Dealing with Arrogance

[Pesmerga]

Don't make it unfair. Do it when he's awake, provoke aggression, then be relentless. Incapacitate his physical and mental ability to fight.

But be prepared to get your ass handed back to you.

 

[Druckles]

Are you sure it's not you who's being arrogant?

 

[_Z_Ryuken]

Arrogance is a tool to charm submissive women. When men use it haphazardly against other men, it's both wrong and gay.

 

[Rico]

If some "friend" of mine told me "don't make yell at you" I'd be hard press to find a reason not to deck him next time I saw him.

Seriously, you can't take that crap from your friends. Either both of you cut the stupid crap or one of you decks the other, or you stop being friends. That's how you deal with arrogance.

 

[Angry Lawyer]

Ultimatum him.

"Dude, you keep doing that and I stop associating with you. Make your choice."

-Angry Lawyer

 

[Darkside55]

Here's how you deal with it:

You take his bullshit during the day, and then at night you come onto an internet forum and bitch about his actions passive-aggressively. Make some lipservice for "help," but really don't expect or want any. The next time you talk to your friend and he pulls the same shit, don't make any attempts to tell him to knock it the f*ck off, but instead rage inwardly about it until you get back to the forum and can vent.

 

[CptStern]

wow you're razor sharp today ...and cynical to boot ...I like the cut of your jib

 

[Slug Advisor]

One of my friends was a little bitch like that for a while, but I somehow was able to remain pretty friendly with him, although he'd get pissed everytime we just laughed at him and overall, lowered his self esteem. I don't think he was nearly as bad as what those other two guys were describing, though.

 

[sinkoman]

Here's how you deal with it:

You take his bullshit during the day, and then at night you come onto an internet forum and bitch about his actions passive-aggressively. Make some lipservice for "help," but really don't expect or want any. The next time you talk to your friend and he pulls the same shit, don't make any attempts to tell him to knock it the f*ck off, but instead rage inwardly about it until you get back to the forum and can vent.

Nail + head = you

 

[Pesmerga]

That sounds like it hurts!

 

[kupocake]

It sounds like he's simply interested in meeting new people and hanging around with them TBH. It doesn't mean he's through being your friend, but you really shouldn't let it get you down. If your friendship is worth it, it will last even if it means making an effort sometime in the future when he's not being a douche. If not, you'll have found other people to replace him with.

That's how it is with all of my pre-Uni friends anyway. No negative-feelings, the occasional nostalgic meet-up and the general fact of being able to carry on without many of them.

I really don't want to write him off as a friend, and let things escalate to the point where we get physical.

"What, you mean like... Anger Buttsechs?"

 

[Warbie]

I was best mates with this guy at my old school for about 5 years or so - i'd eat at his house 2 or 3 times a week, got on well with his family etc. As we got older he started bullying people and getting into fights - which I didn't like, but he was my mate and it's handy having a big guy on your side. Then one day out of the blue he told me to take his books to his locker - to which, jokingly, I told him to **** off. He then looked at me and in all seriousness ordered me to do as he said. And that was that - I walked away and we didn't speak again.

My advice - tell him to **** off and see what happens

 

[Jintor]

Here's how you deal with it:

You take his bullshit during the day, and then at night you come onto an internet forum and bitch about his actions passive-aggressively. Make some lipservice for "help," but really don't expect or want any. The next time you talk to your friend and he pulls the same shit, don't make any attempts to tell him to knock it the f*ck off, but instead rage inwardly about it until you get back to the forum and can vent.

To the point.

 

[Wanted Bob]

The man's making sense.

 

[Kula Meenur]

A friend of mine has turned into an arrogant & cocky prick, and i'm really having a tough time dealing with it.

I've told him, straight to his face, that he's changed, and that he's being really arrogant & cocky, and he wasn't fazed at all.

So i've just made it a point in the way I emote myself in conversation and daily interpersonal interaction that we are absolute equals, and that he's not a better person than me, and I can tell that he's getting the picture.

Maybe subconsciously, but I can tell that it's working, because i've noticed that he's been getting really irritated with me, and straight up being confrontational with me, since I no longer just submit to his shit.

So I really don't know what to do. The way my social group works out, it's really difficult for me to outright ignore him, and because we used to be REALLY close friends, almost brothers, I really don't want to write him off as a friend, and let things escalate to the point where we get physical.

I really don't want to ignore him, and I REFUSE to submit to him, but doing so just creates conflict, and i'd rather avert conflict, because I really do believe that he'll become his normal self some day.

How the hell do you deal with somebody like this?

Jump down the bastards throat. Just floor him. If you cant do that then say **** off and have as little to do with him as possible.

Blokes like that sort themselves out as they mature, but if they don't then they need a good kick in the teeth to straighten out the carpet. Might as well be you.