I'm sad :(

[Robert]

Yesterday, was the worst day of my life.

During the school-day, I recieved an SMS from my girlfriend: We need to talk. About us, about the situation I'm in, and about me.


I replied with: What happened?

She: I think I like someone else.


The only good thing with this was that she wrote that during my last lesson in school. So with just 10 minutes left, we had an SMS-chat and she would come home to me after school.


When I got home, I was cold as ice, I were sad and I felt empty.

So.. I sat down in my room, I was home alone. She knocked on the door and I walked up to open it.

It was quiet when she got in my room. I jumped up on my bed, she looked around and sat down in my bed.

It was quiet for 5 minutes and my mind exploaded with images, feelings and all of that stuff.

She started to talk. I acted pissed, since I was very pissed. I asked who the guy was, his name is Erik, they met under an school-trip to a skiing-place in Sweden called Stöten.

She does not know him at all, I asked: How do you know that you like him?

She: My heart beats faster

Me: Is that love?

She: ...

Then she started to cry, and I sad: Well, goodbye then.

So she left... Then I called her and asked her to get back up, so we could talk more.


We talked more.. She started to cry. I said: You want to give up all the things we've been trough because of a guy you've known for 5 days?

She said that she still likes me etc, etc.

I can't say anything in detail. I'm sad, and I really want to cry. But I can't.


And I can not understand why on earth she wants to give all the things we've been trough just because of him. She does not know him! :|

I just want to die. And I want her back. Everything is so confusing. Last weekend she said she loved me :S What the **** is happening.

Worst part of the whole thing is this:

She to Erik in school: I've got to talk to you. I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 7 months, but I like you also.

He: WHAT?! omg o :|| :sss :Sss :S

She: Yep...

Then, some hours went by, and then he said to her: I like you too.


This fellah is one year older then her. She's 15, he's 16, I'm 18.

All he wants is to **** her up the ass. And she is plain STUPID. I'm ****ing perfect for her, everyone says that. "You're the perfect guy". I don't know why on EARTH she wants to give up our relationship because of "My heart beats faster"

I WANNA DIE!!!

And I know, you don't give a fck.

 

[Ames]

High school romances.....you should know this would happen.

It's inevitable..

 

[Tr0n]

Well for one...

Most junior/high school girls are gonna do that...they haven't figured out what they want yet...let alone mature all that much.

Two...Their are people on these boards going through way worse shit with relationships, but you don't see us posting about it. (trying not to sound harsh)

If she doesn't come back to you then she wasn't meant to be.

Edit:The_Thing pretty much sumed it up.

High school romances.....you should know this would happen.

It's inevitable..

 

[f|uke]

16 year old girls are flighty. Thats just facts.

Be strong, brother. Show her that you dont need her.

 

[DarkStar]

High school romances.....you should know this would happen.

It's inevitable..

Very true.

 

[The Silhouette]

You 18 and your dating a 15 year old? Your one sick bastard. Your acting like your 13.

Well either way thats messed up she did that. should have played it cool. Soon as she walked int said "Tricks Are For Kids" and kicked her out.

 

[Robert]

She's 14... Soon 15.


I know, she's not mature. And I know she's not ready for romances.. but what the ****.. I love her so much :/ She's special.

 

[Tr0n]

You 18 and your dating a 15 year old? Your one sick bastard. Your acting like your 13.

Well either way thats messed up she did that. should have played it cool. Soon as she walked int said "Tricks Are For Kids" and kicked her out.

How is it sick?

If you consider age like that a diffrence...when Demi Moore was going out with Aston Kutcher (however you spell his name) wouldn't that be sick also?

If he loves her and she loves him...then they being a 4 year diffrence don't mean diddly squat.

 

[f|uke]

I love her so much :/ She's special.

I'm telling you right now, this kind of thinking is poison. All the wallowing and self-pity in the world is not going to make things right. Your relationship is henceforth broken and over. This attitude is only going to make her lose all respect for you, and make you f'n miserable.

Now repeat after me: Shes a bitch. She doesnt love me. F'ck her!

You'll feel better I promise.

 

[The Silhouette]

How is it sick?

If you consider age like that a diffrence...when Demi Moore was going out with Aston Kutcher (however you spell his name) wouldn't that be sick also?

No but their both consenting Adults, both over 18.

These 2 fools, one acts 13 and is 18, the other is a 14 year old girl. When i was 14 i know got damn well i was no consenting Adult. And That IS some nasty sh*t. I can't see how a person could stick up for someone like that.

 

[Robert]

#9,



She really IS special. I almost took my life 8 months ago, and she "saved" me.

And after that, we got together. I know it's useless to think that, and I know it's useless to try talk.. sence to you, but you don't understand.

And frankly speaking, the whole discussion is useless. I won't change my mind .

 

[Robert]

Also, most of you guys in here seems to think that all I did was fcking her all night long, but we didn't even have sex. And I'm glad for that.

Maybe sex for you is like eating your breakfast, but sex for me is speciall.

 

[Tr0n]

No but their both consenting Adults, both over 18.

