Ditching bad friends

[Warped]

Has anyone here ever got rid of some close friends because they started acting weird or different towards you? I'm talking about those friends who you hang out with every week. Could be just one or many friends.

I did about 3 years ago and a lot of times i look back at how much fun I had with them...regardless of how they treated me. But we also grew up around each other and occasionally I see them from time to time in local shops. But the friends I used to hang around with were really cool when we were younger, then we got into drugs for a bit and they became total douchbags. I got out of it as soon as they started going downhill, and apparently they're still using on and off.

So who here have completely ditched their friends and whats the story behind it all?

 

[unozero]

yup I only did this with one girl I knew back in Middle School.She's actually a whore some where in Frankfurt now.
me and a bunch of other mutual Friends tried something like a intervention too, she wanted none of it and told us that she'd do fine without us.

 

[Diesel_Power]

I had a period where I stopped hanging out and talking with a bunch of my friends half way through high school because they started acting stupid and stopped showing me respect. 6 years later we now realize how stupid we were all acting in high school and were friends again. It's just ashame were all older now and busy doing our own things, we don't get to see each other as often.

Just got to let your friends go their way and you go your own way.

 

[Shamrock]

Just got to let your friends go their way and you go your own way.

Spoiler

Turn your speaks down.. Unimaginably loud for no apparent reason..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GN2kpBoFs4

 

[PriNcE oF SpAcE]

a word of advice and unfortunately I'm speaking from experience, but if a "friend" ****s you over once, then don't ever give them a second chance they'll just do it all over again. learn from my mistake it'll save you a bunch of trouble in the end.

 

[Warbie]

All friends will **** you over eventually - the trick is to **** them over first!

 

[Tyguy]

All friends will **** you over eventually - the trick is to **** them over first!

or just flat out **** them

 

[Pulse]

Changed friendship groups in secondary school and it was possibly one of the best decisions of my life.

 

[PvtRyan]

I like the Seinfeld episode on this subject, where he tries to "break up" with a friend. How the hell do you do that? I don't think it's possible. I think you usually just drift apart.

It's actually online here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDdJ5ahkEnc

 

[Xendance]

I never really ditched this guy, but I'm glad I moved away.

In primary school, he'd basically own me and was like my only friend. If he announced that he didn't want to be friends, I'd cry and it would honestly break my heart. Similar feeling to when a girl dumps you. If someone invited me to their party, I'd go, "but what about James?" in the hope he wouldn't get jealous.

He treated me like shit, although I considered him my best friend. For about an entire week, he and some other twat kept running away from me because I was apparently "the boogey monster" and so every morning I kept praying to God that it would be wet break - so I wouldn't see him at break, as we were in two different classes.

When I got into high school, I was making more friends and began talking to them. I wrang my so called best friend up one morning to arrange meeting at the bus stop, but his mum answered and goes "He doesnt want to talk to you as you've been spending too much time with Derri."

I eventually had to move to another school, and it wasn't me who had to tell him. I was trying to figure out a way to tell him that I was moving, but I couldn't: I was probably his only really close friend. One day we both got called into the head of year's office, and the bloke goes, "So, William. I understand you're moving to another school?" - I had to talk about it right infront of James like he knew everything about it. We then got outside and there was a massive awkward feeling between us.

Eventually, I moved and have way more friends than in that other shit hole, and I'm glad I'm no longer controlled by somebody. Somebody hates me? I don't give a shit. I got plenty more friends to talk to. But when I was with that other guy, it was totally different.

 

[Shift]

Well I have switched friend groups often really, but recently we had to get rid of the drummer in my band because he was constantly coked up before gigs and was shit really, so had to sacrifice my friendship with him.

I am currently hanging around with the guys I hung around with through secondary school, there arent many of us but I think I now know who my true friends are with these guys, well them and the guys in my band.

Happy days.

 

[AJ Rimmer]

My best mate in high school basically ignored me completely two summers in a row. The first was when I was feeling sort of down and depressed, and he pretty much just kept being with all his other friends, but not me, even though he knew full well I was feeling like crap and needed some company. Second summer was actually last summer, after I moved out of town, and I was planning to come home for a week or two, which I had told him several days in advance, and he was thrilled, said he had the whole weekend free, and we planned to go to caf?s, get smashed with some other friends, hang out and catch up- sounds great. A few days later I get back home, and he's made plans with other people for the whole week. Plans that are about as anti-me as possible (meetings with christians- brr!). He spends about three or four hours with me on Saturday, then ****s off again because he says he "Has to go to this thing or this guy I know might get a bit upset with me". I go home two days later. So, pretty much, if the guy wants to see me, he'll have to get his ass up here. If not that's fine, he can go **** himself.

