I feel like shit

[Glirk Dient]

Sorry...I don't really ever make these kinds of posts and hate people that do but I think I have had the worst past couple months ever. It all started around christmas...right after I moved out and got my own place. It was great, except that I was broke. I had started serving, and they really liked me and wanted me to be full time. So I quit my other job for them and got even less hours. I couldn't even pay rent, bills, gas or food. So around christmas...all within a week I totalled my car, my girlfriend broke up with me on christmas day and I lost my only job and was already in the hole. After that it's only gotten worse. Most of my friends barely talk to me anymore because I have become anti social. I really have nothing going for me right now. I couldn't find a job for the life of me...my dad bought some junker that barely runs and I have to give my room mate rides to work all the time cause he doesn't have a car. Not to mention he can't even afford his half of the rent so I am stuck covering his ass. I also just recently found out my grandma is in the hospital cause she broke her spine and a lot of other bones. It's not good...so what does my room mate do? brings home the 1 girls I have feelings for and didn't want him to go after. He would be homeless if it wasn't for me, and he repays me by bringing home the 1 girl that I really didn't want him too. Worse yet he keeps trying to find stuff for me to do...as if I want to leave. He is trying to hide it and is being a total dick about it. I figured I would let it go if it was only 1 night but she is over again. I feel like I am gonna throw up. I wanna beat the crap out of him. I honestly don't know what to do...my life has never been so shitty and stressful. I want to kick him out but don't know of anyone that wants to move in and I can't afford to cancel the lease. Unless I join the military...I think they can cancel it and that would leave him homeless and soon enough jobless which would make me very happy. So HL2.net...what the hell should I do before I end up killing someone? I am so damn frustrated with life right now.

EDIT: Oh god...wrong forum. I am going crazy.

 

[taviow]

I really wouldn't know what to do in that situation but... did you talk to your roomate? Did you tell him about how you feel about what he is doing? If he can't realise he's being an idiot try to talk to him about it.

 

[kineaesth]

Yeah, talk to your roommate. Try for as many jobs as you can.

:hugs:

 

[taviow]

Yes, how could I forget!

:many hugs:

 

[Glirk Dient]

I did just recently get a job...it sucks and doesn't pay well but it's a job and they have the best chocolate milk in the world. Also my room mate has known I have liked this girl before as I freaked out at him once already and he knew very well what he was doing and that I would get mad. It pisses me off most that he is stabbing me in the back after all I have done for him.

 

[taviow]

After all you have done from him and are still doing for him. You ride him to work every single day and even pays half of his rent. And he even KNOWS you feel bad about it? What is he thinking? Meanwhile I'm thinking about something to do, if I have an idea I will absolutely let you know.

 

[Glirk Dient]

Thanks...I am trying to think of a way to make it work because moving out/finding a new room mate and paying for cancelling the lease is too much. Anyone in the MN area wanna take this kid out? I will offer 2 free appetizer sampler coupons at famous daves.

 

[Dan]

You're roommate sounds like a sponge. Does he at least keep the place clean or anything?

 

[Glirk Dient]

You're roommate sounds like a sponge. Does he at least keep the place clean or anything?

A little...he does clean up but not really any more than I already do. He does his half but he is completely unmotivated to fix his financial status and apparently doesn't care if he stabs his friends in the back and thats what really pisses me off. I hope the next time he is in the street he gets hit by aids.

 

[CptStern]

Sorry...I don't really ever make these kinds of posts and hate people that do but I think I have had the worst past couple months ever. It all started around christmas...right after I moved out and got my own place. It was great, except that I was broke. I had started serving, and they really liked me and wanted me to be full time. So I quit my other job for them and got even less hours. I couldn't even pay rent, bills, gas or food. So around christmas...all within a week I totalled my car, my girlfriend broke up with me on christmas day and I lost my only job and was already in the hole. After that it's only gotten worse. Most of my friends barely talk to me anymore because I have become anti social. I really have nothing going for me right now. I couldn't find a job for the life of me...my dad bought some junker that barely runs and I have to give my room mate rides to work all the time cause he doesn't have a car. Not to mention he can't even afford his half of the rent so I am stuck covering his ass. I also just recently found out my grandma is in the hospital cause she broke her spine and a lot of other bones. It's not good...so what does my room mate do? brings home the 1 girls I have feelings for and didn't want him to go after. He would be homeless if it wasn't for me, and he repays me by bringing home the 1 girl that I really didn't want him too. Worse yet he keeps trying to find stuff for me to do...as if I want to leave. He is trying to hide it and is being a total dick about it. I figured I would let it go if it was only 1 night but she is over again. I feel like I am gonna throw up. I wanna beat the crap out of him. I honestly don't know what to do...my life has never been so shitty and stressful. I want to kick him out but don't know of anyone that wants to move in and I can't afford to cancel the lease. Unless I join the military...I think they can cancel it and that would leave him homeless and soon enough jobless which would make me very happy. So HL2.net...what the hell should I do before I end up killing someone? I am so damn frustrated with life right now.

