Whoever said ..

[ComradeBadger]

.. that my actions would hurt someone soon, was right (I think it was Hazar)

One of my very good female friends here at uni was crying her eyes out last night, once one of my friends casually dropped that I'd been sleeping with someone regularly.. she was crying and telling me she was sorry for not being good enough.. and how she wanted to be with me :|

Gah.. I feel terrible, I really really do. I need to go talk to her really..

**** ;(

 

[Sulkdodds]

;( D:

 

[Sparta]

Usually i'd feign sympathy, but you seem to be a genuinely cool guy. So i'm serious when i use the following emoticon

Why aren't you talking to her now though?

 

[Solaris]

Ah poor comrade badger has too many girls to f**k.

:hmph:

 

[$kelet0r]

One of my very good female friends here at uni was crying her eyes out last night, once one of my friends casually dropped that I'd been sleeping with someone regularly.. she was crying and telling me she was sorry for not being good enough.. and how she wanted to be with me

awkward
best thing to do is find out where you stand
if she loves you and you haven't taken the hint to date or just see her as a friend as one of my own friends has done with his best friend(who's a girl), then talking about it won't fix anything unless you want to commit or break it off into an awkward frinedship...

 

[Skaadi]

This disturbs me

 

[Parrot of doom]

3-some tbh.

 

[Reaktor4]

 

[kirovman]

Hmm, this kind of thing does seem inevitable to happen unfortunately.

Best thing for it, I think, would be to talk to her, reassure her that it's nothing about how good she was or whatever.

What kind you relationship do you want with her though? Just friends? I think if you explain it that way, that you want to be friends she will get over it fine. Not to be harsh to her or anything, but I would be a bit wary of her if she was in tears like that. I wouldn't let her know that I was wary though.

It really depends on the specifics of your situation though. My advice probably isn't that meaningful tbh Most important thing is, don't get pushed into something you don't want to (like a shotgun marriage :E)

Best of luck, and I hope everything works out ok.

 

[burnzie]

<3Badger<3 ;(


msn brother!

 

[Absinthe]

I feel like some sympathy should be in order, but I can't conjure anything. Saw something like this miles away. I think Solaris summed it up perfectly.

Even so, I don't understand why anybody here should feel bad about this. Badger's screwing somebody and a person got jealous/sad. Where's the shame? Where's the fault?

 

[15357]

I feel like some sympathy should be in order, but I can't conjure anything. Saw something like this miles away.

Even so, I don't understand why anybody here should feel bad about this. Badger's screwing somebody and a person got jealous/sad. Where's the shame? Where's the fault?

Yes. Me too.

Except that Badgers apparently a

manwhore

Ok, ok.

 

[Icarusintel]

I don;t have anyone to screw or who really cares about me right now, so my sympathy capabilities are a bit retarded

 

[CrazyHarij]

Doesn't look like it really was your fault if you were just in a casual friend relationship with this girl who seems to fancy you alot, but it seems like you're up for alot of guilt feelings having to explain all of this to her..

 

[CptStern]

.. that my actions would hurt someone soon, was right (I think it was Hazar)

One of my very good female friends here at uni was crying her eyes out last night, once one of my friends casually dropped that I'd been sleeping with someone regularly.. she was crying and telling me she was sorry for not being good enough.. and how she wanted to be with me :|

Gah.. I feel terrible, I really really do. I need to go talk to her really..

**** ;(

well ...unless she's your girlfriend and you have some sort of commitment you have no reason to feel bad ...sure feel bad for her because she's hurt, but you cant stop seeing people because it might hurt her. You have to be brutally honest with her, tell her that you'd rather remain friends and that nothing will ever come of it

 

[ComradeBadger]

Well see it's a bit harder cos we slept together (the female friend) a few weeks back, but both agreed that we would stay friends.

However, I really like this girl I'm currently seeing - so I'mma explain to my friend that she wasn't just a 1 night stand, she means more to me than that a mutual friend thinks I'm a bastard.. cos I supposedly raised her hopes.

It's a bit complex ;(

But she was fine with me today - I'm sure it'll be fine

 

[Cormeh]

Was there alcohol involved last night?

Can be a catalyst for this stuff.

 

[CptStern]

Well see it's a bit harder cos we slept together (the female friend) a few weeks back, but both agreed that we would stay friends.

tsk tsk, you broke rule #1 in Stern's handbook-o-love ...never ever sleep with a friend ..especially if that person has stronger feelings than you do

ok you screwed up, time for damage control ..ok you've reassured her that it wasnt just a one night stand (which it was, and HAS to be because she has feelings for you and unless you're willing to reciprocate those feelings you're better off that way) but now you have to convince her that while it was fun your friendship means more to you than sex

However, I really like this girl I'm currently seeing - so I'mma explain to my friend that she wasn't just a 1 night stand, she means more to me than that a mutual friend thinks I'm a bastard.. cos I supposedly raised her hopes.

your friends need to shut up, they have no business in this, they should all wait till it's cleared and even then they should trust that you'll do the right thing

It's a bit complex ;(

But she was fine with me today - I'm sure it'll be fine

heheh oh boy, oh boy, oh boy, she's not fine and she wont be for a long time ...dont let her get bitter

 

[ComradeBadger]

Damage control wise, I think I've got it

Yeah, I know she's not fine on the inside, and I don't want her to be bitter.. we'll talk properly about it Thursday..

