Moral, Social and Academic problem.

[burner69]

Right, I'm in one of those f**king annoying life choice situations, and I need some help sorting it out.

Allow me to explain.

After college I wanted to do creative writing at uni, and aberystwyth seemed like a good choice. At the open day I was told it was fun and cool, it had three clubs, loadsa pubs blah blah.

The first week or so was okay (very much a mediocre okay) but it's just dived since then. The course is okay, the people I know are okay people, the social life is shite. However, one of my flat mates brought me along to Cardiff a month or so again, and it's quality. I've made more friends down there than at Aber, and being quite honest they're friends that I give a shit about, and not just people I bum about with for the sake of company. The night life is quality, and being in the club scene for a few years now, that's becoming more important than ever.
Then when I went down to see my housemate (whos been in Cardiff for the past month - he can't stand aber either) he told me he was quitting and moving to Cardiff. And he's like one of maybe two or three people I can say are genuine good mates at uni. Today my other mate said he was gonna do the same.

I think you can see where I'm going here? Get outta Aber and go to Cardiff - enjoy university, not be stuck inside bored sh*tless debating bloody politics on Hl2.net (luv ya really).

Yet of course, there's a catch.
1) The course I want to do at Cardiff requires BCC at A level. Now, I got BBCD, but they don't count the course I got one of the B's in, leaving me with BCD, and a C at AS level (thats a one year course as opposed to A level's two years).

2) It's also late in the year, I'm not sure if I've left myself time to apply - but I think I'm gonna try.

3) The big one, and the whole moral stuff; the house I'm meant to be in last year. Me, and my two housemates, if we drop out will leave three guys (only one of whom we really know) stuck with a 6 bedroom flat with only three people to pay rent. I feel tight as f**k doing it, but I really can't handle dying the social death here at aber, when there's so much promise in cardiff.

It's all very stressful, but I need to get my head round it.
Tell me I'm not being a c*** by leaving uni like this, screwing three guys over for accomodation, prob gunna piss the rents off a bit...

Life eh?

 

[johnmedz]

well i dont really understand the grading and stuff there as it seems very different from the US. so number 1 i cant help with. APPLY NOW though instead of sitiing around discussing it. it might not be too late now but if u wait, it will be.
dont worry about leaving the guys there, they will find people. you shouldnt change ur life or give up an opportunity because of something like that. but u might wanna help them find some people if u can

 

[VirusType2]

I'd say do whatever makes you happy.. Go.

 

[VirusType2]

well i dont really understand the grading and stuff there as it seems very different from the US. so number 1 i cant help with. APPLY NOW though instead of sitiing around discussing it. it might not be too late now but if u wait, it will be.
dont worry about leaving the guys there, they will find people. you shouldnt change ur life or give up an opportunity because of something like that. but u might wanna help them find some people if u can

yea once again john medz is absolutely right. lets see if we can stop him!

 

[oldagerocker]

I know how you feel. Exactly how you feel. And do what makes you happy my friend. Im in a similar situation, my uni is fine, but im stuck in a limbo with housemates for next year, between a guy i said i would stick with and some other people who are 'cooler' that have more recently invited me into their house.

Go to cardiff, have a good time if you can get in and you have decent grades, im sure you will. You're doing a creative writting course, so write them one amazing ****ing letter to get you in. **** the other people, they'll sort themselves out, they arent worth being unhappy for.

 

[lePobz]

I applied seriously late to do my university course, but they didnt seem to mind, I still started on time.

I guess you should go to Cardiff, it sucks being at a crappy university - trust me, I know.

 

[johnmedz]

ya the last tihng you want to do is be unhappy later on because you didnt change schools. im really happy with the school im in in Florida but i went to a couple schools before this before i found my niche. if the educational program is much better at Cardiff, and youre not just going because of your freinds, then you should definately try to transfer. If you wanna change schools for social reasons though, its not necessarily bad, but i would think twice before changing for that reason,.

