Deal breakers

[watermonster]

What sort of deal breakers do you have when you, say, go on a date? Things that set off your inner alarm and cancel any potential second/third dates.

Mine would be:
1 - A heavy smoker.

2 - Someone who just can't shut up about a single topic, despite my attempts to steer conversation somewhere else.

3 - Being clingy and/or possessive.

 

[Ennui]

besides the usual (uninteresting, boring, whatever)

- bad breath
- excessive superficiality
- signs of potential clingyness, or of desire to "settle down" "commit" etc

I love girls who smoke :naughty:

 

[Hectic Glenn]

I don't, the smoke would put me right off. If she said she wasn't an animal person or took crack daily / injected heroin into the vein in her eyeball...I might not call her back.

 

[watermonster]

Oh yeah, I completely forgot about unpleasant smells. If he smells unsettling to me, he'll be out.

 

[Wanted Bob]

Wait, how can you love girls that smoke, yet find bad breath tolerable?

 

[phantomdesign]

• Smells or Bad Hygene (INCLUDING SMOKING)
• Stupidity or 1-dimensional Personality (not to be confused with silliness, I love silliness)
• Drama, Major Issues, or Depression
• Excessive clinginess

Those are the INITIAL deal-breakers.
The 3 key issues later in the relationship are . .

• Balance: A relationship must have balance, equality, etc. Things like neglect, or excessive neediness, or always expecting more than you give are a few examples.
• Respect: Disrespect manifests itself in many ways, including things like honesty, faithfulness, what you/they do while away from eachother, standing up for them, etc.
• Happiness: Even if a person is everythign you could ever dream for, if they ruin your happiness or don't make you happy, it's not worth it! Seriously F***ing run away!

 

[Tyguy]

does she swallow is important

 

[Ravioli]

Well, i wouldnt be able to be in a serious/long relationship with someone who is commited to a religion. I know it sounds a bit extreme...but i just cant have a serious relationship with someone who believes in some spooky incompetent space daddy that watches you when you take a shower.

No christian, Jewish, Islamic, or any type of religion possible...weirdos.

 

[Vegeta897]

Does not have a vagina.

 

[Stigmata]

Here are some deal-breakers:

1D personality - I'd rather not listen to a girl talk about The Hills and alcohol for six hours straight.
Ugly - I'm sorry, but I'm only human. I can't realistically have a good relationship with a girl unless I'm physically attracted to her. Sex is very important to me in a relationship.
Bad breath - Just plain gross. Makes kissing almost impossible.
Clinginess "red flags" - It's never a good sign when the word "love" pops out two hours into a date.
Too much makeup - For obvious reasons.

 

[VirusType2]

Oh, good topic.

For me, the biggest deal breakers


when a girl is disrespectful/rude to me/mean to me. I've seen girls that are nice sometimes, then suddenly they treat you like you are shit.


Someone who steals from me, or takes advantage of my kindness. I don't want to feel used either.


being a big flirt is also a big one. For example, talking about other guys and how much they like them, or talking about sex with someone else in detail, or admittedly ****ing around

being overly emotional puts me off too. It kind of scares me. Basket-case.

Being overly confident is really annoying. Ok, you look OK, but if you are that confident, you must be a whore with lots of dicks in you to make you feel that you are so great.


Bad smells, especially from the mouth, armpit, or crotch areas. (what else is there I guess) LOL.


Not knowing how to work with what they've got, for example, someone with a bad smile that smiles all the time, or someone who has a undesirable feature, yet doesn't dress it up, or flaunts it or something. for example, i've seen really thin attractive girls, but they have flabby arms or something, yet they wear sleeveless shirts.


Short hair usually turns me off, but that also closely relates to the next one:

Any indication that she might be a dyke.

someone who smokes cigarettes like a crack fiend, or gets crazy about having a cigarette, especially someone who just picked up the habit recently. You can't possibly be that addicted. Sometimes, I'm convinced they aren't even addicted yet. It's like they just want to be cool. What a turn off.



I think that is about it.

 

[Raziaar]

 

[Vegeta897]

Razi, there's something I have to tell you.

