Would you give up your IP address for trust?

Would you give away your IP address to gain trust?

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Well okay, me and my Fiance have been dating for over 6 months now, and she learned about half way that i watched Pornography. She asked me to stop watching it and I have.

Thing is, she doesn't trust me, and she wants me to prove that I dont watch it anymore by giving up my IP address and handing it over to some third party sixteen year old half-bit hacker who will log all websites I visit.

I am totally against it, not because I fear she will find out anything, but because I dont feel its a good idea to hand out my IP address to just anyone. I feel at the same time, if i open my computer up to this guy, he could just as easily throw in a key logger or some other sort of tracker.

Bottom line, I feel this is totally absurd and a huge invasion of privacy. What do you guys think?
 
She knows him from her HS. I dont know him personally.
 
It's hardly an absurd and huge invasion of privacy. Almost every single website you visit will log your IP address, including mine, which could let any old monkey hack you. They're mostly used to track website stats.

Just tell her it, then unplug your modem then plug it in again and you'll probably get a new IP.

Also, if this "fiance" is one of those internet only girlfriends then this is just stupid. Also, anyone who doesn't watch porno, including females, is just weird anyway.
 
Don't do it. And if she really wants you to do it, tell her you want her to do the same. The computer is your only real private way of communication with the world (well, it is for me :p).

Btw, she'll probably start thinking you like phonesex too over time if you talk too much on the phone :p
 
Deadline said:
Bottom line, I feel this is totally absurd and a huge invasion of privacy. What do you guys think?
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Absolutely. There are two issues here;

-She's making an issue out of your watching porn. Is she religious? Insecure? In my experience, girls don't like it but they don't make the same issue out of it that you're currently facing

-She doesn't trust you, and wants to spy on you to prove your innocence. This is beyond the pale. If innocent until proven guilty doesn't hold here, there's some trust issues that need to be sorted out. You've said you have stopped, and that should be enough; you've already given something up for her, and the last thing you need is another invasion of your personal life.

Don't give out your IP.
 
There are programs that you can set too run and they monitor everything you do, if youre gf puts the pass in, theres no way for you to disable it.

Still it is an invasion of privacy, she has no right to request something like that.
 
My suggestion is to find a girlfriend without too many problems with pornography. There's actually alot of women out there that like it.

However... there's a difference between looking at porn, and looking at it so much it gets in the way of a relationship. If you're in a sexual relationship, you shouldn't really have a need for pornography.

My 2 cents.
 
Raziaar said:
My suggestion is to find a girlfriend without too many problems with pornography. There's actually alot of women out there that like it.

However... there's a difference between looking at porn, and looking at it so much it gets in the way of a relationship. If you're in a sexual relationship, you shouldn't really have a need for pornography.

My 2 cents. (That goes into pornography)
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K fixed :p
 
Raziaar said:
If you're in a sexual relationship, you shouldn't really have a need for pornography.
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Why? Because your partner should be able to satisfy you completely? Men, and sometimes moreso women, have needs that their partner cannot meet 100% of the time
 
Absolutly not.

1. What kind of relationship has no trust and requires your partner to hire some ****tard kid to spy on you?

A strange one.

2. If you see that kid, please kick him in the stomach for me.

3.Whats wrong with porn?

If you can't look at porn, she can't speak other men, incase she accidently has sex with them. (sorry, stupid example, but I think you get the idea.)
 
Does she have a problem with you pleasuring youreself, or only when looking at other woman.

Why not make a porn movie of youre gf, then you can both be happy.
 
Deadline said:
Well okay, me and my Fiance have been dating for over 6 months now, and she learned about half way that i watched Pornography. She asked me to stop watching it and I have.

Thing is, she doesn't trust me, and she wants me to prove that I dont watch it anymore by giving up my IP address and handing it over to some third party sixteen year old half-bit hacker who will log all websites I visit.

I am totally against it, not because I fear she will find out anything, but because I dont feel its a good idea to hand out my IP address to just anyone. I feel at the same time, if i open my computer up to this guy, he could just as easily throw in a key logger or some other sort of tracker.

Bottom line, I feel this is totally absurd and a huge invasion of privacy. What do you guys think?
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sorry but if she doesnt trust you now she never will ...this is completely beyond what is considered normal behaviour
 
BIG WARNING SIGNS!!!

For a start, if you watch porn and like it then NO WOMAN should be telling you what to do. Tell her to like it or take a hike. DO NOT be the doormat you currently are.