[and yes alcohol was involved, she was drunk as all hell, that's why it's exaggerated]

 

[$kelet0r]

dont let this put you off your stride - this happens all the time :naughty:


anyway don't be ambiguous when you talk to her - lay it out there
then revert back to the old routine of flirting/laughing which was probably the order of the day before things went pear-shaped

 

[Absinthe]

Well see it's a bit harder cos we slept together (the female friend) a few weeks back, but both agreed that we would stay friends.

Wow. Who didn't see this coming.

 

[JellyWorld]

You don't know how many people would love to have the problems you're facing now, ie

Ah poor comrade badger has too many girls to f**k.

 

[Cormeh]

You don't know how many people would love to have the problems you're facing now

Your just thinking about sex and nothing else.

It's all fine and well until people get hurt. (Which they subsequently do).

You really don't want these kind of problems, not where friends are concerned.

 

[Hectic Glenn]

Previous comment you said

Its uni, no one cares! Its fine

Hazar may have said something, but i did too! Silly Halz, can't play 3 girls at once, although that would be cool. *me goes back to college*

 

[Nat Turner]

I don't really see a problem here. Badger is able to do what he wants, and he knows the consequences. *shrug* There was not any injustice here.

 

[The Brick]

I'm probably ill in my head, but I'm kinda jealous :| ... in some way

 

[Dr. Freeman]

I'm probably ill in my head, but I'm kinda jealous :| ... in some way

u and the rest of the people on site
not trying to take sides here but damn it must suck to be a mutual friend in this kinda situation.

 

[Pi Mu Rho]

Badger:

You are such a slag.

 

[DiSTuRbEd]

Well see it's a bit harder cos we slept together (the female friend) a few weeks back, but both agreed that we would stay friends.

Sleep with her again to shut her up.

 

[Steve]

Well, hey CB. Feeling bad for her is fine, but understand that you're under no obligation to make anyone else happy. If she didn't understand the nature of ya'll's relationship, she really has no one to blame but herself.

Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is, don't be too hard on yourself.

 

[Boogymanx]

Wow. Who didn't see this coming.

* Boogymanx raises hand.

 

[Gui!]

Yer dont be hard on yourself dude

These situations suck but you're not in the wrong, many things happen under the influence of alcohol

Did she ever mention of liking you alot before? How long has she kept it to herself and i think shes intelligent enough to realise that you have a life aswell which means you can see other people.

I have a friend that is in love with my other mate but she cant have him because he doesnt feel for her in that way. Its alot like your situation and after a few weeks after long talks too eachother they were fine. He was inh your situation of feeling guilty and sad because he couldnt give her what she wanted. And he felt bad as he was after someone himself. It was hard for them both at first but she soon started to feel alot happier after they both carried on being freinds.

The advise of either being with her or not having anything to do with her is bulllshit...the best thing you can do is keep talking to her and be her freind. She will be happier that you still want to be there for her as a freind. And your freinds have to console both you and her. There is no side to take becuase it was not your fault that she likes you in this way and that you were just livin your life like anyother guy...and its not hers becuase people cannot help the way they feel about others.

Just give it time and keep on being her freind, im sure it will all play out and work out fine.

 

[xLostx]

turn off the penis hax.

 

[Que-Ever]

Yer dont be hard on yourself dude

These situations suck but you're not in the wrong, many things happen under the influence of alcohol

jeez, make it sound like rape :|

I think the chick just needs to get over it, fact is, sometimes you're gonna like people and they aren't gonna like you back. it doesn't help that comrade really gave her one, though *thrusts fist*

 

[Angry Lawyer]

Sleep with her again to shut her up.

It's what I tend to do. But then again, most of my relationships don't last more than a night. Damn having a crap personality.

You better save some love for me, Badger, when we go drinking together!

-Angry Lawyer

 

[ComradeBadger]

Can't wait Tony

 

[Angry Lawyer]

Damn straight Harry

-Angry Lawyer

 

[CptStern]

harry meet tony, tony meet harry

 

[DiSTuRbEd]

harry meet tony, tony meet harry

You never came and got that beer from me last night

I cried. ;(

 

[CptStern]

I was too busy attending to all the casualties that came to my door; children with runny noises, a freaked out dog waiting to chew the first halloweener within reach and a 2 year old with enough sugar in him to run a marathon ..maybe next year