 

[kirovman]

I don't think it's too late to apply. Only one way to find out. You might as well apply now, you can still reject it later if you change your mind.

They'll probably have clearing anyway, I guess?

How many years have you been at Uni?

 

[Fat Tony!]

The deadline has passed you will have to go through clearing mate. Thats risky, I wouldn't bother.

Is Aber really that bad?? Im going to put it down as first choice, it seems really nice, as soon as I got there I really loved it. It seems small and therefore the social life isn't going to be intense which is perhaps why im going there... Didn't you think that might happen? Are you a shy type of person? Or a person who just likes to go out every night and be a uber social dude?

Either way, if you stay, we can have teh secks :O... I mean erm nothing

 

[StardogChampion]

Schooling isn't meant to be fun.

Just remember you got given a place on that course over someone else. That other person got told that they weren't getting on the course and had to bugger off somewhere else. It's just wasting a space that someone else could've had.

 

[KoreBolteR]

hmm mate, move down cardiff, the nightlife is good, ive been a few times.

i have heared that aberystwyth is really nice/good tho.. so i was surprised to hear you say that.

well my bro said cardiff uni was awesome. he went briefly too 2..
camarthen and cardiff uni.

id say go with your m8s to cardiff, enjoy your life while yare young.
by the way, if you go to cardiff, are you staying on this forum?

 

[burner69]

Hey cheers guys, nice getting a bit of support on the go.

Yes, aber is that bad - perhaps great for some people, not me.

Basically before I came to uni I lived in a smallish place but had a large network of mates, and a city nearby. While it wasn't crazy crazy all the time, we had a good night out once or twice a week, and even if nothing was going on there's always someone to bum around with, xbox, listen to music, whatever.

Going from that, to aber was hard. The social life sucks big time, it's damn near impossible to have a good night, believe me, I've tried. It's fine if you want to go to a few tacky pubs, get pissed, but if you want something nice, something decent, it just dosen't have it.

I was a total social animal before coming here, the first month was spent trying to get things happening, but each time, no matter how many people come out, no matter where you go, how much money you spend, the most you'll get out of a night is "It were alright." I can see that social animal side of me just dying out if I stay here, and I'll just end up as a boring w*nker. Not good. Not good at all.

The three clubs I was promised when I came down comprise of Yokos: A very small place, practically a bar, which is filled with slappers and townies. Expensive, shite music, cack.
The pier: The most abismal club I've ever stepped foot in. Imagine a school gym surrounded my sofas and a bar, filled with townies and a DJ who can't seem to understand that we DON'T want to listen to the top 40 pop countdown when we're in a club. Grr.
The bay: Great music. Some sketchy people. Tiny. Like really really small.

I had a friend who was going to quit earlier too (that's right, three people, and myself, wanting to quit in less than 6 months) and was telling her its not the place, it's the people. Fair play. But like I say the people here are really uptight, no-ones ever motivated to go out because they know its gonna be crap - vicious circle, but totally true.

Compare that to Cardiff; I've been down twice and I know more people than I do at Aber. I actually get along with them, we have things in common, we can sit and talk to eachother, and then there's the fact we have the oppurtunity to go clubbing, watch a game of footie, go to a cinema, go bowling, go shopping, you know - DO stuff.

Maybe I am taking the easy route out. Maybe Aber will get better, and in a years time I'll look back on this and laugh. But really, truthfully, I cannot see myself doing that. The only way I can see myself coping is 'getting used' to sitting around doing sweet FA, often on my billy no mates, or just yacking the usual sh*t to someone who's just popped over because they're bored too. Getting used to that? F**k that, it's killing me to try now.

S'gonna be a stressful week man, just hope it gets sorted.
Thanks all

EDIT: If I get internet I'll be staying on here, though unlikely to be on as much If not I'll be popping down the pooter room once a week or something to see what's happening.