me, myself, and my leanne...

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hey guys,
I thought for once I'd turn the tables, I've tried to be here for people with emotional worries on this board, from women, to dreams, i've always tried to give valuble advice....but now I think i need to open up and let out my heart....

These alst weeks have been hard, I am currently with leanne, she is so damn beautiful, smart, loverly and the sweetest person that i have ever met, she is so perfect, and i could never hurt her at all, but....

I have two other people who have told me they love me recently...

Ashley: everyone's told me for the last 2 years that she's obsessed with me, but when i asked her she always denied it....recently i over heard her talking to another one of my mates, Alice, and her exact words were:

Sh*t! I think I love *stone* (edited to hide my name, because your all out to get me :P)

and then on my current trip to london, with my graphics class, she told me.... :x...now ashley is great, she may not be the prettest fish in the sea, but she's funny, she walm, and she spoils me with stuff ;(, i know objects don't come into it, but it's the fact that she selfeshly gives sh*t to me...


and then there is

ZOE: zoe is me, zoe is exactly me down to a T, she acts like me, talks like me, and is the female personification of me.....and she is always there for me, and has been there herself, so knows what i mean.... and her best mate told me the other day, that she'd admited to her, that she was deeply in love with me, and its been playing at me for a couple o weeks, so today when we were in the pub, i asked her, and she admitted it, and she went all quiet and stopped speaking to me, and went dead depressive....well, needless to say i was almost in tears at this, because i had caused her halm, and i don't like to hurt anyone...

but the thing is..i don't know what to do, what ever i do i will always hurt two people, and i know what it's like to hurt, i know all to well what it is like....I don't want to loose these people as friends and i don't want to hurt anyone...i have gone back to my old habbit of not sleeping again, that I was help to get rid of by members here, inc FarrowLeSparrow...so please, anyone, got any advice...please?
 
Heh, Stone, I wish I had your problems. On any given day I have somewhere between -1 and 0.5 girls liking me.

Well, anyway, the fact is you will have to hurt two people unless you move to Utah or something. The question is which two people. I'm not sure we could help you to decide that ....
 
I'd stick with leanne, you can't be sure these other two girls really know what they want, they might "think" they loev you, and then realise its just infatuation or something, and you could have risked something special with leanne. Sure it might hurt the other two, but you could end up being really close friends with them, closer than now even. And that could work out really well for all concerned

Maybe they just got sick of fools for boyfriends, knew you were a great guy and started to see you differently.. to be honest, and I know how tempting it would be with this attention.. But I think you should stay with Leanne. But stay real close to the others.. If something is meant to happen then it will, fate finds a way, some would say :)

Is Zoe that really cute one in that pic that keeps doing the rounds on here? :)




The names Jones, Jenny Jones.
 
Originally posted by LoneDeranger
Heh, Stone, I wish I had you problems. On any given day I have somewhere between -1 and 0.5 girls liking me.

Well, anyway, the fact is you will have to hurt two people unless you move to Utah or something. The question is which two people. I'm not sure we could help you to decide that ....
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I geuss i already know htat, i geuss i just need to admit it to myself.....

I do hate it when the world has background music...everywhere i've gone today has had depressing music on, about choicing, and love :( i know it's just my brain telling me that, but it sure isn't damn healthy
 
Originally posted by Fenric1138
I'd stick with leanne, you can't be sure these other two girls really know what they want, they might "think" they loev you, and then realise its just infatuation or something, and you could have risked something special with leanne. Sure it might hurt the other two, but you could end up being really close friends with them, closer than now even. And that could work out really well for all concerned

Maybe they just got sick of fools for boyfriends, knew you were a great guy and started to see you differently.. to be honest, and I know how tempting it would be with this attention.. But I think you should stay with Leanne. But stay real close to the others.. If something is meant to happen then it will, fate finds a way, some would say :)

Is Zoe that really cute one in that pic that keeps doing the rounds on here? :)




The names Jones, Jenny Jones.
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hehe, no that's Jade in that pic, is it still going around....

thanks Fenric, I geuss that makes alot of sense...thanks... oh well i can see tomorrow being a very long and hard day.....

I think i might go meditate...i seem to of lapsed my usual cycle...thanks again
 
Originally posted by Stone
I geuss i already know htat, i geuss i just need to admit it to myself.....