These 2 fools, one acts 13 and is 18, the other is a 14 year old girl. When i was 14 i know got damn well i was no consenting Adult. And That IS some nasty sh*t. I can't see how a person could stick up for someone like that.

Hell if he is having sex with her yea it is bad...and yea it would be sick.

Now I don't know if he has or not...it's not my place to judge...and neither is it yours.

He LOVES her then so be it...we shouldn't judge him.

 

[StardogChampion]

The first thing I got from that was that you're 18 years old, and she's only 15. That's slightly sick in my mind. If she was 18 and you were 21 it'd be more acceptable. Maybe they're different in Sweden, but 15 year old girls are almost half my height (although i'm 19), ewww.

Another thing, 15 year old girls are stupid, and you should never think about having a serious relationship with one. One day they love you, the next they're in love with the guy they saw sweeping the floor at McDonalds. Dumbasses.

I know if a girl told me that she liked someone else, she would be out of my life faster than anything. No point wasting time with some girl that doesn't like you enough to stop falling for other guys.

I think you'd be an idiot for taking her back. Everyone around you will think you're that loser that gets walked over like a mat. Dump the bitch.



EDIT: This was posted after Tr0n's first post ^

 

[f|uke]

#9,



She really IS special. I almost took my life 8 months ago, and she "saved" me.

And after that, we got together. I know it's useless to think that, and I know it's useless to try talk.. sence to you, but you don't understand.

And frankly speaking, the whole discussion is useless. I won't change my mind .

Boo freakin hoo.

Oh yeah. I'll never understand what its like to lose a girl I cared for. :dozey: 7 months aint shit. How about 5 years?

So dont change your mind. Just be miserable. But then dont come looking for support 'cuz people arnt going to tell you that its the way to be. If you're set on being a loser, well then I'm certainly not going to disagree with you.

**edit. Look, I understand,. its about your ego. She clearly was the only thing that was holding it up. But that doesnt fly for chicks. They want someone whose ego stands on its own. So you need to reflect on what she gave you, and keep the ego. Just remember that you found one girl like her, so you can find another. As 'special' as she seemed, there will be another girl who is even more special.

 

[Robert]

"Another thing, 15 year old girls are stupid, and you should never think about having a serious relationship with one. One day they love you, the next they're in love with the guy they saw sweeping the floor at McDonalds. Dumbasses." <-- Thank you for that one.


But I will take her back.. And I don't give a **** about everyone else. Make me a turd, ****ing kill me. If she loves me, I'd take her back.

 

[Tr0n]

This is why you do not post love problems on a message board.

 

[Robert]

#15

I know. But I think everyone would feel this way in the beginning. I mean, I _LOVE_ her, and _LOVE_ is a strong feeling, not something like dogpoo on your shoe that you wipes away and then don't think of it anymore.

 

[Dynasty]

She's 14... Soon 15.


I know, she's not mature. And I know she's not ready for romances.. but what the ****.. I love her so much :/ She's special.

well tbh mate if you love her so much, you can love her enough to let her go. if you love her, then you'll respect her decision and let her go with this guy she barely knows. now thats the key: she barely knows him, and she said she loved YOU.

it hurts like hell i know, but you have to wait it out and see what happens mate. let her go, and then you will find out if she is for real about you. i can guarantee that she will come running back to you. sounds corny i know but it worked for me :E

and ignore these guys when they say that age difference makes u sick. love is love, and it should never be kept a secret. if it is kept a secret, it can tear you apart in the head.

 

[Death.Trap]

You 18 and your dating a 15 year old? Your one sick bastard. Your acting like your 13.

Well either way thats messed up she did that. should have played it cool. Soon as she walked int said "Tricks Are For Kids" and kicked her out.

That's not sick. I wouldn't personally do it. Well..I guess if I really liked her...then maybe. But still. If he was dating a 12 year old, then ya that would be messed up.

 

[Ren.182]

Cry. Crying helps a lot. Get someone to talk to, and let it all out.

In a situation like this, just give her space, don't keep trying to steer her away from this chap. Let her do what she wants (within reason of course). If she chooses him over you, then there really isn't much you can do about it (Nasty i know, but thats how things work). It's probably easier for her to date someone nearer her age, if you get what i mean.

Just give her some time, and talk to someone about it (like one of her close friends or one of your close friends. Heck even tell her how you feel.) But don't get saying "But you want to throw away all we had for him" It's her choice. Listen to how she feels about him, and then tell her how you feel about the situation.

But thats my advice. Probably the worst advice ever!

 

[Tr0n]

#15

I know. But I think everyone would feel this way in the beginning. I mean, I _LOVE_ her, and _LOVE_ is a strong feeling, not something like dogpoo on your shoe that you wipes away and then don't think of it anymore.

The quote option is your friend.

It's in the right corner of the persons post that you are refering to.