EDIT: Oh god...wrong forum. I am going crazy.

bros before hoes ...just tell your friend how you feel but really you have no claim on her ..it's just a shitty thing to do ..anyways DO NOT join the military to get yoursef out of a temporary problem ..try a job waiting tables, it can make you a lot of money if you work at the right restuarant ..fake your way into bartending (I lied and said I bartended at banquet halls for weddings)can make money quick if you;re good ..or just sell coke

 

[Glirk Dient]

bros before hoes ...just tell your friend how you feel but really you have no claim on her ..it's just a shitty thing to do ..anyways DO NOT join the military to get yoursef out of a temporary problem ..try a job waiting tables, it can make you a lot of money if you work at the right restuarant ..fake your way into bartending (I lied and said I bartended at banquet halls for weddings)can make money quick if you;re good ..or just sell coke

Well I have wanting to join the military for a while...mostly to give me more time to mature so I can do better at school...I am pretty undisciplined and a big procrastinator. Also the military will help me pay for college that way I won't need 2 jobs and will have time for school. I was planning on joining...just thinking about joining quicker now that my room mate is a dick.

 

[CptStern]

again it seems like a trivial reason considering you're putting your life on the line ..that said you seem like it's what you want to do, it's your choice

and just look for another roomate ..dont settle for the person yousee, also always have them sign a contract thatway you can establish the rules ..although it would be hard to put in a clause that prevents them from cutting your metaphorical grass (stealing your chicks)

 

[Glirk Dient]

again it seems like a trivial reason considering you're putting your life on the line ..that said you seem like it's what you want to do, it's your choice

and just look for another roomate ..dont settle for the person yousee, also always have them sign a contract thatway you can establish the rules ..although it would be hard to put in a clause that prevents them from cutting your metaphorical grass (stealing your chicks)

Yeah I have been asking around because my current room mate is pretty much the worst room mate you can have. The problem is I don't want a total stranger because I actually do hang out with my room mate...or used to. I think it would be awkward having a stranger as a room mate and it could be worse. Hopefully one of my friends will want to move in or I will find someone else.

 

[Krynn72]

Wait, so you're paying for his rent?

 

[Javert]

Persevere! I have a job now, but believe me I have a Bible's worth of rejection letters and no-replies too.

Hang in there, at least til the government stimulus plan. (You see? Politics!)

 

[Glirk Dient]

Wait, so you're paying for his rent?

No he usually pays about half so I have to use my overdraft to avoid a late rent fee which is much worse. He usually pays the other half the next month and gives me half of that months rent. He still hasn't payed for food or gas yet.

Also..can someone please move this to off topic? I feel like an idiot.

 

[99.vikram]

Yeah I have been asking around because my current room mate is pretty much the worst room mate you can have. The problem is I don't want a total stranger because I actually do hang out with my room mate...or used to. I think it would be awkward having a stranger as a room mate and it could be worse. Hopefully one of my friends will want to move in or I will find someone else.

1. I can't tell you how to get a job, but try studying something new on the side. It might help you get a job.

2. Drop your roommate. Money is serious business, and if he's really stabbing you in the back then he's no friend. You can befriend a "stranger" within a month.

 

[Glirk Dient]

I already have a job actually...just got one but I still have to find someone to move in. I guess I better start looking and I am also not even sure if I have authority to make him leave. I believe both our names are on the lease which means I might be stuck with him.

 

[Raziaar]

Sorry...I don't really ever make these kinds of posts and hate people that do but I think I have had the worst past couple months ever. It all started around christmas...right after I moved out and got my own place. It was great, except that I was broke. I had started serving, and they really liked me and wanted me to be full time. So I quit my other job for them and got even less hours. I couldn't even pay rent, bills, gas or food. So around christmas...all within a week I totalled my car, my girlfriend broke up with me on christmas day and I lost my only job and was already in the hole. After that it's only gotten worse. Most of my friends barely talk to me anymore because I have become anti social. I really have nothing going for me right now. I couldn't find a job for the life of me...my dad bought some junker that barely runs and I have to give my room mate rides to work all the time cause he doesn't have a car. Not to mention he can't even afford his half of the rent so I am stuck covering his ass. I also just recently found out my grandma is in the hospital cause she broke her spine and a lot of other bones. It's not good...so what does my room mate do? brings home the 1 girls I have feelings for and didn't want him to go after. He would be homeless if it wasn't for me, and he repays me by bringing home the 1 girl that I really didn't want him too. Worse yet he keeps trying to find stuff for me to do...as if I want to leave. He is trying to hide it and is being a total dick about it. I figured I would let it go if it was only 1 night but she is over again. I feel like I am gonna throw up. I wanna beat the crap out of him. I honestly don't know what to do...my life has never been so shitty and stressful. I want to kick him out but don't know of anyone that wants to move in and I can't afford to cancel the lease. Unless I join the military...I think they can cancel it and that would leave him homeless and soon enough jobless which would make me very happy. So HL2.net...what the hell should I do before I end up killing someone? I am so damn frustrated with life right now.

Don't worry, Obama can fix this!


/politics



Man, that is really shitty. If I detailed my life out like that... it'd be horrible to read.