I, I don't really know how to say this, so I'm just going to say it. I'm really HotGamerChick69, but I still hope you feel the same way about me!

 

[Raziaar]

You could never speak so eloquently!

 

[Vegeta897]

I still like calling you Razi.

 

[el Chi]

I love girls who smoke :naughty:

Moi aussi. Not least because it means I can steal a cigarette off them and enjoy a cheeky free smoke. That's the best kind of smoke.
Oh wait, were you talking about drugs? Oh Ennui, always with the drugs.

- Trying too hard to impress is thoroughly unattractive. At the same time, playing yourself down is also unattractive.
- Not liking a drink or four. It'd make me feel ashamed and uncomfortable.
- Having friends who are more interesting than she is.
- Being racist/uncomfortably right-wing ("What are you talking about? Nick Griffin's great!" D: )

 

[_Z_Ryuken]

There is only one criteria for me if I find the girl physically attractive. She needs to just let me do whatever the hell I want (far as myself and my own personal business goes) and not question it. If she can do that, she's a keeper.
Ofcourse, if she's IN to my quirks and things, so much better. I also LOVE clingyness, probably because I can be clingy.
Pretty much I just hate when people ask WHY I do things. If you can't figure out that it's just the person I am then get out of my face.

 

[AKIRA]

if a girl doesn't get or like my sense of humor. Hanging around hl2.net and watching shows like King of the Hill and Family Guy, has really changed my sense of humor. It's weirder, darker and more random and if they don't like that, they can gtfo

she's gotta be attractive, i actually find it sexy when a hot girl smokes..just the way it looks is hot lol, but i'll try and make it like a task for me to make her stop smoking later on.

 

[VirusType2]

I also LOVE clingyness, probably because I can be clingy.

Yeah same here. I like a girl that is clingy and calls me all the time, and thinks about me. As long as it's not annoying and bothersome.

As long as it doesn't go too far, because that is stalking, and that is a deal breaker.

Plus, if she is too crazy about me, it worries me. For example, I'll think she is out for revenge just because I didn't call her or something. And by revenge I mean cheap one night stands with other guys just to 'get me back'.


Another thing - not really a deal breaker but quite troubling, is when girls admit they don't want to live much longer. For example, while smoking, and/or they say they don't want to be old.

I don't want to be 45 years old and my wife dies and leaves me alone for 50 some years (if I live that long)

 

[Raziaar]

I don't want to be 45 years old and my wife dies and leaves me alone for 50 some years (if I live that long)

Don't worry, I'm fairly sure she'll take you with her.

 

[CrazyHarij]

desperation, stupidity, crappy music taste, also christian

 

[Krynn72]

Does not have a vagina.

What if it were linetrap? I'd go gay for linetrap.

 

[taviow]

Does not have a vagina.

Razi, there's something I have to tell you.

I, I don't really know how to say this, so I'm just going to say it. I'm really HotGamerChick69

Razi, there's something I have to tell you.

I'm really HotGamerChick69

Does not have a vagina.

Razi, there's something I have to tell you.

I'm really HotGamerChick69

Does not have a vagina.

Omg Razi has a vagina!

 

[Wanted Bob]

Lmao Taviow Loophole!

 

[Vegeta897]

wat .

 

[Dan]

Once I was out with an cute Asian girl and almost about to go home with her when I realized that she had that thin bit of facial hair that South Asian/Indian girls sometimes have. I made a weak excuse and caught a bus.

 

[Stigmata]

Once I was out with an cute Asian girl and almost about to go home with her when I realized that she had that thin bit of facial hair that South Asian/Indian girls sometimes have. I made a weak excuse and caught a bus.

Weak sauce. I could deal with it.

 

[VirusType2]

Weak sauce. I could deal with it.

srsly. just ask her if you can shave her vagina, and just go ahead and give her the full monty.

Now, save those hairs and glue them to your upper lip.

Now you are a man.



As long as she doesn't look like this because this could be high maintenance:

http://www.worth1000.com/entries/186000/186366bHJG_w.jpg

 

[Sulkdodds]

If she is boring, stupid or unreasonable.

