Native Indian burial prayers for my dad?

[Stigmata]

I'm not entirely comfortable asking this sort of thing. I know it's going to bring some people down. But everyone on this forum has been great to me, despite the fact that I'm so very anti-social, even here.

A few of you might remember back in November, when I found out that my dad had terminal cancer. For the most part, up until now he's been okay, but I was told an hour ago that... he's only going to be with us for one more day.

My grandparents are here with us too, and as they are of Ojibwe descent, we've been searching for a proper burial prayer. I've searched for about ten minutes, and I've only found two versions of one prayers, but they don't seem to be the "right" prayer, at least to me. So maybe someone here knows of other ones?

It's all I really feel I should ask at a time like this. I don't want to ask that anyone be there for me to talk to, because that's not really fair to you, for me to put any of my grief onto anyone else's shoulders, especially people that I don't even know in real life.

That's all. I've pretty much relegated myself to the computer for the time being... He's sleeping. I really just don't want to see what's going on here. I'll be around.

 

[Reginald]

D: I really don't know what to say.

 

[Rizzo]

I feel for you. Not much to say.

 

[Solaris]

I'm really sorry about your dad, I really hope you manage okay.
I don't know any prayers, I am however a fan of Native American music, it's wonderful.

 

[Rizzo]

Yeah, i feel sorry, but still stupid, i mean, internet is very unpersonal.

 

[Parrot of doom]

http://www.native-languages.org/ojibwe.htm

 

[Dekstar]

I'm with the others. Sorry for your dad.

 

[spookymooky]

Important!

If you do this, make sure, sure that no buildings are ever built over his grave! Indian burial grounds are dangerous and should be handled with caution!

 

[Dekstar]

Important!

If you do this, make sure, sure that no buildings are ever built over his grave! Indian burial grounds are dangerous and should be handled with caution!

I'm sure he'll put up a sign or something.

 

[Ren.182]

Sorry, Stigmata.
Hope you get through all this ok. Good luck with the prayers. Sorry i couldn't help with them, i wouldnt know where to start.

 

[Rizzo]

Important!

If you do this, make sure, sure that no buildings are ever built over his grave! Indian burial grounds are dangerous and should be handled with caution!

I'm sure he'll put up a sign or something.

Yeah nice going, assholes.

 

[Parrot of doom]

Sometimes people need cheering up. Don't presume to take offence on behalf of somebody else.

 

[Rizzo]

Yeah, well I now i whouldn't like that.

 

[Dekstar]

Yeah nice going, assholes.

Hey people handle death in different ways. It's a pretty depressing subject so when I start to feel down I'd rather not, you know?

Stigmata - Is he still hanging in there?

 

[Beerdude26]

D: .

 

[Solaris]

Yeah nice going, assholes.

To be honest mate, I doubt he really gives a **** what we say. He's got far more important things to worry about that what someone said over the internet.

Plus it was quite funny, and maybe it will cheer him up.

 

[Parrot of doom]

Yeah, well I now i whouldn't like that.

Well that would be nice, if this thread was about you.

 

[spookymooky]

It was kind of on the edge. I considered deleting it, right after posting it, but I figured it wasn't in that poor of taste.

Just a bit of advice to Stigmata. Don't necessarily base the prayers on culture and origin. If they describe your dad and his life and hopes perfectly, that might be a better choice, even if it is some ancient Babylonian service, or something.

 

[Stigmata]

Hey people handle death in different ways. It's a pretty depressing subject so when I start to feel down I'd rather not, you know?

Stigmata - Is he still hanging in there?

No... he passed on yesterday, about 3pm ;( It was very quick and very painless, though, so considering everything, it couldn't have been better for him.


And I didn't take any offence to spookymooky and dekstar's posts at all. On the contrary, they really did make me feel better. I firmly believe that one of the most important abilities you should cultivate is the ability to find humor in everything, no matter how tasteless or socially inappropriate. So no matter what, if someone makes a joke about a sensitive matter like this, I'll laugh. It really helps. It's also nigh-impossible to legitimately offend me... and I did bring this point up back when I originally posted about all this. Thanks for the laughs

Spookymooky: I'll look into finding a prayer that might better reflect his life, but the Ojibwe prayer is, as far as I can tell, more for my grandparents' sake than my father's. I don't really mind one way or the other as far as this issue goes; everyone is going to need closure in a different sort of way, and if my grandparents need a traditional native prayer, then so be it. But I still agree with you. if I decide to say anything at the service, I'll make sure it's something that fits.

 

[Pulse]

Condolences to you stigmata, wish you and your family well through the tough time your facing right now, its never easy but hey- its life.

 

[Dekstar]

Sorry to hear he went Stig. At least it was quick.

Will it be a traditional burial, or does your family have something different planned?

 

[Stigmata]

Sorry to hear he went Stig. At least it was quick.

Will it be a traditional burial, or does your family have something different planned?

I really have no idea at this point. The funeral will be on Wednesday, so I've got a day or two to figure out what's going to happen as far as non-traditional services go.

 

[JNightshade]

You have my compassion. It's a good thing it was quick- it's better that way for everyone. Still, don't hesitate to post anything.

 

[DreadLord]

Still, don't hesitate to post anything.

'Cept kiddie porn.

 

[JNightshade]

Yeah, except for...

wait, what? Why not?

 

[brink's]

I feel for you stagima, just last Dec my father got diagnosed with Gastric cancer and maybe has a month left tops so i know how you feel. Best of luck man

 

[Azner]

Sorry stagima... hope you find a prayer soon

 

[Rizzo]

My best to you and your family.

And I didn't take any offence to spookymooky and dekstar's posts at all. On the contrary, they really did make me feel better. I firmly believe that one of the most important abilities you should cultivate is the ability to find humor in everything, no matter how tasteless or socially inappropriate. So no matter what, if someone makes a joke about a sensitive matter like this, I'll laugh. It really helps. It's also nigh-impossible to legitimately offend me... and I did bring this point up back when I originally posted about all this. Thanks for the laughs
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Well if you feel okay with it Stig, i guess i have nothing to wine about.