She doesn't trust you??? boo fricken hoo, again she better shape up or ship out! Why are you even getting married if she can't trust you?

Its a power struggle at the moment and shes wearing the trousers - if you like wearing skirts then keep doing what your doing...

Seriously you need to lay down some huge boundaries and put her in her place as shes well over the line - If you don't she WILL only get worse when you marry her...

If you can't be a man then dump her ass ASAP as marrying her will only be a life of misery with a woman like her.
 
CptStern said:
sorry but if she doesnt trust you now she never will ...this is completely beyond what is considered normal behaviour
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Yeah right, how did she break the news? 'Sorry honey, but I'm pretty sure you're still masturbating to hot women having sex so I'm hiring a sixteen year old to check up on you'

EDIT: Jesus christ, she's your fiance? How old are you both?
 
jondy said:
Yeah right, how did she break the news? 'Sorry honey, but I'm pretty sure you're still masturbating to hot women having sex so I'm hiring a sixteen year old to check up on you'

EDIT: Jesus christ, she's your fiance? How old are you both?
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:LOL:
wow...
hmm....if this girl needs you to change, its probably not worth it...don't get me wrong here because some times change is good/neccessary but her having a problem with you watching porn? hmm...whats next? her having problem with you masturbating?

i agree with Stern on this one.
 
Smack that dumbass bitch foo'

Then get her to make you a sandwich.

(I do not condone domestic violence in any shape, way or form.)
 
Tell her you don't want her looking at other men, then. Not even thinking about them. A shrink will monitor her every few weeks.

:p
 
I wouldn't give damn about her if she asked me to stop watching pornography and then if she didn't trust me that I did, if i did.
 
Tell her that you also gave up mastubation, food and breathing.
 
Can I ask, why the f*ck are you getting married at 19? To someone that you've dated for 6 months? To someone that is ordering you to get a website logger, who is some weird 16 year old?
 
If your going to do it tell her that she also has to be tracked to make sure she isn't looking at pron online as well. While the kid is making sure your not on pron go rent some good pron videos.
 
1. Tell her a fake ass IP

2. If she were smart enough, she could just simply log into your PC and find it out herself, but, since she's asking you.. it's highly obvious...

3. Confront her, tell her you look at porn because you're tired of seeing her ugly ass all the time.
 
Well, that's always a good way to have a relationship..and the fact you're getting married to her is a little scary. I said no, because it's silly. Him having your IP address for one has nothing to do with logging sites. And marriage and relationships are based on trust..she doesn't trust you? She needs to get over it, or throw that in her face. I was in one of those relationships, and it turned out rotten soon after...they show their ugly untrust in weird ways.
 
Give your IP to whoever you want. You can't do crap w/ just an IP...

(I voted yes because my ip is 70.181.247.39 and i'd give it away for no reason at all, let alone for trust.)

She probably just made the whole story up so she could make you think you were being watched to make sure you were doing what you said if you gave her the ip (Best sentence syntax ever!)
 
You're getting married to someone who doesn't trust you, after 6 months? Woah. Mate, I'd look at your relationship if I were you. If she can't trust you to not watch pornography, which isn't really an entirely reasonable demand anyway, what else doesn't she trust you to do?

Relationships, especially marriages are pretty much based on mutual trust. Tell her to start trusting you or give that ring right back.
 
The relationship already sounds a bit sour after 6 months...what happens if you get married and 6 months later it falls apart? There is a reason people date for a long time and don't jump right to marriage...
 
Dont get married.

Its stupid and will end in divorce.
 
First of all: 6 months and you're planning on getting married? What are you, nuts? Have you spent any longer amount of time together in the same building?

Second: If she really loves you, you love her and you show it to her, and your relationship is healthy in general, she wouldn't care. You know what, tell her to stop masturbating and fantazising about other guys while she does. Fantasy != reality.
 
you mean she didn't know you looked at porn before?

...buhahahahhahahahahahahahaahahhaduadhuiasdhahaha
 
How old are you even?

She knows him from her HS
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That implies she still goes to HS...that can't make you much older...say 19 or 20 at most? That is way too early to get married to someone...after 6 months. What about college...you can't give her or college enough time that is needed to get by. It will be very hard on both of you. If you aren't going to college how do you plan to get anywhere and support a future child? You need to set your priorities straight. She might be amazing but you need to secure your future first...for the both of you.
 
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