I think that about covers it.

 

[Beerdude26]

1) Needs to be intelligent. 1D personalities I won't even ****ing touch with a fifty-foot pole.
2) Needs to be natural. Girls with fifty pounds of makeup can gtfo.
3) Needs to be relaxed. My previous gf was incredibly tense during any sexual things we did. There's nothing that kills the moment more than her suddenly freaking out :|
4) I should be able to talk to her. Again, previous gf was as interesting as a mule.
Perks:
X) If she also acts the way I do; quirky and funny
X) If she thinks in the way I do; sometimes emotional, and sometimes logically/rationally. A perfect example of this would be yesterday: the one moment we were making out, the second moment we were talking about how sugar is converted to glycogen and how that effects obese people (we had read an article about it a few days ago).

Oh and unique perk for current gf: She looks so cute and geeky when she's got her glasses on.

Intelligent girls are bloody hot. <3

 

[Sulkdodds]

Manipulation and/or funny games:

thrill of the chase, or pointless aggravation?

 

[Shippi]

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[Saturos]

My last gf was cute, but the first time I went to kiss her, I was totally grossed out because she had bad breath.
Plus, she was waaay too clingy. Made me nervous. I oftened wondered that if I broke up with her if she'd try to do something ala. Fatal Attraction style. :O
If that's not enough, she wasn't a gamer to boot, nor did she really like any of my other friends, who she thought was way to obnoxious and rowdy.

Futhermore, she just couldn't stay out of other people's business. I mean, she was always getting into heat because she wanted to "help" one of her friends with their relationship. This sort of thing turns me off. I hated trying to talk her out of keeping her nose from places where it doesn't belong.
I only give my friends my honest opinion or help when they ask, but otherwise, it's just best to stay far away from other's relationships imo.

"Drama" I guess is the best word to sum my ex-gf's scenario up.
Plus, I moved away for business purposes, and we all know long distance relationships never work out anyways. :|

 

[phantomdesign]

Adding to my list . . .

• Irritability: I'm one of the happiest, stress free people within 50 miles! I don't need that shit!
• Games / Drama: About 90% of my "casual dating relationships" ended within two weeks because of games or excess drama. I don't put up with that shit!

 

[PvtRyan]

I only have 1:

- Is Cthulhu

Deal breaker right there.

 

[VirusType2]

Adding to my list . . .

• Irritability: I'm one of the happiest, stress free people within 50 miles! I don't need that shit!
• Games / Drama: About 90% of my "casual dating relationships" ended within two weeks because of games or excess drama. I don't put up with that shit!

I have yet to meet a girl that doesn't play any games.

Examples:

Purposely not call
Purposely make you jealous

etc.

If you aren't willing to put up with games, and possibly play along with them, then you might end up alone forever.

You might be better off alone or with another dude that doesn't want to play games. :cheers:

As soon as you tell a girl you don't want to play any games, she knows she's got you and can manipulate you at will.

 

[Irksome]

I have yet to meet a girl that doesn't play any games.

Examples:

Purposely not call
Purposely make you jealous

I'd have to disagree, thats something drama whores and teenyboppers do, and if that is something all women do, I'd gladly live my life alone. I have no time for that kind of self-centered, Disney Fantasy, bullshit. Either you cut to the chase and want to date me, or you **** off and play your hard to get princess shtick elsewhere.

 

[Slug Advisor]

I only have 1:

- Is Mudkips

Deal breaker right there.

Fix'd.

 

[Dan]

I cannot stand smoking in anyone, regardless of their relationship with me. If they do smoke, I will avoid them whenever they do it. The same thing goes for drugs, too. Alcohol I'm more willing to accept because pretty much everyone drinks, but ideally I still don't like people who go out and drink themselves into a stupor every other night. Things like excessive swearing, promiscuity, ditziness (even if she just acts like one). Religion scares me, but I can tolerate people who aren't insane about it.

I haven't been on a date before, but chances are I wouldn't even get near that situation if I ran into one of those warning flags.

hahaha newb

 

[PvtRyan]

Fix'd.

But I LOVE Mudkips ;(