Stupid Dilemma

[Korgoth]

I honestly don't know where else to turn, so I thought what the hell, I go to hl2.net...

So the story goes like this, me and my best friend/roomate have been living together for some time now. About a year I guess, and everythings been hunky dory. When we first moved in, he had this girlfriend, him and her just didn't work well together. They just seemed to make eachother miserable, day in and day out, and all they had was sex...

Well one night she was over, he was drunk, passed out (every weekend occurance) and she came into my room. We kissed and she got naked blah blah, but I didn't do it... I couldn't, and I told her I wouldn't because hes my best friend. Well I told him, and they still stayed together for a while, but eventually went splitsville...

A couple months go by without her around, he finds a new one, uses her and tosses her to the side... Then some new people start at my work, and lo and behold, his ex is one of them. So now we've worked together for a couple of months... Well we started talking, being friends... She kept on with how much she liked me and how she wished it were me and her and not him... She was helping me get enrolled in school next semester, showing me where to go, and bam... One thing led to another and this last week its been me and her (my roomate works an opposite shift)...

So I do what I know is right and tell him whats going on, I knew he'd be mad, but he just blew up. It wasn't a fight, nothing like that, but he just did a complete 180 of what I thought he'd do.... I love her, its the closest I've ever been to true love, I honestly believe this. I used to hate her, but I love her, I can't explain it.

He won't have it, I think our friendship is broken, hes talking about moving (we just signed a six month lease), I can't swing this place by myself, and everything is just so ****ed up... I don't know what to do

 

[NeonSpyder]

He might be mad now, but if he's really your friend he will want you to do what makes you happy. If you get along so great with this girl and you both are very happy with each other then my hat is off to you.

Give your friend time to cool off.

Nobody who is your friend would have you sacrifice happiness just to make themselves feel better about not having their ex around.

 

[Aenama]

sucks ass man.

friends are more important then pussy imo.

 

[Korgoth]

friends are more important, I agree... I don't know how this happened, because by all accounts I hated her guts... and all of a sudden "WHAM!" its like the most amazing thing thats ever happened to me.

But the bridge is burned, now I don't know what to do...

 

[Beerdude26]

Sit it out.

 

[Dalamari]

If she's not with him, go for it

 

[CyberPitz]

Hmm, from personal experience, I find that no mans land. You like her, etc etc, but it will more than likely dig at him, it won't end on good terms any way. It's a really bad feeling, when someone dates your ex..I honestly can't explain it, it's like being stabbed in the back, and I'm sure that is why he freaked. You don't expect that sort of thing from your best friend.

My best friend, his girlfriend, and I lived together. Well, they were split up, but we all lived together, yeah I know...creepy situation. Well, we *me and her* liked each other a good deal. We were both single, we had the sexual chemestry, but we both knew it wouldn't work at all. We knew how much it would hurt her ex/my best friend. So we decided to stay friends. It's not like you'll NOT find anybody else you'll feel the same way with. You may lose sex for a while, but you'll keep your best friend.

My personal opinion is to evade..do a barrel roll. I find freindship is so much more important than a girlfriend.

 

[Raeven0]

A dilemma is a problem involving choice between two (hence di- "two") mutually exclusive options (hence lemma "proposition").

What you have is just a problem, not a dilemma.

Yes, I'm a usage bitch.

 

[Geogaddi]

DON'T DATE/F*CK YOUR FRIEND'S GIRLFRIENDs/EXs.

EVER