Free Spirited Mother.

[UltimaApocalypse]

My mother recently divorced with my father, which I'm cool with because I really hate my father. So now we're living in an apartment the next town over, and everything was going fine until this week. She got her job back about a few weeks ago(she was a housemother, watching my two siblings) and she got fired from it because she didn't come in for a two days because she was "sleeping in". I warned her that she would lose her job if she continued, but she wouldn't listen. So she would go in one, maybe two days, then she would just not go. So she got fired from her job and searching for a new one. Shes also drinking now, smoking more than usual, and she sometimes brings over random people and leave the house to go out with some friends and come home around midnight or one. She never used to do this, and she's really starting to worry me. What do you think I should do?

 

[-Psy-]

Damn, that's a rather tricky situation. Maybe you can try and talk to her? Try and get her to sit down and listen to what you have to say. Ask her why she is acting weird.

 

[$kelet0r]

get her mother involved if possible - and sort it out calmly as a family
she is screwing with your life if you are still under 18 so make sure she sorts herself out
get her to start talking

 

[kaf11]

Yeah, definitely have a talk with her. Doesn't need to be a confrontation, but let her know how yo feel about everything she is doing. Let her know you're concerned. She's in a difficult transitional phase in her life and is doing those things to work through the stress. If she is able to get her life together theres a good chance that these activities will cease. Just talk to her.

 

[IonizeMyAtoms]

All you can really do is talk to her, tell her you're worried

 

[JNightshade]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned talking to her! That's what you need to do!

but seriously, that is what you need to do.

 

[Adrien C]

Man talk to her before it gets worse and worse.

 

[OvA]

Fists speak louder than words.

 

[JNightshade]

And bear semen speaks louder than fists.

 

[Dalamari]

Just ist her down and tell her what you want changed

 

[OvA]

Just ist her down and tell her what you want changed

And/or bust a jar of bear semen in her face.

 

[Kamikazie]

steal her cigs and her boose and throw them in the dumpster, wake her ass up and drive her to work (if youre not old enough, ask someone in your apartment if they could help out with a ride to and from work)

 

[Sulkdodds]

All of the above. :|

 

[UltimaApocalypse]

I already mentioned that she doesn't listen to what I say...

Shes a good mother though. I think shes just going through some really hard times

 

[Ennui]

Help her through them.

 

[OvA]

I already mentioned that she doesn't listen to what I say...

Shes a good mother though. I think shes just going through some really hard times

I'm telling you dude. Bear semen.

 

[Teta_Bonita]

All of the above. :|

Especially the bear semen.

 

[Fliko]

I already mentioned that she doesn't listen to what I say...

Shes a good mother though. I think shes just going through some really hard times

Just keep on talking to her.
It sounds like she is, so just keep talking, hell, even hug her if she is mad, give her a pat on the back. Mothers do that all the time.

 

[Glirk Dient]

Tell her if she ****s up and your dinner isn't on the table when you want it that your gonna raise hell and tell child protection services your gonna tell them she beat you. That ought to straighten her up!

Or...get a job and prepare for your mom to slide downward and don't let her take you too. Become more independant and try to ease the burden you are on her.

 

[Lou]

My mother recently divorced with my father, which I'm cool with because I really hate my father. So now we're living in an apartment the next town over, and everything was going fine until this week. She got her job back about a few weeks ago(she was a housemother, watching my two siblings) and she got fired from it because she didn't come in for a two days because she was "sleeping in". I warned her that she would lose her job if she continued, but she wouldn't listen. So she would go in one, maybe two days, then she would just not go. So she got fired from her job and searching for a new one. Shes also drinking now, smoking more than usual, and she sometimes brings over random people and leave the house to go out with some friends and come home around midnight or one. She never used to do this, and she's really starting to worry me. What do you think I should do?

Don't you have family members like aunts, uncles, grandparents who could talk some sense to your mother? Perhaps you could convince her to go with you to family therapy, assuming there is such thing.

 

[Danimal]

Your mother is going through a rough time with the divorce, and she probably found that the only way she can find relief is through smoking and drinking. My advice is practically the same as others in the thread, try to talk it over or get relatives to.

 

[NJspeed]

How about this?

Tell her you love her.

Tell her you understand she must be going through a rough time. Your young so I assume you've never had to break up with someone of the opposite sex. It's tough as bf/gf so it must be really tough to get divorced. In either case, drinking is the favorite solution of most people, so your mom is normal in that case. She probably drank a lot when she was younger and single. So anyway don't worry about the drinking too much. It probably takes her mind off of things when shes out with friends having fun. It must be lonely for her without your dad around, especially at night because that's when most couples have free time together.

So to sum it up I'd just say try and support her.. as long as she's taking care of you guys, that's all you can do. It's also your role now to step up and be the man of the house. If you guys need extra money, get a job and start giving some of it to your mom. Also help her take care of the house and chores, etc, cuz its tough for just one person. Women have a tendency to feel better and act calmer if they come home to a clean place rather than a messy one.