesn't look like crap and wear something other than star trek t-shirts and youv put yourself on the ladder of the attractive guys. Granted you may be pretty low on that ladder but remaining confident and funny will make you seem a few rungs higher than you really are and will help you get that girl you want.

i just got a big coinfidence boost , dunno why, just told her i liked her and see if she wanted to go out with me and she said yes!

Didn't read rest of the thread...just saw this. Congrats man! Nothing gives your ego a boost more than hearing the yes.

Now im gonna give out some more advice whether or not you need/want it. It will be here.

Remember not to be a sex freak...don't make out on the first date. A good night kiss is the furthest you will go. Try to let her make moves as you dont wanna be labeled as a pervert/feeling more than you should. So take things slow unless she makes the moves. Also...make sure what she is doing is pretty obvious as when your horny as heck the smallest move of any kind could make ya think its more than it is then youl get your shit ruined. Thats bad.

Remember to keep her interest level up. Don't say you love her until you really honestly mean it. Lust is different than love. Learn the difference. Do random things for her. Bring her a flower once in a while, or some chocolates(careful, she might think your trying to get her fat if she has a weight problem). Leave stuff at/in her locker and suprise her. Go to her next class before she gets there and leave a note on her desk. be creative, remember your in this relationship because you want to be with her...not bang her. I can't stress that enough. Most relationships are ruined fast because guys are too horny.

In any case remember to be spontaneous. Once she thinks she has you all figured out her interest level will go down and it will be over before you know it. So keep things interesting for her. Do stuff with her whenever you can and be random. Most of all remember to have fun!

 

[XANA]

thanks guys, hehe sulkdodds , i'll do that on the 3rd date lol, where gonna to a theme park then to the beach, yay ,

no to 3rd DATE,
yes to 3rd BASE :naughty:

 

[Uriel]

Ill be honest, the first relationship you get into, is going to suck.

Atleast it did for me, after that, you can bloom out of your social retardedness and really enjoy the dating scene.

Best dates are the one's that you dont imagine as a date, just going out with a friend. Takes the pressure off.

 

[highlander]

i just went on the brst..date of my life today! it was awesome, i took your guys advice , it went pretty well , glirk , thanks man i owe you, i've never seen her so happy in my life , she was enjoying it, as much as i was , i walked her back to her houce, and i gave her a kis, she laughed, and went inside, god i love her

 

[CyberPitz]

i just went on the brst..date of my life today! it was awesome, i took your guys advice , it went pretty well , glirk , thanks man i owe you, i've never seen her so happy in my life , she was enjoying it, as much as i was , i walked her back to her houce, and i gave her a kis, she laughed, and went inside, god i love her

Date, kiss, and love all in the first couple days. That's goin quick. GJ.

 

[highlander]

thanks cyber , thank u all for ur advice

 

[ComradeBadger]

Nice to see a happy story

And Glirk, there's not such thing as ladders or leagues.. they simply don't exist.

Confidence > all

 

[Glirk Dient]

Nice to see a happy story

And Glirk, there's not such thing as ladders or leagues.. they simply don't exist.

Confidence > all

In reality no...people tend to rate themselves and others and create them based on what they see. People can definate get people who may seem out of their league...just depends on confidence and their game really as well as looking attractive.

 

[ComradeBadger]

In reality no...people tend to rate themselves and others and create them based on what they see. People can definate get people who may seem out of their league...just depends on confidence and their game really as well as looking attractive.

I personally don't believe in leagues, I honestly believe I can pull who I want..

.. and pretty much all the time, I do.

Looking at that sentence it seems arrogant.. but I'm not an arrogant person.

Honest

 

[Darkwolf]

I personally don't believe in leagues, I honestly believe I can pull who I want..

.. and pretty much all the time, I do.

Looking at that sentence it seems arrogant.. but I'm not an arrogant person.

Honest

Lol, its because your at the top of the league with your stunning good looks.



Lol Glirk, are you some kind of crazy magical phycologist person as a proffesion?!?!? :thumbs: good advice, although in year 11 and 12 (the major testing years... dont know what the equiv is in whereever you live) I find that reationships drain away the amount of time avaiable to study n' stuff, and noticably lower marks are evident. But yeah...