Quick moral(sp?) question..

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Morals...Morales...hmm, both look wrong.

Do you think what was done was a wrong and horrible thing do have been done?

Say Boy and Girl *B and G* were going to date, but due to circumstances (G moving to a different city an hour away*. G told B that she thought they should stay friends for the time being, until her life calmed down...

Well, in the mean time, B had sex with some girl. G got mad, said he cheated on her.

Hmm?
 
Wow that was hard to read >< lol

But no. Not bad.
(Unless you knew she didn't want you to and you agread/implied that you wouldn't)
 
Ok, so I'm not alone in thinking that. We aren't speaking anymore because of it.

We were arguing about it over the phone, and why she didn't want to date me. She said that wast he reason. Then she said, and I quote..

"Ohhhh, you're just one of those guys that needs to be hit in the head with a hammer and..." Then I hung up on her, and havn't talked to her since.

I miss her alot, because I think I loved her. D:
 
Don't have sex until you're married and long term relationships are near impossible to keep.
 
CyberPitz said:
Ok, so I'm not alone in thinking that. We aren't speaking anymore because of it.

We were arguing about it over the phone, and why she didn't want to date me. She said that wast he reason. Then she said, and I quote..

"Ohhhh, you're just one of those guys that needs to be hit in the head with a hammer and..." Then I hung up on her, and havn't talked to her since.

I miss her alot, because I think I loved her. D:
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Buy her a wok and a handful of scented pine cones.
 
CyberPitz said:
I miss her alot, because I think I loved her. D:
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If you loved her, you probably wouldn't have slept with another girl while she was still on the scene (a 1 hour drive is still on the scene, it's just a long scene :p)
 
Murray_H said:
If you loved her, you probably wouldn't have slept with another girl while she was still on the scene (a 1 hour drive is still on the scene, it's just a long scene :p)
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The man has a good point

As much as I don;t care about having sex before marriage, I am a bit of a romantic, so I say what you did was wrong if you truly have feelings for the girl. You could possibly make up for it, but it'll never be the same.
 
Icarusintel said:
The man has a good point

As much as I don;t care about having sex before marriage, I am a bit of a romantic, so I say what you did was wrong if you truly have feelings for the girl. You could possibly make up for it, but it'll never be the same.
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At the time I took it as a "no, I don't want to date you" because I've had girls tell me that before.."I want my life to calm down first" But then nothing ever came of it. When I learend she actually DID want to date me, I told her.
 
She broke up with you by saying "we'll stay friends for the time being", so if you had sex with the other girl AFTER she said that, then technically it's not cheating.
 
Wait, girls will date you after they say that? Oh shiz...
 
Dog-- said:
She broke up with you by saying "we'll stay friends for the time being", so if you had sex with the other girl AFTER she said that, then technically it's not cheating.
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Well we never dated. We were planning on it in a way. Like we'd hold hands, such. But then she said that. So we never had the title.
 
CyberPitz said:
At the time I took it as a "no, I don't want to date you" because I've had girls tell me that before.."I want my life to calm down first" But then nothing ever came of it. When I learend she actually DID want to date me, I told her.
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Ah, well, the point is whether or not you actually had feelings for her at the time. I mean, if you have feelings for someone I personally think they need to be pursued with all the effort you can give.

I understand better, and obviously it wasn;t really cheating, but at the same time, I would never have done it.
 
Icarusintel said:
Ah, well, the point is whether or not you actually had feelings for her at the time. I mean, if you have feelings for someone I personally think they need to be pursued with all the effort you can give.

I understand better, and obviously it wasn;t really cheating, but at the same time, I would never have done it.
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Agreed. But mostly because I can't get laid...
 
Icarusintel said:
Ah, well, the point is whether or not you actually had feelings for her at the time. I mean, if you have feelings for someone I personally think they need to be pursued with all the effort you can give.

I understand better, and obviously it wasn;t really cheating, but at the same time, I would never have done it.
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I've got a bad habbit of pursuing girls I think I like, and they just explode in my face. So I thought to myself, "Hey, I'm not gonna have this happen to me THIS time!"

But yeah, look how that ended up. Every time.
 
Icarusintel said:
I understand better, and obviously it wasn;t really cheating, but at the same time, I would never have done it.
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Pretty much sums up the whole thread.

I mean, what you did wasn't really wrong or immoral, when someone says they need time its usually they are trying to dump you nicely or they really don't know if they like you or not. Which, I take as a dump either way. I want a girl who knows that she likes me, not one that has to think about it for a while and put me on hold.

If its love though, I guess being the romantic sap that I am I would probably stay on hold for a while. Because I am a fool.

On the other hand, maybe she isn't the type of girl to sleep around and the fact that you do sleep around turns her off from you and perhaps in some way offended her. Of course, I don't know the girl so I'm just guessing.
 
Cooper said:
Pretty much sums up the whole thread.

I mean, what you did wasn't really wrong or immoral, when someone says they need time its usually they are trying to dump you nicely or they really don't know if they like you or not. Which, I take as a dump either way. I want a girl who knows that she likes me, not one that has to think about it for a while and put me on hold.

If its love though, I guess being the romantic sap that I am I would probably stay on hold for a while. Because I am a fool.

