Love related issue....seeking serious advice

[ShinRa]

Yeah I didn't know where else to turn. None of my friends have any real experience with this so I figured I'd ask you guys in hope of some serious feedback. I love this girl, and I've been dating her for almost three years now. We're both about to graduate highschool and are considering breaking up after graduation. Basically she said "we'll see how it goes after graduation." Now, I am in complete agreement with this, but she's my first love. While I want to experience new relationships and meet new women, I feel like I can't let go of her. I feel like I'm destroying her life if I leave her and start seeing other girls, especially at college, but at the same time I really want to experience new things. Is this normal? To feel torn between two different feelings and not being able to follow through with either one of them? I just don't know what to do...

 

[Reginald]

It depends how far away from each other you are going to be. If you are in opposite ends of the country, it would be wise to separate and see other people, even if you ultimately end up back together after college (not sure how likely that is to happen). If however you are only going to be an hour's drive away, you can easily see each other every weekend and even some weekdays for drinks and somesuch.

But... that's my advice, and my expiriences with women leave a lot to be desired because commitment is a foreign word to me.

 

[Greatgat]

If she's talking about breaking up now, right before graduation, then she's probably been thinking about it for awhile and has been waiting for something appropriately big as an excuse to break it off. When people start talking about breaking up, then no matter how committed you think they were, then it wasn't as much as you thought. My advice is just start seeing other people, think of her fondly from time to time, and have fun in the world.

 

[Que-Ever]

First mistake- dating someone for more than six months.

 

[Greatgat]

Er, or that, yes.

 

[Codcommando]

Normally I would give you stupid advice,But recently I have re-fallen in love and become a romantic again. My opinion: Dont let go man, once you find a good thing,hold on! It may never happen again. Highschool sweethearts always work out,atleast in the sappy movies that i've watched with my countless girlfriends that were never meant to be lol. Figure out a way to stay with her or you'll propably end up regretting it. But what the hell do I know?