I really hope things turn around for you. And your friend? Find somebody else who can live with you, who can pay the rent. It's not your responsibility to drive your roommate around and pay for his share of the bills.

Also, yeah him disrespecting you by bringing the woman home you told him you'd prefer he not to... that is total douche baggery.

I also realize I have been saying douche bag alot. WTF.

 

[Pesmerga]

Can I get a tl;dr version

 

[Glirk Dient]

Can I get a tl;dr version

way too much horrible shit has happened to me recently and now my room mate is sneaking around with a girl he knows I like. He is so broke he can't even pay all of his rent and is basically dead weight. I can't break the lease however cause it costs like 2 months rent and I think both names are on lease so I may be stuck with this ****er.

 

[Raziaar]

way too much horrible shit has happened to me recently and now my room mate is sneaking around with a girl he knows I like. He is so broke he can't even pay all of his rent and is basically dead weight. I can't break the lease however cause it costs like 2 months rent and I think both names are on lease so I may be stuck with this ****er.

Well, certainly ditch giving him rides. That bites into your time as well as your money(I assume he's not paying for gas. Remember, gas is expensive).

 

[Darkside55]

I'll echo what Stern was saying about calling dibs on a girl. It may seem like a backstab, getting with a girl you had feelings for, but that's the breaks man. I'm not saying that to make you feel any more down--I'm saying it because you should consider it a nonissue. Think of it like this: "We raced, he won." Don't be a sore loser.

Now, on the part of him bumming rides off you and not paying rent, that's something to have contention over. He might be your friend, but he's a shitty roommate. Likewise you're worried about having a stranger as a roommate because it'd be awkward; you might become friends with that person and even if you guys don't gel and keep to yourselves, you've still got a better roommate. You're still on the ups monetarily. You need to kick that dude out and put up ads in the paper. Just don't rent to anyone off Craigslist and you'll be alright.

Also if both names are on the lease and you can't get him out, just get a third person. Couple of friends of mine had that arrangement...actually at one point there was four people living there.

Also condolences on the other stuff, like your grandma.

 

[Druckles]

Dude, a stranger might be what you need. Sure, it'd be awkward, but if they're the right person, you could get on really well. I'd put an ad out and look around. There'll definitely be someone out there who wants a place to stay, and from the sounds of things, he'll be alot better than this guy.

When you find someone, kick the guy out. Simple as.

 

[jimbo118]

Can't believe your girl broke up with you on Christmas day, ffs.

 

[Shamrock]

Can't believe your girl broke up with you on Christmas day, ffs.

People love to dick people over even on what is supposed to be a happy occasion.


Glirk, kick your roomy out. If he has NO CAR (big mistake going in) and can't even afford half the rent, there is no reason for him to be around. You are already in a bad situation as is, and he is just making this worse.

I'm sorry for your troubles, but it will get better, I promise.

 

[Druckles]

Can't believe your girl broke up with you on Christmas day, ffs.

My friend got dumped on his birthday. And it wasn't even dumping. She told him they'd never gone out!

D':

 

[Sgt.Tibbs]

I'm sorry man, jeez that fails. I would let you stay at my house but i live in KY and mom would kill me ;(

 

[Baal]

Christmas Day? Burn the witch!

That's rough...was it completely unexpected?

 

[taviow]

The major problem is being his roomate at the time. He would have managed to forget the girl if he didn't bring her back. Also, you have no reason to drive him to work anymore. Saves a lot of money, as someone else said before. But if he's really unable to get to work and you stop taking him there, he will have to take cabs or something and he will use even more money, and he is currently paying around a third of the rent. If he starts wasting more money to get to work he might stop paying or something bad like that. Who knows, he proved he can be an idiot and mean.

 

[Pesmerga]

Well, beat the shit out of him and threaten to kill him if he decides to move out.

 

[Glirk Dient]

I'll echo what Stern was saying about calling dibs on a girl. It may seem like a backstab, getting with a girl you had feelings for, but that's the breaks man. I'm not saying that to make you feel any more down--I'm saying it because you should consider it a nonissue. Think of it like this: "We raced, he won." Don't be a sore loser.

Yeah I see the point there but up until now me and all my friends in our group always left a girl alone if one of us had a thing for her. Like the girls he liked in the past would hit on me and I would completely ignore it and we do this to avoid the drama that always happens. He knew I liked her and for him to do this is really low. But yeah...I think there are enough issues already to get his ass out of here.

Thanks for the help everyone...looks like I need to find a new room mate and figure out the deal with the lease so I know my options.

 

[Bad^Hat]

He's using you as a human doormat. If you can't kick him out, I'd stop giving him a free ride atleast (literally and metaphorically). He has a job, right? Why does he need you paying for him when you're already in overdraft? I'd cut that shit right out and start asking him to chip in for gas, otherwise he's only going to keep taking advantage. You hold the strings here, don't be afraid to put on the pressure a bit.

Also, if his name's on the lease aswell, that makes him partially responsible for rent. Is there any way you could go through your landlord - tell him your roommate's not good for it, see if there's any way to get him off the lease, or even out of the house? As long as he doesn't go and kick you both out...