Well then. I found out my dad has terminal cancer.

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He got some blood tests taken a couple days ago, went in for a CAT-scan yesterday, and today the doctors told him he's got terminal intestinal cancer, and they figure he's got four to twelve months left to live. It's not a painful cancer, though, so at least he won't be in a steadily-increasing amount of pain throughout this.

So yeah... Not exactly the best news I could hope to get a day after my birthday. So if I'm moody at all during the next little while, or if I seem to be looking for a fight... Well, this would probably be why.

I think I'm taking it fairly well so far. It hasn't sunk in completely yet, so I'm just trying to brace myself for that, and I figure it'll be easier if I don't keep it a secret from everyone. So its not like "Hey, sweet new bike Nick, my dad died yesterday, how was your weekend?"

Right now, I'm just worried about how the rest of my family is going to take it. My mom knows, and my dad just wants me to be strong for everyone. But my brothers and sister... My brothers are 16 and 13, and my sister is only 12, and I can't imagine how badly this is going to affect them.

I'm not a huge fan of commercialized holidays, but I hope he's still around for Christmas :(

Just thought I'd let people know. No sense in keeping this a secret.
 
damn, sorry to hear that, my condolences to you and your family. You know you can always come here for support in your darkest of times. PM me if you need to talk to someone
 
That sucks. But I'm sure he'll pwn that cancer, Terminal is nothing more than a crappy font.
 
I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I feel for you and your family. I can't imagine what it's like to go through something like that. My friend lost his mother to pancreatic cancer so I guess I have a sense of how difficult it can be, but nobody knows for sure until it happens to them. I wish you and your family the best of luck in these downtrodden times. Hopefully yourself and your family will come through this stronger than ever.
 
I don't think anything anyone can say will help, but all I can say is that I hope you and your family get through this as best they can. I think the fact that you want to talk about it is a good thing, and having the company of others to listen to you will probably help you a lot. I want to say more, but I don't think there's really anything I could say, besides cliches
 
Not sure what to say other than I'm sorry for you and your family... I've lost a few family members through cancer but none that close.:(
 
Shit, damn that must suck :( My grandmother died of bone cancer 5 years ago, so I can somewhat understand what you're going through.
 
Sorry to hear that mate.

Wishing you and your family the best.

Never quite know what to say.
 
Really sorry to hear this.. I get really sad when I hear about things like these. I hope you can pull through ;( I hope you can do what your dad says, be strong for everyone. It's important.
 
I'm so sorry. I can't even to begin to imagine what it feels like.
 
Thanks, everyone. Believe it or not, these replies do help, at least a little. It shows that people care, and that some people have gone through the same thing, and understand what's I'm going through.

xLostx: Hahaha, thanks. Jokes are always appreciated, they ease the pain a bit :)

[edit] Hazar, is that site for real? I've heard about natural cures to cancers and STDs and the like, didn't know they actually existed.
 
Hazar said:
cancer is curable, go to www.naturalcures.com
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I don't mean to offend, but this guy was in prison for conning people. He's a fraud. I saw something on 60 minutes or something
BUT, that's not to say that some people don't believe in natural cures. Look into herbal remedies and stuff, it couldn't hurt
 
Wish I could say something here that could help you, and not just some "I'm sorry to hear that" crack. ;(

Stigmata said:
my dad just wants me to be strong for everyone..
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I think it would be best to honour your Fathers request, if thats what he wants.
 
no, that's propaganda put out by the FDA, FTC and others to try to make you think they're false. However, just think about it, if no one was sick, would the FDA make any money? Would the people who make all the drugs make any money? What incentive do they have to 'cure' you of your disease?

none.
 
Stigmata said:
[edit] Hazar, is that site for real? I've heard about natural cures to cancers and STDs and the like, didn't know they actually existed.
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Don't get your hopes up, I have seen him reported on television and he is basically a scam artist by the sounds of it.

Anyway I am friends with a girl who over the summer was a runner-up for Miss Canada. Before exams started last year her mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Its safe to say though that despite all that she is still going strong. I mean she was a miss Canada runner up after that for crying out loud.

Like many will tell you, just stay strong.

Hazar said:
no, that's propaganda put out by the FDA, FTC and others to try to make you think they're false. However, just think about it, if no one was sick, would the FDA make any money? Would the people who make all the drugs make any money? What incentive do they have to 'cure' you of your disease?

none.
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I would call what he says propaganda, after all if the FDA and others did discover a cure for cancer he would also not be making any money through scamming people now would he? On top of that with the incredible number of independant labortories and scientists all working toward the same goal there is no way in hell a cure could have been discovered and kept quiet.
 
Sorry to hear that, I hope you, your dad and your family will get through everything with the least amount of pain possible.

It's always painful losing loved ones.
 
my dad died of cancer too, only i was 8 years old. its hard but it gets better as things always do. good luck.
 
I wish you and all your relatives the best. My meter had cancer, and she died three months ago so I know how you must feel now.

Just hang in there, and try to be strong for your brothers and sister. They need you now.
 