I do hate it when the world has background music...everywhere i've gone today has had depressing music on, about choicing, and love :( i know it's just my brain telling me that, but it sure isn't damn healthy
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Yes, I never noticed that about music until I broke up recently. Just every f*cking song is about love .. and it all relates to your situation.

Actually I've just about stopped listening to music right now because I know all too well how certain feelings can become associated with it. I don't wanna put on my favorite song 2 years from now and get depressed.
 
no worries :) I'm sure things will work out for the best in the end


so.. about this Jade then *grins* just kidding ;)
 
Originally posted by LoneDeranger
Yes, I never noticed that about music until I broke up recently. Just every f*cking song is about love .. and it all relates to your situation.

Actually I've just about stopped listening to music right now because I know all too well how certain feelings can become associated with it. I don't wanna put on my favorite song 2 years from now and get depressed.
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I know the feeling, but music gets me through the day sometimes....
but the thing is my life is kind of recorded in my record collection, every event causes depressing music to become it, anger etc all the same....
The only album that i've got really that isn't super depressive is, probably the rocky horror picture show..... :P
 
whoa, this is like a moderator only thread. As for advice, Id I was you Id just sit down and think about it. In the end its up to you and youll be the one affected. You should just sit down and think hard about what to do, like if all the girls are serious. What the consequences of leving your present girl, and the positives of the others. Just wiegh it all out and should be able to come to a decision.
 
dang...well..probably the last guy to give advice, but follow your heart man, but first off make certain things are OK with Zoe...
 
edit: I can't read.

What I said, basically, was just agreeing with A2597.
 
Hmm...

I'd honestly either stick with Zoe (I might be bias 'cause this is the love of my life's nickname, hehe), or Leanne.

Ashley sounds nice, but it sounds that she might possibly be a little bit confused with what true love is... I don't really feel like explaining it right now, but hopefully most of you'll know what I'm talkin' about.
 
Come on Stone, toughen up a little. There's no point in worrying. No point at all. So 3 girls like you? Great! Feel good about yourself. I just hope it's not on a superficial highschool level. You aren't the one to care about their feelings, the girls will do that for themselves. Do what YOU want. Because YOU are the one that will pay for your mistakes and enjoy the things you did right.

It doesn't sound to serious with the girl you're actually with, or you wouldn't ask yourself all this. If none of them are right for you, you could either back off or enjoy them all at once, like chu said. I did that for a little while, and it's a lot of fun. I woke up at one girl's place, got called by another while I was still in bed with the first one, then had lunch with the girl on the phone, spent the afternoon with her, and finally went to the third girl in the evening and spent the night there. It were very exciting times. I remember I felt like I'd never get caught, and I never did. But I must say I never lied to any of the girls I knew about being in a relationship. I just didn't mension these things. Also, I've had more girls that had a boyfriend than not. And they always told me they had one after it was FAR to late. Once I even found myself running through a backyard naked, with my clothes wrapped under my arm, trying to get away in the morning. Crazy stuff. I must state that I'm French, for the sake of stereotype. But I live in Belgium, and I guess most guys here are rather boring/insecure/jerks/self-centered.

Right now I'm in a relationship with a fantastic, beautiful, smart and funny woman. We've been together for 19 months, and I wouldn't want another. We now share an appartement, and I must say she is just great. I can truely be myself around her(I'm rather goofy), and she can be too. Noway some girl is gonna come up to me and tell me her feelings and have me in doubt. Noway.

This isn't something extraordinary, really. She's either right for you, or (in most cases) she isn't.

So basically, just follow your heart. All these girls I saw before are gone now. And I couldn't care less. As long as you're not with a girl that could be 'the one', it doesn't matter what you do, just as long as you don't end up marrying her and regretting it afterwards(the longer you wait to brake up, the harder it gets). I just stayed away from lying(by not lying about being in a relationship), but even that is really up to you, since all this just doesn't matter that much, really (Unless you believe in an avengefull god, but then you'd stick to chastity until you were married).

IN LOVE AND WAR, ALL IS FAIR. Hands up for my moto!

Good luck anywayz: If one woman can nagg you to death, just imagine what three can do.
 
Well it all errupted to day in a big free for all, I geuss you guys were right about Ashley, she didnt seem bothered when it all broke out, but it ended in zoe and leanne crying seperatly, and everyone feeling guilty...