 

[Robert]

well tbh mate if you love her so much, you can love her enough to let her go. if you love her, then you'll respect her decision and let her go with this guy she barely knows. now thats the key: she barely knows him, and she said she loved YOU.

it hurts like hell i know, but you have to wait it out and see what happens mate. let her go, and then you will find out if she is for real about you. i can guarantee that she will come running back to you. sounds corny i know but it worked for me :E

and ignore these guys when they say that age difference makes u sick. love is love, and it should never be kept a secret. if it is kept a secret, it can tear you apart in the head.

True. I know that. But it's frigging hard. And I don't want to waste my time spending waiting for her, with playing CS ... Well, that's what's going to happen, but I just want to let my feeling fled everywhere

 

[Dynasty]

yeah and itll be the hardest part letting her go. but trust me, the only way you can know how she feels about u is if she comes back. if she does, then you 2 are made for each other

if she doesnt, then she obviously needs her head examined (no offence)

 

[Death.Trap]

And yeah, I've got to agree with Tron. Message board + love = bad


There are lots of dicks on these forums, as you can see from reading this thread.

 

[f|uke]

I know. But I think everyone would feel this way in the beginning. I mean, I _LOVE_ her, and _LOVE_ is a strong feeling, not something like dogpoo on your shoe that you wipes away and then don't think of it anymore.

Theres truth in that. It doesnt go away overnight.

Just remember two things,.

Remember how she helped you believe in yourself. She was the inspiration for that, but her coming and going is a promise for new love with someone else. You have the potential. So keep believing in yourself.

And remember how she hurt you. If her feelings did not run as deep as yours, then maybe she wasnt deserving of those feelings in the first place.

Give it some time and you'll be ok.

 

[Robert]

Cry. Crying helps a lot. Get someone to talk to, and let it all out.

In a situation like this, just give her space, don't keep trying to steer her away from this chap. Let her do what she wants (within reason of course). If she chooses him over you, then there really isn't much you can do about it (Nasty i know, but thats how things work). It's probably easier for her to date someone nearer her age, if you get what i mean.

Just give her some time, and talk to someone about it (like one of her close friends or one of your close friends. Heck even tell her how you feel.) But don't get saying "But you want to throw away all we had for him" It's her choice. Listen to how she feels about him, and then tell her how you feel about the situation.

But thats my advice. Probably the worst advice ever!

Liek the best one. I know, and I accept. But I can't handle it.


I wish I could cry. I haven't cried for 5 years, and I really really really want to do it.

I'll try everything to make me cry. Cut off my penis =/

 

[Dynasty]

Cry. Crying helps a lot. Get someone to talk to, and let it all out.

In a situation like this, just give her space, don't keep trying to steer her away from this chap. Let her do what she wants (within reason of course). If she chooses him over you, then there really isn't much you can do about it (Nasty i know, but thats how things work). It's probably easier for her to date someone nearer her age, if you get what i mean.

Just give her some time, and talk to someone about it (like one of her close friends or one of your close friends. Heck even tell her how you feel.) But don't get saying "But you want to throw away all we had for him" It's her choice. Listen to how she feels about him, and then tell her how you feel about the situation.

But thats my advice. Probably the worst advice ever!

now y didnt i put that lol. well said mate

 

[Dynasty]

And yeah, I've got to agree with Tron. Message board + love = bad


There are lots of dicks on these forums, as you can see from reading this thread.

and there's one of them

 

[Tr0n]

and there's one of them

Who is that one eh?

 

[Robert]

TBH, I think the flamers leaved this thread out.

I mean, it could be worse.


I got some really nice and mature replies.

 

[DarkStar]

Wait.....let me get this straight.

You're 18 and she is 14?

That's illegal. Or at least it should be.

 

[Death.Trap]

Wait.....let me get this straight.

You're 18 and she is 14?

That's illegal. Or at least it should be.

They aren't having sex. So it's not illegal.

 

[DarkStar]

They aren't having sex. So it's not illegal.

It's still kinda weird. No wait.....really weird.

 

[Dynasty]

no its isnt.

yeah robert some people can be dicks, as proven earlier :E, but most people ARE mature and actually care about situations like this.

lol most of us probably havent been there, but i have and i know exactly what u r going through. i found that telling a close friend, who happened to be a girl, everything. i even ended up crying infront of her, and with her comforting me it also showed me that she was in fact a worthy friend.

youve just got to suck it up and move one. there is nothing u can do tbh. its upto her now. and dont nag her about it whatever u do. dont keep asking her y she left etc etc cos thall make the situation worse...

 

[Tr0n]

Wait.....let me get this straight.

You're 18 and she is 14?

That's illegal. Or at least it should be.

There is many relationships out their with same age groupings.Yea it is illegal...but the law won't care not unless he has sex with her.

I forgot what they call it...somethin rape.

 

[Dynasty]

think its just rape actually

 

[Death.Trap]

There is many relationships out their with same age groupings.Yea it is illegal...but the law won't care not unless he has sex with her.

I forgot what they call it...somethin rape.

Date rape.

 

[mortiz]

Date rape.

lol, statutory rape is its name.

 

[Tr0n]

think its just rape actually

No...I just found out.

It's called statutory rape...I probally spelled the first word wrong.

But thats it.


Edit: Bah mortiz beat me to it.