"But I really want us to be friends "

[Toffee]

When a girl says "Lets be friends" it's like saying

"I don't just want you to mourn the loss; I want to remind you of it every day. I want you to suffer. I want you to envy. I want you to die slowly, a little bit at a time. And I want you to smile and thank me for it."

I admit that I said once to a guy that I want us just to be friends,and that it isnt working so he probably thought just like that on the above. Actually I meant that I really wanted to be just a friend!
But I was friends with him before and now it seems like he doesnt want to have anything to do with me, and cant even say hello, though we were great friends before
I learned that I never should start dating with a good friend, its just going to ruin the friendship..

Really if I want to get rid of some boyfriend I would never say" I just want to be friends"
But when I ended with my last boyfriend, HE said "Lets just be friends"!!! I rather not see him anymore..

 

[Ennui]

Kind of hard to be friends with an ex, I've pulled it off but it was awkward for quite a while beforehand.

 

[Mr.Reak]

I admit that I said once to a guy that I want us just to be friends,and that it isnt working so he probably thought just like that on the above. Actually I meant that I really wanted to be just a friend!
But I was friends with him before and now it seems like he doesnt want to have anything to do with me, and cant even say hello, though we were great friends before
I learned that I never should start dating with a good friend, its just going to ruin the friendship..

Really if I want to get rid of some boyfriend I would never say" I just want to be friends"
But when I ended with my last boyfriend, HE said "Lets just be friends"!!! I rather not see him anymore..

Here is a thing and why it will never work. Jealousy is a part of human nature, men have egos, and you can’t just bring yourself that girl that once was yours is with someone else. You can make it go away though, but it requires forgetting or not seeing a person.

I experienced it hard way, I tried to be a friend with a girl. We hang out, she always brought her new boyfriend over. Of course she asked if I mind or not, I said I don’t mind. It was a lie, because oh god how did I mind, how it did hurt to see that guy’s hand going over her ass or over her shoulder. It seems he did it on purpose (of course he didn’t), I couldn’t focus on anything. After doing it two times I decided if I continue torture myself, I will be bitter for the rest of my life. I broke off

 

[Tr0n]

I admit that I said once to a guy that I want us just to be friends,and that it isnt working so he probably thought just like that on the above. Actually I meant that I really wanted to be just a friend!
But I was friends with him before and now it seems like he doesnt want to have anything to do with me, and cant even say hello, though we were great friends before
I learned that I never should start dating with a good friend, its just going to ruin the friendship..

Really if I want to get rid of some boyfriend I would never say" I just want to be friends"
But when I ended with my last boyfriend, HE said "Lets just be friends"!!! I rather not see him anymore..

Actually that happend to me...one of my ex gf's said she just wanted to be friends...and I stopped talking to her...Cause I knew it wouldn't matter anyways.At the time she was "getting" with this other guy.Also add on the fact that I'm moving to Florida soon I just decided to say bye for good...

I tried to be friends...but past memories of her and me kept poping up everytime I saw her.I just couldn't take it I guess...

 

[othello]

from the never-ending fountain of wisdom, bash.org:

A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

 

[Burn]

Bahah, yeah right, and you know what that girl will do to him? Yeah believe me she will rub him in the face every chance she gets. That’s what women like to do sometimes, drain all the emotions from men and make them bitter for the rest of the life. So don’t tell me all that crap “yeah they want just to be friends” most of the time it’s complete bullshit.

Thanks for telling me what a women is like, I had no idea [/sarcasm]

 

[Mr.Reak]

Thanks for telling me what a women is like, I had no idea [/sarcasm]

Yeah because you being a woman makes you an expert on relationships. Hey, you know what, I yet to find a single person in real life (my friends, etc.) who had successful time being “just friends” after relationship. You know what’s even more funny? For some reason only women talked about their new boyfriends non-stop. Hey I don’t say all women like that, but heck the ones I meet in real life sure like to play some kind of mind games.

 

[Burn]

The ones you know are just bitches then. I been friends with an ex for ages with no problems. But just as your friends are bitches it seems, does not mean everyone is. I never said I was an expert at anything. The reason I said what I said in my last post was cus you came along with "You know what women do" crap, like YOU are an expert!

 

[Tr0n]

Calm down people...damn...

 

[Toffee]

Bahah, yeah right, and you know what that girl will do to him? Yeah believe me she will rub him in the face every chance she gets. That’s what women like to do sometimes, drain all the emotions from men and make them bitter for the rest of the life. So don’t tell me all that crap “yeah they want just to be friends” most of the time it’s complete bullshit.

I think its sad to generalize based on one expierience like that. I dont know what the reasons could be that women would LIKE men feel that way, if the men havent done anything to HURT them..

 

[Mr.Reak]

The ones you know are just bitches then. I been friends with an ex for ages with no problems. But just as your friends are bitches it seems, does not mean everyone is. I never said I was an expert at anything. The reason I said what I said in my last post was cus you came along with "You know what women do" crap, like YOU are an expert!

I worded it wrong, I guess I should have wrote it like this “You know what women I know do”. But hey, it sure seems majority are like that, because frankly, I yet to see a different example (in real life, not over internet). You still can be friend with your ex, good for you.

Toffee, I guess the same way some women generalize men that we only think with our penises.

 

[Adrien C]

In a way woman like to be in control. Specially over their man, he, its the only way they can controll us...

