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Lots of different definitions of what a "friend" is.
Get online, I must discuss matters of great importance with you.
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friends are the closest thing to family.
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I'm about ready to agree with you. I'm seriously getting tired of getting ****ed over, and i'm really considering just straight up never trusting anybody ever again.
How the hell do you trust anybody in this world anymore? People just seem so damned slimy these days. I mean, of course there's good in all people, but i've yet to meet somebody I can really "trust" with anything anymore. It's starting to get to the point where a lot of the people I trusted have ****ed me over, and i'm wary to really get close to another person, EVER.
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Well recently my room mate stabbed me in the back. I thought he was a true friend but true friends don't bring home girls they know their friends like. Anyways...another one of my friends told me she is coming to pick me up to get me away from that and she brought me out for drinks and got me stupid drunk. After that she brought me home and we watched some show that I laughed my ass off at. That is what a true friend to me is. One who is "there" for you and makes you laugh. Someone you can trust and someone who when you say you would shank a b*tch or 2 for you actually mean it.
Yeah I agree with a lot of that but "true" friends are still out there. I am a very trusting person and have had that shoved in my face a lot. I guess what a true friend is will change from person to person.
Yeah I agree with a lot of that but "true" friends are still out there. I am a very trusting person and have had that shoved in my face a lot. I guess what a true friend is will change from person to person.
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wikipedia ftw?
A friend to me is someone you can trust, always count on, someone you can always turn to regardless of why, someone who will always listen with intent and honesty, someone that will never forget you for who you are, someone who will stay in touch no matter the distance...
I need more true friends. I can count on one hand the amount of 'true friends' i think i have.
Friends are just fodder, true friends are the people i really want to meet. Problem is, most people just listen and wait for their turn to speak. We need more honest people.
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Exactly. When my best friend for almost 10 years drops me for a girl that he KNOWS is bad for him....you can always tell where you are. After that, I decided I'm going to have a bunch of acquaintances, but no friends. I mean, hell, I consider people from this forum more of my "friends" than real life people. Maybe it's because I know you guys can't stab me in the back as bad... ;(
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I don't rely on any of my friends to bring me happiness. I've been a right prick to most of my friends at one point or another, so I can't really say I've ever had a best friend.
My current group of friends are pretty awesome, though. My best friend, at the moment, is my brother. He's never really forked me over, and I try my best not to fork him over.
My current group of friends are pretty awesome, though. My best friend, at the moment, is my brother. He's never really forked me over, and I try my best not to fork him over.
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Damn, I don't know if I could trust anybody after that either. That really sucks man.
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I feel for you cyberpitz ;(
Friends are people you can trust on at any time regardless of what it is. The number of "true friends" I have I can count on one hand :dozey: and even then I've never had a friend who has never done anything bad in someway towards me. Life sucks ;(
Friends are people you can trust on at any time regardless of what it is. The number of "true friends" I have I can count on one hand :dozey: and even then I've never had a friend who has never done anything bad in someway towards me. Life sucks ;(
Unfortunately you have to learn that true good friends are a luxury, you can't always have them.
When you do have them, you should feel lucky, when you don't have them, you should feel normal.
Not- "when you do have them you should feel normal, when you don't have them you should feel depressed."
It sucks, I know, and it takes a while to accept that reality.
At some point, after knowing and trusting someone long enough, and realizing that they are truely your best, you have to realize at some point they will probably f*ck up at some point in your friendship.
You can't let it go, you have to tell them about it. A true friend accepts the fact that they did something wrong (as long as it is within reason of course) and then works to patch things up and trys their best not to do it again.
When you do have them, you should feel lucky, when you don't have them, you should feel normal.
Not- "when you do have them you should feel normal, when you don't have them you should feel depressed."
It sucks, I know, and it takes a while to accept that reality.
At some point, after knowing and trusting someone long enough, and realizing that they are truely your best, you have to realize at some point they will probably f*ck up at some point in your friendship.
You can't let it go, you have to tell them about it. A true friend accepts the fact that they did something wrong (as long as it is within reason of course) and then works to patch things up and trys their best not to do it again.
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I agree with this statement in some ways. Shows why I'm on here more than any other forum.
