would you have (be happy with) a relationship with absolutely no sex? read first

relationship without sex

  • yes

    Votes: 29 30.2%

  • no

    Votes: 51 53.1%

  • other

    Votes: 5 5.2%

  • what's sex?

    Votes: 11 11.5%
  • Total voters
    96
jverne

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so i was arguing with some of my female friends.

the main point was, that in average, a guy pursues a relationship because of the potential for sex. it may be just shallow sex or it can be some long dreamed fantasy. but in essence it is about sex.
i added that this is true at least for the beginning of the relationship. later it becomes more complicated, but i'm taking more about the beginning.

we have to take into consideration if the guy has best friends or not. since i'm starting to believe that a relationship is basically "very good friends who ****". and if you do have friends who you can share your secrets with then partners are mostly for having sex and doing things together that doing with friends would be considered inappropriate.


any thoughts?


edit: forgot to mention you are not allowed to **** around with others, so basically spend all your life with someone without sex.
edit#2: people who experienced sex, might have a higher credibility. since if you didn't try sex, then how can you be sure, right?
edit#3: it would be nice if you argumented you decisions
 
No, I would need to express myself sexually sooner or later.
I've been with my girl for about 5 years now, if we never ****ed during those 5 years... it probably would've been pretty boring.
 
xlucidx said:
No, I would need to express myself sexually sooner or later.
I've been with my girl for about 5 years now, if we never ****ed during those 5 years... it probably would've been pretty boring.
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kind of what i'm saying. sex in average plays a MAJOR part in a relationship (atleast in my opinion).

i think that technically, life revolves around sex. i'm not talking about "empty my balls" type of sex. but kind of the whole point of having the opposite gender is about having sex. which probably then leads to having a children and possibly a family.
 
My boyfriend and I have been recently going out, and we've talked about having children. I'm not too keen on having them because of what I've seen from other children these days, but my boyfriend doesn't care either way. We're in this relationship because of my great love for him and his feelings for me, and if he does or does not want to do....that, that's fine by me.
 
toaster-chan said:
Just because you want sex in a relationship doesn't mean that it is, nor should it be, the backbone of the relationship.

I wouldn't want to be in a long-term relationship without sex, but I wouldn't want to be in a long-term relationship without love or other such sappy bullshit, either.
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tell me...what do you think love is?
 
Teisatsu said:
My boyfriend and I have been recently going out, and we've talked about having children. I'm not too keen on having them because of what I've seen from other children these days, but my boyfriend doesn't care either way. We're in this relationship because of my great love for him and his feelings for me, and if he does or does not want to do....that, that's fine by me.
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typically female-ish.

sex is like the backbone of love. you can never get more intimate than that.

anyway, i still need an explanation what is love. oh and you don't need a partner to feel love.
 
highlander said:
Yeah. :D!


Never said we couldn't masturbate :D
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masturbation is like boring

Shippi said:
A relationship without sex would simply seem like a good friendship and to me that defies the point of being boyfriend and girlfriend/in a relationship. So, nope, I wouldn't be happy. Just as sex without the whole love/relationship thing seems too empty to be appealing.
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i partially agree, but what is love to you?
 
No, if I was going out with someone who I was really attracted too, it would be against the very laws of nature to not start having sex eventually, if they wanted to that is, I would never pressure anyone into it.
 
Of course people would go for relationships without sex. Just look how many sexless marriages there are out there with wildly conservative people. Heh.
 
Raziaar said:
Of course people would go for relationships without sex. Just look how many sexless marriages there are out there with wildly conservative people. Heh.
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now that is not true. conservative people do have sex, just very little and very plain. monks are technically without sex. but they are not in a relationshit, so it doesn't matter

edit: ups...i meant relationship :p
 
jverne said:
edit: forgot to mention you are not allowed to **** around with others, so basically spend all your life with someone without sex.
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No. If she doesn't want to have sex with me, ever, then we can't be together. If she really cared about what I want in life, then she wouldn't be such a prude. If her vagina is so sacred, the least she could do is give me a hand job or blow job every now and then. Daily. You only get one life, and having sex is the ultimate perk of being alive, not to mention a huge stress relief. I don't want to spend my life all pent up with gangrene balls.


EDIT_ I may consider it if she is a really awesome friend, and I'm convinced that she won't have sex with anyone else either. As long as I love her and enjoy being with her, and can still masturbate, it might be okay.