On the other hand, maybe she isn't the type of girl to sleep around and the fact that you do sleep around turns her off from you and perhaps in some way offended her. Of course, I don't know the girl so I'm just guessing.
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She's cheated on her boyfriend a while back. When we first met, I took her home, and she was just basically asking me for advice. She didn't know what to do. I told her she needed to tell him.
 
It's funny because this type of situation probably happened over 500 million times in the history of man.

Kinda sounds like you're living as a drone.. slave to your own desires... since you worry about this kind of thing so much. But keep at it, since you can't think of anything better to do.
 
CyberPitz said:
She's cheated on her boyfriend a while back. When we first met, I took her home, and she was just basically asking me for advice. She didn't know what to do. I told her she needed to tell him.
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Wow, well I was off then. Your call Cyber, but to be honest man, could you really date someone who you know has cheated before? Granted, once a cheater doesn't necessarily mean always a cheater. But I don't think I would do it.
 
Cooper said:
Wow, well I was off then. Your call Cyber, but to be honest man, could you really date someone who you know has cheated before? Granted, once a cheater doesn't necessarily mean always a cheater. But I don't think I would do it.
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Yeah, it made me unsettled, and I'm one of those kinds of guys that doesn't get jealous..but gets depressed because I'm sure she's doing it..even though the better part of me says she isn't.

I'm a weird weird man.
 
I can't tell between the technicalities, but you really shouldn't be sleeping around like that anyway.
 
It could have worked out with her an hour away... My girlfriend is 1 hour and 20 minutes away by train... (1 hour by car), and it works out perfectly fine :) Sure you wouldn't have been able to see her every day, but it makes you value the time you Do spend together.
 
TheDan said:
It could have worked out with her an hour away... My girlfriend is 1 hour and 20 minutes away by train... (1 hour by car), and it works out perfectly fine :) Sure you wouldn't have been able to see her every day, but it makes you value the time you Do spend together.
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Every time I've tried shorter distances, it's not worked. Hell, 20 minutes didn't work...women, *sigh*
 
Murray_H said:
If you loved her, you probably wouldn't have slept with another girl while she was still on the scene (a 1 hour drive is still on the scene, it's just a long scene :p)
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1hr may not be "off the scene" per se (although I myself have considered a similar journey time as "off the scene" but that's another story) but she did give the unbelievably indefinite, vague answer that she just wanted to stay friends and, even if he loves her, he shouldn't feel that he has to stand about carrying a torch, when it may never come to anything.
You move on.
 
Good grief, the romance board is back.

Well, I think that you should probably, at the very least, attempt to talk to her again. Get her back into your life. At the very least as a friend...
 
el Chi said:
1hr may not be "off the scene" per se (although I myself have considered a similar journey time as "off the scene" but that's another story) but she did give the unbelievably indefinite, vague answer that she just wanted to stay friends and, even if he loves her, he shouldn't feel that he has to stand about carrying a torch, when it may never come to anything.
You move on.
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Agree't
 
Ha! She would never have gone out with you. But as soon as she finds out that other people want you, and you aren't her exclusive putty doll guy that likes her but shes not interested but likes the attention thing (!) - NOW, she want's you. Oldest story in the book. You should have tapped her best mate too! Boo Hoo for her! Fight the good fight. She should wallow in her own self made pity.
 
Shasta said:
Ha! She would never have gone out with you. But as soon as she finds out that other people want you, and you aren't her exclusive putty doll guy that likes her but shes not interested but likes the attention thing (!) - NOW, she want's you. Oldest story in the book. You should have tapped her best mate too! Boo Hoo for her! Fight the good fight. She should wallow in her own self made pity.
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That kinda made the cring..her friend is hideous. D:
 
CyberPitz said:
Morals...Morales...hmm, both look wrong.

Do you think what was done was a wrong and horrible thing do have been done?

Say Boy and Girl *B and G* were going to date, but due to circumstances (G moving to a different city an hour away*. G told B that she thought they should stay friends for the time being, until her life calmed down...

Well, in the mean time, B had sex with some girl. G got mad, said he cheated on her.

Hmm?
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no cheating as there was no commitment
 
CptStern said:
no cheating as there was no commitment
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That's really all I needed...the whole "if you loved her you shouldn't have done it" was like..yeah...meh

But yeah, that's what I've been telling myself..I didn't do anything truely wrong. If she wanted to keep me, she shoulda took me, her loss. amIrite?
 
Is this woman Ikerous, by any chance?
Or did you randomly bang Ikerous and felt guilty because of this woman?

-Angry Lawyer
 
Angry Lawyer said:
Is this woman Ikerous, by any chance?
Or did you randomly bang Ikerous and felt guilty because of this woman?

-Angry Lawyer
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I'm really not at liberty to say...

*shifty eyes*
 
CyberPitz said:
That's really all I needed...the whole "if you loved her you shouldn't have done it" was like..yeah...meh

But yeah, that's what I've been telling myself..I didn't do anything truely wrong. If she wanted to keep me, she shoulda took me, her loss. amIrite?
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yes you are ..in fact she only changed her tune on the commitment issue after you were with someone else
 
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