 

[Platinum]

Yeah dude....

This has happened to me before ... We havent talked since ...

However, my ex girlfriend is one of my best friends ...

If I were you ... Just gather your strenght and move on ... It sucks but it helps once you do ... you feel VENGEFUL

 

[Steve]

Here is a thing and why it will never work. Jealousy is a part of human nature, men have egos, and you can’t just bring yourself that girl that once was yours is with someone else. You can make it go away though, but it requires forgetting or not seeing a person.

This is more or less true... I took this girl on a couple of dates, and she never actually "fed me the line", i just took the hints, and we're still friends now...but whenever she talks about her boyfriend i have to bite my lip to keep from saying something nasty...

 

[Fat Tony!]

Awwww, poor little Adrien does'nt just want to be friends with someone.

If someone says lets be friends, you should take it and smile. Not spit in there face. I hope whoever your talking about sees your thread and does'nt want to be friends anymore.

Clear proof that girls dont understand the emotional needs of guys and assume that the only people who can and will get emotional are girls. Im sorry but its true, I wish you girls would realise this. Then again, you can always reject the friendship adrien. There are many other girls in the world and if you liked her in the first place she could be a good friend, just get over it and realise that in the end it doesnt matter. Just give it up and forget about it, breaking up is a good lesson If you can master getting over it you better yourself. You can either cast her from your life or develop a good friendship. I suppose you could take it as an opportunity to meet new girls who happen to be her friends... i suppose?

 

[ComradeBadger]

2 weeks together, it's hardley a marriage

Sorry, but still. And girls do tend to understand the emotional needs of guys, they just may not want to go along with it.

 

[Fat Tony!]

meh yeah, I thought as much.

 

[bliink]

2 weeks together, it's hardley a marriage

exactly... why are you wasting time with this? why dont you just take it at face value instead of analysing it to death. She wants to be friends, take it or leave it but ffs theres no need to make a huge deal out of it, its not like she's the only girl in the world, and its not like you could change anything.

 

[Icarus]

Clear proof that girls dont understand the emotional needs of guys and assume that the only people who can and will get emotional are girls. Im sorry but its true, I wish you girls would realise this. Then again, you can always reject the friendship adrien. There are many other girls in the world and if you liked her in the first place she could be a good friend, just get over it and realise that in the end it doesnt matter. Just give it up and forget about it, breaking up is a good lesson If you can master getting over it you better yourself. You can either cast her from your life or develop a good friendship. I suppose you could take it as an opportunity to meet new girls who happen to be her friends... i suppose?

I don't think it's fair you generalize girls like that. Thats being plain sexist

 

[Steve]

exactly... why are you wasting time with this? why dont you just take it at face value instead of analysing it to death. She wants to be friends, take it or leave it but ffs theres no need to make a huge deal out of it, its not like she's the only girl in the world, and its not like you could change anything.

meh....yup.

 

[jaguar_987]

lol 2 weeks, please just move on. Don't cry over something that hardly existed.

 

[Tr0n]

It's not that easy to move on sometimes....I know the feeling.It can't be just "move on" then you go about your life like you didn't know the person, but again...you do have to.No matter how long it takes....There is always another door open.Just try and walk through it and don't look back.You will find another...don't worry dude. :thumbs:

 

[Fat Tony!]

I don't think it's fair you generalize girls like that. Thats being plain sexist

Ironically If you were me I would probably be saying the same thing :\ thanks for pointing it out. Ill say a lot of girls are like that then

 

[Dalamari]

You should be happy she still wants to be a friend, better than hearing "Your a douche, the restraining order is in the mail"

 

[Icarus]

Ironically If you were me I would probably be saying the same thing :\ thanks for pointing it out. Ill say a lot of girls are like that then

I wouldn't even dare to say that, I think you can say "alot of the ones I've met".

Personally I believe most girls are good hearted.

 

[Tr0n]

Everyone is good hearted...but some are more than others.

 

[Steve]

Everyone is good hearted...but some are more than others.

oh tron, it's cute how naive you are...

no, i'm playin'... i too subscribe to the belief that human beings are basically good...but there are some bad apples out there

 

[Fat Tony!]

I suppose in the end there is no real difference between girls and boys, in social structure. Girls dont understand boys, boys dont understand girls, girls have sexual urges and so do boys.

 

[Icarus]

Everyone is good hearted...but some are more than others.

I just mean that when I meet a girl, I always assume she is a good person. it's her actions after then that make me think otherwise, rather then thinking shes a bitch when I meet her and making her prove she's not.

 

[Tr0n]

oh tron, it's cute how naive you are...

no, i'm playin'... i too subscribe to the belief that human beings are basically good...but there are some bad apples out there

Yea yea...I maybe simple minded, but I sure as hell ain't stupid.

 

[Adrien C]

2 weeks together, it's hardley a marriage

Sorry, but still. And girls do tend to understand the emotional needs of guys, they just may not want to go along with it.

I wasn't really talking about me, it was more to give the example of the famous frase : I just want us to be friends


I'll move on really, just wait ti'll I get to Canada :naughty:

 

[<RJMC>]

that happen to me too

she didnt apreciate me she hates me

why?

I dont know

 

[Bad^Hat]

I don't think it's fair you generalize girls like that. Thats being plain sexist

OMG REVERSE SEXISM :O :O