My old mans an alcoholic

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My old man drinks everyday, thinks of nothing else but getting his daily intake of booze.
He is spending Xmas with us, and got hammered tonight, as he did last night and will do tomorrow.
He sits boozing it up; on the edge of the seat clinging to his painfully bloated gut getting pissed.

You guys are the voice of youth. Any suggestions?

Let it slide or try to address it?
 
find a time when he's sober and discuss it with him. he will no doubt get defensive but behavior like that needs to be addressed, really.
 
baxter said:
My old man drinks everyday, thinks of nothing else but getting his daily intake of booze.
He is spending Xmas with us, and got hammered tonight, as he did last night and will do tomorrow.
He sits boozing it up; on the edge of the seat clinging to his painfully bloated gut getting pissed.

You guys are the voice of youth. Any suggestions?

Let it slide or try to address it?
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I think try to address it certainly, but more importantly make sure that doesn't happen to you or your family members in the future.
 
If you drink all the Alchohol, then he won't have any to get drunk on.

you know what to do.
 
You could actually pour it all down the sink, but that's pretty extreme, and depending on how alcoholic he is, he might just go out and buy more.
 
Talk to him about it.
If he gets drunk everynight he is going to do serious damage to himself.
How old is he btw?
 
short recoil said:
Talk to him about it.
If he gets drunk everynight he is going to do serious damage to himself.
How old is he btw?
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He's retired and as always drunk but it just seems to have got worse and worse over the last couple of years.
Talking to him when he is sober is an option but he's never sober.
It's kind of like you don't want to pull up your parents.
I really don't know it’s so difficult, at the end of the day he's a grown man, an adult.
We have tried but it simply comes back to he believes it is right to do as he pleases
 
Say you are going to commit suicide unless he stops drinking, because it is putting you in a serious depression. I'm not kidding either.

Note: This may cause more problems, but It's worth a shot ;)
 
Note: do not take advice from Vegenumber.
Note 2: do not take advice from most of the psychos here on HL2.net.
 
Just bring up how you feel about it in normal conversation
If the topic doesn't go towards drinking, then try and make it

If you're discussing the topic, try haphazardly asking him why he drinks so much
After his explanation would be a really good time to tell him you don't like it much
(Thats simply a suggestion; go with whatever feels most appropriate)

It's a lot easier than making a big deal about it and confronting him
 
If you don't fix it then the problem will get worse. When he is sober let him know he will be sober for the rest of christmas or hes going to rehab because he is an alchoholic.
 
Well, I'm only half-youth at this point, but here's the thing. I am an alcoholic actually, like my dad before me. I used to just sit around, getting potted everyday, whether I was with friends or not. Recently, I have decided to stop and it's been one of the most difficult things I've done. It hurts still, not drinking, but with my friends alternatively berating/encouraging/ sympathysing with me, it makes it easier. The sad thing is, I knew I had (have; it doesn't go away easily) a problem, yet didn't care until I was finally confronted on it. And confronted. And finally yelled at.

Then, I seemed to get some modicum of my self-dignity back, and have been doing better. My advice then: Confront him on it. Continue to confront him on it. Encourage your family to do so as well. It's hard to do this by yourself, and even harder to want to get started not drinking without a swift kick in the ass from someone you care about.
 
Glirk Dient said:
If you don't fix it then the problem will get worse. When he is sober let him know he will be sober for the rest of christmas or hes going to rehab because he is an alchoholic.
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whew i can only imagine what its like (or will be like) when your in laws come over.
 
vegeta897 said:
Say you are going to commit suicide unless he stops drinking, because it is putting you in a serious depression. I'm not kidding either.

Note: This may cause more problems, but It's worth a shot ;)
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:|

That's ****ed up. Really ****ed up. Suicide is not something to use as a threat toward others.
 
We don't want another OMGJohnConnor now don't we?

EDIT: Of course I meant that. ;)
 
SimonomiS said:
:|

That's ****ed up. Really ****ed up. Suicide is not something to use as a threat toward others.
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Dude. Note the note. It was a joke :| Calm down :p
 
Greatgat said:
Confront him on it. Continue to confront him on it. Encourage your family to do so as well. It's hard to do this by yourself, and even harder to want to get started not drinking without a swift kick in the ass from someone you care about.
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You're right I'm going to go for it.....time to stop worrying about the problem and time to start addressing it.
 
baxter said:
You're right I'm going to go for it.....time to stop worrying about the problem and time to start addressing it.
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Let us know how it goes :O
 
Use his alcoholism against him... take the bottle and smash it over his head.


Hehehe. Kidding. But seriously, yeah, you should talk to him if it worries you, and affects your life or others around him. He's never going to get better if he just goes on thinking it doesn't bother those who love him.
 
baxter said:
You're right I'm going to go for it.....time to stop worrying about the problem and time to start addressing it.
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Wow, I just may have given sound advice!