 

[cleverendeavouR]

I bounce around with friends, but I don't think I've ever had any "bad" ones.

 

[Raziaar]

Haven't had any tangible real life friends for quite a while now... but when it comes to friends online or not, I certainly have the capability to cut off all contact with them rather easily without it eating me up inside. And I have done this with a couple whom I have had years of daily contact with.

 

[Pesmerga]

I have pretty much abolished all current relationships with everyone I used to know. I'm starting some new ones soon, though, which I'm hopeful about.

 

[Krynn72]

My best friend when I was a kid. Me and him would hang out every day after school, but once we got into the second year of high school he started getting into drugs and alcohol, and I wouldn't have any of it. I slowly started distancing myself since we eventually lost a lot of things we had in common. After my sohpmore year, we never even ran into each other for another four years until I talked to him when I was back home for a stretch after college, and he seemed alright. Not great though, I hope he isnt in any trouble with anything.

 

[Mech Man]

a word of advice and unfortunately I'm speaking from experience, but if a "friend" ****s you over once, then don't ever give them a second chance they'll just do it all over again. learn from my mistake it'll save you a bunch of trouble in the end.

This. A while ago some douche I used to call my buddy (who was usually a douche on tolerable levels) started hanging around with some bigger douches. Then all of the sudden out of no where he started making up random stuff about me even while I was in the god damn room , so one day I was sitting there minding my own business and he starts making stuff up again so I got up and smashed his face into the back of his skull. The most satisfying week exclusion I ever got.

To be honest I should have seen it coming because he changed his attitude to fit in with new people all the time in the past , even with me , and still continues to do it to this day. Hope he dies in a dick avalanche.

 

[Warped]

I'm with some really good friends now thank god. we even buy each other meals here and there and we actually give eachother presents at christmas. but my previous group of friends were just assholes. we'd go to parties and shit and i'd always have to be the Designated Driver. the nights when I didn't DD someone would either get arrested or smash their car up. It was such a bad place for me. I seriously think they are suicidal sometimes the way they act with alcohol and drugs. Also the real bitch of a friend was a manager of an oil change place. and supposedly we were real good friends until i found out he was giving even random people free oil changes and he was charging me like $5-10 every time.

when i found out this info things got worse, because i was in the same room when i overheard them saying we don't have to hang around as much. i'm talking about people i hung out with for like 15 years of my life. i did so much for these douchebags and they just shit all over me. after i left the group some other friends left too, and one is actually getting married now. the other 2 guys got arrested from time to time and are probably going to be long time offenders.

if your in a friendship with someone and you feel like your fighting quicksand, you need to kill the relationship between the two (or more) of you before they drag you down

 

[Deleted member 56031]

It's happened to me aswell. But since then i've got new friends since I've went to uni so I suppose i'm okay even if you do remember the good times

 

[swan_song1973]

ya, and i ended up being >9000x better without them.

 

[Kadayi]

People come and go. I spent a great deal of my early life moving about (restless parents), so had to get used to meeting new people and making new friends as I went along. Distance is the true measure of friendship, much like it is of a relationship, some people you keep in contact with regularly or irregularly and others drop off the radar. Fact of the matter is, out of sight out of mind with most people. However along the way you will hook up with some people and the bond will stay strong. Generally the best friendships are the ones where you don't see each other for a couple of years, but when you do it's like you were never away. In my experience this generally comes down to having a shared interest in something tangible (such a comics, games, etc) rather than just good times.

As regards people letting you down this is inevitable. A good friend won't make the same mistake twice, a bad one will and should be dropped like a hot coal. Be prepared for the fact that friendships are very much of a time, and often you or your friends will outgrow each other, and it's not necessarily a bad thing to just let the friendship die out (much like a doomed relationship). I've lost a friends down the road that I'd have liked to have kept up, but the reality is there really wasn't much of a bond between us any more.