Leanne was debating with her self whether or not it would be best if we split up, and Zoe went off in self depression for starting it all.....

anyway, i think this has sorted my head out, and i reaise how much i do care for leanne, and that how ever lost i can get in zoe, i can still get as lost while just staying her friend....
 
Originally posted by Stone
I am currently with leanne, she is so damn beautiful, smart, loverly and the sweetest person that i have ever met, she is so perfect, and i could never hurt her at all
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I think you said it all there really.... you never once described the other girls in such a manner and going with another girl would mean the last statement i bolded would be false....
 
You could always just snuff yourself out. That would solve one of my problems too....
 
Originally posted by |MaTT|
seems my advice was too late??
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no MATT, advice is never too late...it's always when it's needed ;)

It's been a hard day to say the least, but i think everything will be fine, i'm goig to the pub tomorrow with Zoe to talk to her about it all, i've spent a day and night with leanne today smoothing things other with her....and ashley well, i'll see her when i see her i geuss, she didnt seem bothered not even as a friend when all the trouble started...so, i don't even think i can call her a friend now either :( oh well
 
I say you stick with Leanne. Love isn't something over-night, it has to grow. You can't suddenly stop a plant from growing and say "ooohhh, look at that other plant." If you do that, the plant you already have will die. You also can't force a plant to grow fast by giving it more water...it's going to suffocate, and die. If you go with one of these other two girls, the result will be devastating. You could crush the plant you have now, and the over-water the new one.

The girl I'm with now I have gone out with before, and the same thing happened; We had rushed into love...the relationship ended brutally. After being away from eachother for 9 months we've come back together. We've both grown up very much, and have a defined idea of what we want out of someone; It turns out that we want eachother.
It's a hard road for us...with many twist and turns. But this time we're realistic about it, and realize that you can't stop at every bump and smooth it out before driving over it...you have to take each bump, gritting your teeth and holding hands. <----This is where you know it's love. Realism; There will be bad times, and they will seem overwhelming at some points.

Stay with Leanne, and let things turn out naturally/slowly. If love doesn't grow, it doesn't; If it does, then you'll know you have the real deal.
With each bump you two will either grow together, or apart.

A relationship can be hell sometimes, but every bit of hell is worth what I have.

Once again: Stay with Leanne.
 
Originally posted by manny_c44
You could always just snuff yourseand lf out. That would solve one of my problems too....
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huh? why don't you like me?!?... ;(

and ghost, i'm staying with leanne, I realised today when i saw the pain in her eyes, that i could never hurt her, and that i may even love her... I need her to be with me, and i'm now prepared for that, I think this has all just been a test of some sort, everything has a reason, even if it's stupid, so maybe the reason of this was to bring leanne and I closer together.....If it was then it worked, thanks guys
 
Stone, if you have someone already - stick with her. Providing you haven't given the other two any hope and they're decent girls anyway, they should all understand. Stay friends with these girls though - or send them my mobile number:

07777777777
 
Originally posted by Chris_D
Stone, if you have someone already - stick with her. Providing you haven't given the other two any hope and they're decent girls anyway, they should all understand. Stay friends with these girls though - or send them my mobile number:

07777777777
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Damn, you mean that's your number, so who have I been calling on 666 then......:x

Yes, i think i understand this now, i geuss alot of things were just all trapped within my system and needed to find a release, and unfortunatly that realise was women...

But still i find it strange, i'm not usually in demand, as you can say, but when ever one person lkes me, its not just one, it's like three people :X
 
Thanks, I hope things work out for you too...
 
oh thats ok then, I was going to pull some jakie chan on you then....

nar i joke i was just going to ban you ;)
 
See, there you go. Now kindly let the other two girls know that there are 11,987 other single guys on HL2.net. :)
 
Originally posted by Chris_D
You can't ban people :p
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awwww, he didn't know that though......

*Stone Goes Off To Sulk.....

and I'm very happy for you Ghost, I hope one day to love again....it is actually one of my fears never to be loved in return, i geuss that is probably where all this comes from...
 
Just say the word Stone and I'll ban him for ya ;)

I'm not single, I'm just... sexually challenged.
 
DOE!
/me scratches out we're, and replaces it with we.

I can't believe I did that!
 
How come it seems like you've been following me around the General Off-Topic Forum?
 
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