...I'm not sure how I feel about that.:O
 
Greatgat said:
Wow, I just may have given sound advice!

...I'm not sure how I feel about that.:O
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Once my father has disowned me and strikes me out of the family will, I'll let you know how sound your advice was....only joking.:D

Cheers for all the advice everybody gave....families........can't live with them or without them
 
Be honest with him and how it makes you feel uncomfortable. Hopefully hearing it from his son will strike a chord with him.
 
say you want it as a christmas present, it just might work.
 
Talk to him, and be painfully honest with him, be firm, don't ever back down. Make sure he knows that you love him, that you're doing this for his own good, but you will not hesitate to do whatever it takes to get him off alcohol for good. You could try your local Alcoholics Anonymous, or any of that sort of thing, for help (even have an intervention or something). One thing is clear, though, and you seem to be aware of it: doing nothing will only make it worse. And don't hesitate to go to others (friends, family, etc.) for support or backup: this sort of thing is hard as hell, and you'll need all the support you can get.
 
vegeta897 said:
Dude. Note the note. It was a joke :| Calm down :p
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judging from the topic, its really not something to joke about... :|
really tasteless to joke about something as serious as this... and this post isn't just directed you but at anyone else who made smart alec remarks/suggestions.
 
This is a very bad situation it seems, and I don't think there's any good way to approach it.

I wouldn't just let it slide though. I'd talk to him about it ASAP in a serious conversation.
 
Greatgat said:
Well, I'm only half-youth at this point, but here's the thing. I am an alcoholic actually, like my dad before me. I used to just sit around, getting potted everyday, whether I was with friends or not. Recently, I have decided to stop and it's been one of the most difficult things I've done. It hurts still, not drinking, but with my friends alternatively berating/encouraging/ sympathysing with me, it makes it easier. The sad thing is, I knew I had (have; it doesn't go away easily) a problem, yet didn't care until I was finally confronted on it. And confronted. And finally yelled at.

Then, I seemed to get some modicum of my self-dignity back, and have been doing better. My advice then: Confront him on it. Continue to confront him on it. Encourage your family to do so as well. It's hard to do this by yourself, and even harder to want to get started not drinking without a swift kick in the ass from someone you care about.
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Well done.
 
Dr. Freeman said:
judging from the topic, its really not something to joke about... :|
really tasteless to joke about something as serious as this... and this post isn't just directed you but at anyone else who made smart alec remarks/suggestions.
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Lighten up mate... Even the threadstarter made some sarcastic remarks. Perhaps you should let him speak for himself, it's his thread.
 
My aunt has alcohol problems too. She is getting better with some therapy, but now she smokes a lot. v_v

Humor helps. =D
 
Late as usual, but good luck baxter.

Bark twice if you're in Milwaukee.
 
Is he an alcoholic as in he'll wake up in the morning and feel the urge to have something to drink?
 
SimonomiS said:
:|

That's ****ed up. Really ****ed up. Suicide is not something to use as a threat toward others.
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Very true...Homicide is far more effective as a threat
 
Is he the 'get angry and make everyone miserable' alcoholic?

Or is he the 'destroying my liver but not being really too much of a pain for everyone else in the process' kind?
 
vegeta897 said:
Dude. Note the note. It was a joke :| Calm down :p
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Yeah man seriously, get your pad and paper and start noting shit down. We'll have none of this seriousness on this board!
 
SimonomiS said:
Make your mind up?
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Get your sarcasm detector fixed? I guess a winking smiley wasn't enough for you. I'll know better next time. *Note to self, SimonomiS is... Special*

Sersiously, why are you making a big deal outta this :p
A: the threadstarter wouldn't take that "advice" even if I WAS serious, and
B: is it pick on Vegeta day? Week? Month? Do I even need to ask...
 
Sarcasm Detector works just fine, for instance I can tell OvA was being sarcastic even without a wink. It's just throwing out a sentence like "I'm not kidding" contradicts it, so that people get the wrong idea.

Just a bit of friendly advice is all, chillax man.
 
SimonomiS said:
Sarcasm Detector works just fine, for instance I can tell OvA was being sarcastic even without a wink. It's just throwing out a sentence like "I'm not kidding" contradicts it, so that people get the wrong idea.

Just a bit of friendly advice is all, chillax man.
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I know for a fact I've seen people put "I'm not kidding" in a sarcastic post. :) And looks who's talking, "Chillax man" :D
Alright, I think we (you) have derailed the thread enough... I don't want Danimal on my ass.
 
Yes, once Danimal's on people's asses, a crowbar is needed to dislodge him! :O
 
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