Thanks again, everyone. It's starting to really sink in right now... It's tough, but I'm sure I'll be okay.
 
God damn.. I'm sorry... You and your family will get through this, and you can't give in.Is there any way to help him fight it? I know how you must feel, I lost my grandfather a few weeks after Christmas, and he only got to see my sister, who was born at that same time twice before he died.

And remember you have people who care about you and your father and family here. Good luck. And spend as much time with him as you can.
 
Ennui said:
:(

I'm sorry ;(
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Empathy through emoticons? But yes, sorry man. That really is quite horrible. My grandfather is going the same way and... it's complex. I want to see him, but when it comes to that time, I dread it.
 
I'm sorry to hear that, I think I have a small idea what you might feel like, I remember I felt like shit, I didn't want to do anything or talk to anyone, but don't do that, keep talking to your family, I can assure you it helps.
 
Greatgat said:
Empathy through emoticons? But yes, sorry man. That really is quite horrible. My grandfather is going the same way and... it's complex. I want to see him, but when it comes to that time, I dread it.
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Me too. There's only so much time to see him and spend time with him, but I don't want to see him go :(

Shodan said:
I'm sorry to hear that, I think I have a small idea what you might feel like, I remember I felt like shit, I didn't want to do anything or talk to anyone, but don't do that, keep talking to your family, I can assure you it helps.
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I'll keep talking, of course. I've been bottling up my emotions and feelings for far too long, I figure this is as good a time as any to stop.
 
Wow sorry to hear that .

This just tells us that at anytime things can change in a blink of an eye , so if you aren't so close to your dad or mom do it now cause you never know whats going to happin. One day we will all be faced with some sort of challege.
 
I'm really sorry ;(

I really can't imagine what it must be like with your family and all, so really, all the luck that everything is okay with yourself and them.
 
Bad one man. Unfortunatly it's just the luck of the draw. Atleast you have time to say goodbye to your Dad unlike many others. ;(
 
yeah Hazar... I have that book, very interesting read. And I do belive there are natural cures for just about everything but the FDA and FTC covers them up so they can keep selling these drugs and make more money.

My Dad died of Colon cancer when I was 4, so I can feel for you man :( , I was only 4 and don't remeber him very much, only little memories. I can imagine its got to be alot harder for you.... BTW how old are you?

I'm very sorry to hear that man.
 
I just turned 18 yesterday. As you can probably imagine, this is quite the aftershock.

riomhaire: Yeah, I'm thankful for that. I think it must be many times worse for people who lose one of their parents in one sudden instant :(
 
Stigmata said:
He got some blood tests taken a couple days ago, went in for a CAT-scan yesterday, and today the doctors told him he's got terminal intestinal cancer, and they figure he's got four to twelve months left to live. It's not a painful cancer, though, so at least he won't be in a steadily-increasing amount of pain throughout this.

So yeah... Not exactly the best news I could hope to get a day after my birthday. So if I'm moody at all during the next little while, or if I seem to be looking for a fight... Well, this would probably be why.

I think I'm taking it fairly well so far. It hasn't sunk in completely yet, so I'm just trying to brace myself for that, and I figure it'll be easier if I don't keep it a secret from everyone. So its not like "Hey, sweet new bike Nick, my dad died yesterday, how was your weekend?"

Right now, I'm just worried about how the rest of my family is going to take it. My mom knows, and my dad just wants me to be strong for everyone. But my brothers and sister... My brothers are 16 and 13, and my sister is only 12, and I can't imagine how badly this is going to affect them.

I'm not a huge fan of commercialized holidays, but I hope he's still around for Christmas :(

Just thought I'd let people know. No sense in keeping this a secret.
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Im sorry to hear that.
Both my grand parents died a few years ago so i have somewhat of an idea of what your going through,its always the old people that go first.. :( .If your lucky you will get over it in 30 yrs, But Hey!
I have good News! I just saved a lot of money on my car insurance by switching to Gecko.
 
Sorry to hear that man, my condolences, i'm glad you have talked about it, i find it easier to handle bad news talking to people locking it away can be even more painful.

As other people have mentioned there are some natural cures for most illnesses, one of the best "cure alls" is a very healthy diet, make sure your dad has they very best food, even if it wasn't possible for a resolution of the cancer it would give you a lot more time with him.
If you need any help with healthy diets etc please pm me, i am very willing to help, i have studied it for several years now.
Several years ago i was extremely ill from an unknown illness, a good diet saw me recover extremely quickly, carrying on the health routine i have ended up like i am now :)

My thoughts are with you.
 
I'm sorry man, never been in this sort of situation myself. Must be absolutely terrible once it sinks in.

Make sure you ask him anything you need to or want to know now, or you might regret that later.
 
make sure you tell your father you love him. i tell my father i love him every time i talk to him on the phone. you're father knows this, but it's always good to tell him out loud. and cherish all the time you have left with him. I'm really sorry about your young family receiving this news. I know that someday I will have to give news like this to families and it must be very difficult to do. (i'm currently in my first year in medical school).
 
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