I cannot seduce women because I have Avoidant Personality Disorder. What can I do?

[kngHenry]

Definition of Avoidant Personality Disorder:

"The APD has the real self in hiding - hiding from an original environment or internal objects that were traumatic, rejecting and abusive. Due to early original pain, the adult APD cannot separate the present from the past, so everyone and everything becomes potentially dangerous and filled with anxiety and fear. As such, the deep core self, reality and everything that can trigger early pain is avoided."

This explains why all your advice had no effect on me. I knew I was abnormal, and you people did not believe me. According to a pamphlet I grabbed at my psychologist's office:

"while individuals with Avoidant Personality Disorder can fantasize about becoming an outgoing, confident extrovert, the development of a more functional version of their basic personality traits can lead to a substantial improvement in the subjective experience of the quality of their lives. The more functional personality style of the avoidant personality disorder is the "sensitive personality style." These individuals are comfortable with the familiar, stay close to family and a limited number of friends, care what others think about them, are cautious and deliberate in dealing with others, and maintain a courteous, polite interpersonal reserve."

The problem is that I don't like that prognosis. This "sensitive personality style" basically means I will be a loser even if I find a cure for my current problem. I want to be outgoing and extroverted, I want to date women.. Is it unrealistic of my part to think that I can find a cure to my problem without psychological help? From what I read, psychology does not have much to offer.

 

[Dalamari]

Deal with it and don't tell us

http://carepolice.ytmnd.com/

 

[Pi Mu Rho]

You're really asking, by definition, the completely wrong group of people.

 

[CrazyHarij]

What Pi said.

 

[CptStern]

"Is it unrealistic of my part to think that I can find a cure to my problem without psychological help?"


yes ...considering you self-diagnosed using a pamphlet ...I work for a medical company ..we distribute those things ..the info contained in them are general at best and downright misleading at worst


let's get something straight:


there is NO quickfix to mental health problems

 

[Solaris]

Im a psycologist wanna be.


First of all Id say DONT EVER SELF DIAGNOSE.

Pretty soon you'll think you have cancer and the like.

Talk with it to your psycatrist.
For the Win.

 

[outpost]

Im a psycologist wanna be.


First of all Id say DONT EVER SELF DIAGNOSE.

Pretty soon you'll think you have cancer and the like.

Talk with it to your psycatrist.
For the Win.

What he and stern said

 

[kngHenry]

"Is it unrealistic of my part to think that I can find a cure to my problem without psychological help?"


yes ...considering you self-diagnosed using a pamphlet ...I work for a medical company ..we distribute those things ..the info contained in them are general at best and downright misleading at worst


let's get something straight:


there is NO quickfix to mental health problems

so you don't believe I have that personality disorder? Everything I have said in my other threads is consistent with "AvPD".

 

[Tr0n]

Omg...not again.

 

[CptStern]

so you don't believe I have that personality disorder? Everything I have said in my other threads is consistent with "AvPD".

no, ...I believe you have multiple personality disorders

but again you arent qualified to make a diagnosis ...leave that to the professionals

 

[kngHenry]

no, ...I believe you have multiple personality disorders

but again you arent qualified to make a diagnosis ...leave that to the professionals

So the next I see that person I should just tell her "I think I have a personality disorder, can you confirm this for me?"

People with avoidant personality disorder often experience vicious cycles of withdrawal in which the avoidant helps to create the anticipated rejection. Other people interpret the avoidance of the person with APD as a sign that the avoidant does not like them, and react by avoiding the person. This reinforces the avoidant's fear of rejection and encourages further withdrawal.

Another common development is the appearance of so-called "second-line defenses" in order to deal with the anxiety that the avoidance creates. Examples of such defenses are a denial of the fear of rejection, or a replacement of their fear of rejection with a defensive insensitivity. The latter mechanism is called "hardening".

Sounds like someone we know.

 

[DreadLord]

I'm sorry but I am absolutely sick of this wacko. Yea this is harsh, but for god's sake he's been posting thread after thread and crying us a river. No one here can give you anything but advice, and probably not qualified advice at that. This isn't a forum for KngHenry's problems and other general off-topic. Get out there and talk to people, it isn't hard, and I don't care what disability you have, anyone can get out there and make friends. Maybe if you weren't so damned down on yourself all the time, and addicted to asking for help on gaming forums, you'd be able to make friends a tad easier.

Lots of people have hard lives, and I'm sure there are plenty of people on this forum that have problems equal or worse than yours, and guess what they don't go blabbing them around thread after thread. You don't just go self-diagnose yourself anyways, that's what the proffesionals are for, they aren't there to subtly make fun of you like you suggest either.

Sorry for the rant, but I haven't posted in his threads yet, and he's getting on my nerves.

 

[CptStern]

So the next I see that person I should just tell her "I think I have a personality disorder, can you confirm this for me?"

no ..could you forget about it for a minute? you'll cling to anything that suits your fancy ..let her come to that conclusion


the worst thing you could possibly do is ask for advice online or research what you may or may not have ...you cant be trusted you'll do what's best for you because you arent on the outside looking in ...anything you decide on would be inherently biased

 

[Shippi]

Why are you asking us? Get out there and find some real help

 

[Zeus]

What can you do? idk...you're asking ppl from hl2.net, get checked by a professional and ask them

 

[Murray_H]

Christ on a bike, did you really need to make another thread about it?

 

[The Monkey]

That guy again!

 

[Shodan]

With this kind of attitude, women won't even look at you.

Stop whining, no one cares about 'generic disorder I just found on the internet'

This is a message to all people who feel like complaining about how they can't get a girlfriend etc

You will not find the answer to your questions on Halflife2.net, go away.

 

[Dalamari]

You cannot seduce women because you are a boring psychopath that asks people on the internet what mental disease he has, and by your posts, I can see it's autism.

 

[CptStern]

Christ on a bike, did you really need to make another thread about it?

jesus has a pimp-ass ride

 

[ailevation]

:dozey: What the hell is wrong with this guy? How mny girl problems do you have?

I'm about to save up my money til Christmas and buy you a ho... sheesh, you need some.

 

[TheAmazingRando]

blah blah blah I have a mental disorder blah

Kill yourself.

 

[DreadLord]

Kill yourself.

For the good of the HL2 community.

 

[ríomhaire]

This is a HL2 site, the only disorders we know about are muteness, crowbar adiction and God Making Abilities Neumatic syndrom.

 

[Lucid]

[SARCASM]Not to be an asshole or anything but...[/SARCASM]

Why is it these people with social problems think we give a shit?

All we can do is offer comical relief and some almost serious advice, in textual form.

GO OUT-****ING-SIDE AND GET REAL PROFESSIONAL ****ING HELP!

Either that, inhale 3 bottles of NyQuil.

 

[Absinthe]

Are you in a qualified position to diagnose yourself? From a pamphlet no less? I doubt it.

FFS leave that to your head doctor. If this is such an issue for you, talk to other people about it, but not us.

 

[Axyon]

I'm trying to help out here, kngHenry, but if you persist in making a new thread with each minor revelation that you make, then this is the kind of reaction that you're going to get. Maybe give it a rest now, hmm?

Closed.