Personality Disorders

[Geogaddi]

I just got out of a year and a half long relationship (I was a late bloomer, she was really my first serious girlfriend). She left me for a guy that we were both friends with. For a while I was torn up about it. I knew she had problems, but I thought I was going to be the one who helped her.

I now realize that she's a textbook case of Borderline Personality Disorder (Criteria). I'm not one to play armchair psychologist, but it's uncanny. I found this article. It's like the author is speaking directly to me. Having a logical explanation for what the **** the last year and a half just was has helped me cope and move on.

I'm excited to start fresh and meet girls that aren't going to torture me emotionally.

Anyone else have similar experiences or anything to share?

 

[Darkside55]

I just got out of a year and a half long relationship (I was a late bloomer, she was really my first serious girlfriend). She left me for a guy that we were both friends with.

It's like I'm really reading a thread by ShinRa!




Also lol saying she has a mental disorder to help you cope with getting dumped. You're good, son. You're good.

 

[Geogaddi]

Difference is I don't give a shit. But no really. I really think she does.

EDIT: You can't troll me!

 

[CptStern]

I'm excited to start fresh and meet girls that aren't going to torture me emotionally.

so you'll be going gay then ..they're women ..emotional torture is a competitive sport to them


oh and it's much much easier to just blame the woman by saying she's a crazy bitch than trying to psycho-analyse them. Anyways sorry to hear you got dumped, dont waste any more time in trying to figure it out because you wont, just move on and leave the past behind ..booze and hookers helps in the short term

 

[No Limit]

Just let it go man. if she hooked up with your friend she's a bitch not worth the effort. You don't need to google around to make you feel better.

Also lol saying she has a mental disorder to help you cope with getting dumped. You're good, son. You're good.

Lol

 

[Geogaddi]

I didn't make it clear that I was trying to get her to get help for months while we were still dating. She would have violent outbursts and completely withdraw at times. On more than one occasion I got "I'm going to kill myself and it's going to be your fault!". Also she cheated on me and doesn't understand why it's bad.

 

[Laivasse]

For women, not being a crazybitch is the disorder.

HI FIVE LADS LETS AVE SUM BEEER WWWUUUUEEEeeeeigh!

 

[Darkside55]

I didn't make it clear that I was trying to get her to get help for months while we were still dating. She would have violent outbursts and completely withdraw at times. On more than one occasion I got "I'm going to kill myself and it's going to be your fault!". Also she cheated on me and doesn't understand why it's bad.

Would I be correct in assuming you were probably a doormat?

Should've just told her to kill herself and be done with it then. I hate melodrama.

And listen, you're not going to find a woman who isn't crazy emotionally. They're all like that. Even the ones who say they're not, they are. Three dollar bill made out of peanuts, dude, that's what I'm always saying. How many times have I said that in relationship threads on this forum over the past five years?

 

[Eejit]

You're still wrong though

 

[Bad^Hat]

Sounds like said friend got what was coming to him (assuming he was the cheatee).

 

[CptStern]

I didn't make it clear that I was trying to get her to get help for months while we were still dating. She would have violent outbursts and completely withdraw at times. On more than one occasion I got "I'm going to kill myself and it's going to be your fault!". Also she cheated on me and doesn't understand why it's bad.

bah just be ****ing thankful you got rid of that albatross around your neck.

How many times have I said that in relationship threads on this forum over the past five years?

come on Darkside that's like asking advice on your love life from a priest. First hand experience > than anything you read on the internet

 

[Darkside55]

Bah, when will people learn that the internet is always right?

 

[Tyguy]

you stayed with her after she cheated on you? That's messed up man, have some dignity...shit on her front steps like a normal person.

 

[Cpt Tenacious]

You're an idiot for staying with her that long.

 

[Pesmerga]

I can completely understand wanting to stay with her no matter how much shit she pulls, but you've got to have some integrity from here on out. If someone cheats on you, it's over. If someone is ****ing with you or doesn't seem to care about you, it's over.

Focus on what you want, and then think a lot about how you're going to get it. With girls, it's usually unwise to treat them like queens lest they become spoiled and egotistical. Treat them fairly and remember that talk is cheap. Also remember that sometimes, it just isn't going to work no matter how hard you try (or it failed because you tried too hard).

Luckily, no one has ever cheated on me (that I'm aware of). My one serious relationship ended because I was a god damn idiot, which I'm eternally grateful for- means I'm a better person now.

 

[Geogaddi]

The cheating and the breakup are the same thing. I'm not that ****ing stupid. I'm not throwing a hissy fit about it. I'm glad I'm free. I just think it's interesting how people develop these types of behaviors and how they take advantage of (hopefully) sane people like me.

 

[Darkside55]

People can only take advantage of you if you let them.

 

[Tyguy]

Luckily, no one has ever cheated on me (that I'm aware of). My one serious relationship ended because I was a god damn idiot, which I'm eternally grateful for- means I'm a better person now.

What happened, did she pop?

 

[blackout]

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Anyone else have similar experiences or anything to share?

I have never been in a relationship in my whole life.

 

[Darkside55]

I have never been in a relationship in my whole life

Location: Atlantis

You're not fooling anyone, Namor.

 

[Pesmerga]

Why am I not surprised.

 

[blackout]

namor lol.

seriously though I have never had a girlfriend, sadly.

 

[<RJMC>]

you took advantage of that right?:naughty:

girl: oh I am sad,so sad

you: dont worry,I am here to comfort you,to help you feel fine*start taking clothes of girl off*

 

[ajezard]

namor lol.

I have never had a girlfriend

heh, me too!

 

[Nitre]

heh, me too!

Let's make a club!

 

[Geogaddi]

People can only take advantage of you if you let them.

That is absolutely true. I'm not a doormat, but she learned how to manipulate me. Lesson learned the hard way.

you took advantage of that right?:naughty:

girl: oh I am sad,so sad

you: dont worry,I am here to comfort you,to help you feel fine*start taking clothes of girl off*

Yes.

 

[Cpt Tenacious]

That is absolutely true. I'm not a doormat, but she learned how to manipulate me

You're also an idiot if someone can manipulate you.

 

[Sheepo]

You don't have to be an idiot to be manipulated.

 

[nipples]

You don't have to be an idiot to be manipulated.

This.

You should have broken up with her when she started manipulating you tbh.

 

[Cornerstone]

You don't have to be an idiot to be manipulated.

No the idiot part is when you go to the internet for reassurance.

 

[nofreeman]

who wants to have a girlfriend when you got Righty and lefty

 

[Ennui]

It's cool, no matter how awesome she was, she's clearly crazy as a drug-addled vampire bat. Forget her and move on in the search for that elusive female who is both awesome and not crazy.

 

[Kula Meenur]

Check your DSM IV. If she satisfies five of the nine criterea then you've got a correct diagnosis.

Make sure it's a correct diagnosis, don't force past occurences or memories of the person to shape the criterea and your diagnosis.

1. frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or
self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

2. a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating
between extremes of idealization and devaluation

3. identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self

4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex,
substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating
behavior covered in Criterion 5.

5. recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior

6. affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria,
irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)

7. chronic feelings of emptiness

8. inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper,
constant anger, recurrent physical fights)

9. transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

DSM-IV Psychological Handbook




Personally i stay clear of people like that. ****ing frustrating people to associate with.