I think it would hurt to not be desired by your 'lover' though - I mean does she want to have sex with me but can't? Or just doesn't want to have sex with me? or Anybody? This would make a big difference in how I feel about it.
 
jverne said:
now that is not true. conservative people do have sex, just very little and very plain. monks are technically without sex. but they are not in a relationshit, so it doesn't matter

edit: ups...i meant relationship :p
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That's what you call a relationship that goes nowhere and is a waste of time!!! :cheese:
Sorry, couldn't resist that!!! :E
 
Must resist urge to make mom joke.

Unblock me you fajjot.
 
Wouldn't be any different than what's going on now.

Where do you think my name came from :naughty:
 
The fact that your avatar is a right hand bothers me.
 
It was actually a picture of a left hand, but I specifically flipped it to screw with people.
 
Thank god the poll is private. I wouldn't want anyone to know I voted the 2+2th one.
 
Er, no, thanks.

jverne, you keep asking people "WHAT IS LOVE?" so I shall pre-empt you.

Avoiding the awful truth that love is a chemical impulse derived from evolutionary imperatives, and that love without sex usually cannot exist (because love's purpose in the body and the mind is to help reproduction)...

Love is when you squeeze someone's hand and they squeeze back - or, less vaguely, love is when you truly believe in the absolute reality of another human being. Many of us don't seem to really believe other people are quite real in the same way that we are. Sex belies that. Two people playing each other's bodies. There's another thinking person rather like yourself on the other end of that nervous system, and the real fun part is not so much how you happen to be rubbing your erogenous zones together but more that you are actively feeling each other and responding to each other.

ITP: Sulkdodds takes the piss, because deceit is beautiful.
I'd never want anyone to open their soul to me.
 
Oh, take me in your arms and compress me. Compress me tight!
 
I'm 23, a relationship without sex is called either friendship (lol) or coworker.


If yer female, within my age range, and interested in relations with me, chances are we are ****ing or were not in a relationship, period.

we have to take into consideration if the guy has best friends or not. since i'm starting to believe that a relationship is basically "very good friends who ****". and if you do have friends who you can share your secrets with then partners are mostly for having sex and doing things together that doing with friends would be considered inappropriate.
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Not really, it might grow to something deeper hen mere friendship, but to begin with I am not interested in a friend, I want a lover, someone I'm friendly with but who I wouldn't be all chummy with, I already have friends for that platonic stuff, female and male.



I aint no one night standtard, but yeah, I guess I can agree the biggest motivator for a relationship is the romance and intimacy, you can call it just wanting sex if you wish.


Highlander said:
Never said we couldn't masturbate
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Sex noob?.

Seriously man, do you know how maddening it is to have the prospect for sexual intercourse so close yet you cant have it?, masturbation at best is a pressure valve, it helps, but only so much, sooner or later you either have to have yer woman or take a really long cold shower and avoid female contact for a while. :p


Naw, maybe not that bad, but when yer in a relationship, masturbation is merely the side order to the main course.
 
the real fun part is not so much how you happen to be rubbing your erogenous zones together but more that you are actively feeling each other and responding to each other.
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Necrophiliacs need not apply.
 
Love is when you basically KO yourself o an open window frame and when you come out yer daze she is looking at you, attending to you with those concerned eyes and smile of relief that your okay. :)




****ing bitch.... :|



(Lol...long story....)
 
Only if it's a really ****ing cool girl that I love to death.

But i'm not one to be picky...

I've been having fun with both my left and right hands for long enough, I don't see why I can't keep having fun with them and still have a lovable sack of flesh to hold every so often.
 
toaster-chan said:
I LOVE YOU SULKDODDS, PLEASE MARRY ME











baby don't hurt me
don't hurt me
no more
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BITCH!

DON'T BE TALKIN TO MA MAN LIKE DAT! AIGHT?!?!?!

God DAMN woman, getchoself a fuggin DILDO or SOMETHIN, cause I call ma cock SULKDODDS, and it calls me BAYBEH!
 
I'd be fine without sex. I want a child, though, because I like kids. I'd either:

A) Test-Tube Baby

B) Adopt.

Edit: I'm 16. Is there something wrong with me?
 
toaster-chan said:
but
but

i just want to pinch his rosy cheeks and tell him that he's beautiful as we fall asleep in each other's arms ;_;
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All of Sulk's sexual partners must be approved by his sex tester beforehand. With me being his current sex tester, I'm afraid you'll have to go through me before any such shenanigans can happen. Sulk only accepts the best of the best.
 
**** no. As others have said before, a relationship without sex is basically just friendship.
 
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