Terrible advice from your parents

[Kinslayer]

I was subjected to a fair quantiy of bad ideas, advice, and influence on my parents. Some well intended, some not. Among the worst influences . .. .

• Taught to be an ultimate niceguy, and as a mentally-strong but naïve sheltered person, I became exactly that.
• Severe verbal punishment for the most minor inconveniences & the slightest ****-up was the end of the world, by parents that are NEVER willing to lose. Too much energy to fight & I became a walk-on-eggshells guy.
• Severely teased about girls before I had a clue what it was about & advice given for attracting women did the opposite.

Which resulted in . . .

• No constructive social skills & behaviors that only put people off, which all I knew was to do the same thing stronger. (yikes!!)
• Horrible with women in every way, never kissed until 24, ended up in a ****ed-up-beyond-belief relationship with the worst imaginable female.
• Despite amazing skills, my business failed over and over and over because I had every “walk on me” vibe imaginable.

Minus that 1-year lost to the ****ed-up relationship, I have transformed myself into a completely different person over the last 3 years & constantly shock others with how much and how fast I change.

Now?

• I’m satisfied with my “seductive skills” and “natural” instincts. Kissing? Set a new record of 7 (attractive) girls in one night recently. Now I bite necks, pull hair, and tease because I’m sick of getting sick.
• I’m a lot more chill & now do things for my own entertainment. People enjoy me a lot more, often the life of the party, and steadily growing as an “alpha male.”
• My business is finally going places, I’ve done things many can’t even dream about.

What’s important is not “who you are” or who your parents raised you to be, or your background and environment. What’s important is who you want to be, the person you transform yourself into. It’s not so easy until you leave your parents house, or preferable the general region, but if I were to offer one piece of good advice . . .

Take responsibility for your own life.

a.k.a.

STOP BEING A F***ING PU$$Y!!!

Cool story, bro.

Also what Crushenator said.

I especially lol'd at:

People enjoy me a lot more, often the life of the party, and steadily growing as an “alpha male.”

and

transformed myself into a completely different person over the last 3 years & constantly shock others with how much and how fast I change.

 

[Rico]

Holy crap!

I am so surprised at how fast phantomdesign has changed.

It's like I'm constantly being shocked!

 

[Jintor]

What's yer business phantom?

My dad gave me some awesome advice. "Nothing in this life is free."

Hell yeah, everything has a catch!

 

[VirusType2]

What's yer business phantom?

My dad gave me some awesome advice. "Nothing in this life is free."

Hell yeah, everything has a catch!

I got something similar:

My Dad and my Step Dad says "nothing in life is free"

My Mom says "the best things in life are free"

So which is it?

 

[MuToiD_MaN]

1. My mom made me promise I wouldn't live with my girlfriend before marrying her. How the hell are you going to know whether you're going to be able to stand living with that person unless you give it a whirl? Anyway, I've since stayed with my g/f for several months at a time on numerous occasions. She's my fiancée now, and I'm knocking REALLY HARD on wood here, but the two of us have been very happy and I'm going into this thing without any worries and I'm glad I didn't do what my mother said.

2. My dad probably didn't realize he was doing this to me when I was growing up, but he shut down my inquisitive mind around 10 years old. For example, I would ask about details of a chore he'd ask me to do, or just ask about certain things and he'd sometimes snap at me, telling me to figure things out myself. The result was that I stopped asking people questions which really hurt me when I was in college classes. Software engineering requires having a red flag that pops up when software requirements have holes. Instead of asking questions I paved over those holes with my own assumptions. Which is very bad because then you get a product that the designer didn't have in mind.

So when you guys have kids, don't lose your patience when they ask questions, because everyday life requires you to speak up. Today I'm horrible at it.

 

[Tollbooth Willie]

I got something similar:

My Dad and my Step Dad says "nothing in life is free"

My Mom says "the best things in life are free"

So which is it?

All of of them are wrong. Your dads are wrong because the best things in life are built out of sandpaper and nylon rope. Your mom is wrong because she is a woman.

****ing life lessons here.

 

[VirusType2]

All of of them are wrong. Your dads are wrong because the best things in life are built out of sandpaper and nylon rope. Your mom is wrong because she is a woman.

****ing life lessons here.

this post rocks.

but what can I make with sandpaper and nylon rope - a hanging noose?

 

[Tollbooth Willie]

I never said you could make anything good out of it. That is unless you can't take all this shit anymore, then you have yourself a nice noose to take care of all your problems with.






I'm not gay.

 

[DEATHMASTER]

I'm not gay.
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LAVA DICK

lulz.

 

[kupocake]

Not bad advice as such, but my mum pretty much guilt-tripped me into going to University just 'because I should' when I wasn't really ready for it. False started final year once, and now I'm less than two weeks away from final hand-ins with just over 10,000 words to write. Got through my first two years just fine, ran out of steam... or rather certain things caught up with me. Can't see a future in this, but I'll shit this work out and with any luck, I won't have to wake up the day I get the lousy marks back.

edit: the worst thing for me, is that I feel so distant from my parents as a result. I don't really blame them for my growing inclination to screw up, but I know I don't know them as people and they sure as hell don't know what they are prepared to deny.

 

[Tollbooth Willie]

lulz.

Oh you god damn shitty bitch.

 

[Jintor]

I got something similar:

My Dad and my Step Dad says "nothing in life is free"

My Mom says "the best things in life are free"

So which is it?

Your dad is right. The best things in life have a price, or at least some pre-requisites.

 

[VirusType2]

Your dad is right. The best things in life have a price, or at least some pre-requisites.

I'm not convinced. ...leaning the other way to be honest, though I am really attached to my computer. Not physically of course, but one day perhaps?

 

[Jintor]

Don't worry, the prices are usually something like "Smile once in a while" or "Don't **** up the earth so that sunsets still look beautiful".

 

[VirusType2]

Even I can afford a smile

Or can I... :frown:

 

[Jintor]

Also, that 'one day perhaps' comment is a leeeeetle creepy.

 

[VirusType2]

computer love. Don't fight it.

 

[Naph]

I really don't think the audio jack is the right size...

Too big.

 

[Jintor]

Zing!

 

[Azner]

My dad gives me incredible advice, mostly related to shutting my mouth when mum is ranting. I love her, but she has this major problem with blowing things out of proportion. She really loves accentuating the negatives.

Typical chinese family

 

[phantomdesign]

I'd rather help random strangers on a video-game forum than "look cool," I'd be failing hard with all that "qualifying."

Looks like your parents missed out the one thing they needed to teach you the most. Clearly you aren't a self proclaimed grand master of modesty yet

*GRIN*

Holy crap! I am so surprised at how fast phantomdesign has changed. It's like I'm constantly being shocked!

Maybe if you pull the tazer out of your...

j/k, much <3

What's yer business phantom?

Like my name says, I design ghosts & imaginary things.

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