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You know... I would consider a "true friend" that as well, but I've never had a relationship like that with anyone. A relationship is knowing what to say and what not to say. I don't feel that way about any one of my friends: secure, if I open my heart to them. Most of my friendships are apart of a group with a few closer friendships. I long for a friendship that I really could bare my heart to someone and have them embrace me. The friendship in Superbad; that's a relationship I want.
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I have a couple of true friends back at home, but here at uni I dunno. One or two here actually.
True friends are people who will hang out with you for ages, just doing nothing in particular. Or perhaps they'll organise something so that you can do it together and have a bit of fun. Sure I have most of my flat-mates, but they all have their own group of friends. I don't blame them for that, I have mine, but there are a few who you know just don't try. Those people I feel sad for.
One of my friends back home is my best friend ever. We've been friends for over 11 years now and if he turned gay, I would gladly turn gay too! 'Cause that's what friendship is; sacrifice... And hot, hot gay sex.
True friends are people who will hang out with you for ages, just doing nothing in particular. Or perhaps they'll organise something so that you can do it together and have a bit of fun. Sure I have most of my flat-mates, but they all have their own group of friends. I don't blame them for that, I have mine, but there are a few who you know just don't try. Those people I feel sad for.
One of my friends back home is my best friend ever. We've been friends for over 11 years now and if he turned gay, I would gladly turn gay too! 'Cause that's what friendship is; sacrifice... And hot, hot gay sex.
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A friend is somebody you can enjoy spending time with, and do on a regular basis--whether that be hanging out in a group or just casually by yourselves. A good friend is somebody who you trust, who you accept for who they are, who you're willing to listen to their shit, and who you don't necessarily need to hang out with regularly to try and keep contact with. And that works out so much better when they afford you the same courtesy.
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people need to really start taking advice. Or taking their own advice.
I have a problem with a really good friend, i won't bore you with details but basically this guy she's fooling around with is a complete sack of shit and she won't drop him yet he constantly blows her off and treats her like dirt..so in the end i eventually told her never to mention his name around me again or i wont talk to her ever.
She doesn't understand that i'm looking out for her and stuff but whatever if she gets an STD i will go up to her and LOL.
But yea it also ties in with "nice guys finish last" Because these days you aren't cool if you're truly a nice person. Girls these days are like almost always attracted to complete **** ups who have nothing going for them and reject all the nice guys who actually listen to them and enjoy their company not just looking for a piece.
I have found the same to be true when talking about friends. If you're nice you're extremely easy to take advantage of. I don't like thinking about that but i'm with you guys when i say i'm ready to give up and not trust anyone.
Nice people always get the shit end of the stick.
I have a problem with a really good friend, i won't bore you with details but basically this guy she's fooling around with is a complete sack of shit and she won't drop him yet he constantly blows her off and treats her like dirt..so in the end i eventually told her never to mention his name around me again or i wont talk to her ever.
She doesn't understand that i'm looking out for her and stuff but whatever if she gets an STD i will go up to her and LOL.
But yea it also ties in with "nice guys finish last" Because these days you aren't cool if you're truly a nice person. Girls these days are like almost always attracted to complete **** ups who have nothing going for them and reject all the nice guys who actually listen to them and enjoy their company not just looking for a piece.
I have found the same to be true when talking about friends. If you're nice you're extremely easy to take advantage of. I don't like thinking about that but i'm with you guys when i say i'm ready to give up and not trust anyone.
Nice people always get the shit end of the stick.
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aw shit. im from teh forums AND REAL LIFE!
trustworthy is #1. with out that there is no real friendship imo.
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friends- people I don't dislike, and see/interact with on a regular basis.
best friends- people who I spend most of my free time with. Actually, more like personwho I spend most of my free time with, because I think I only have one real bestest friend.
best friends- people who I spend most of my free time with. Actually, more like personwho I spend most of my free time with, because I think I only have one real bestest friend.
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Kinda hard to define a good mate from just being a friend, I've only got about 6 people I'd call good friends, don't really have any second-string friends since I graduated from HS. I guess I'd call a good friend anyone who you can be honest with, they'll still do shit that pisses you off but you can tell them you're pissed without ****ing up the friendship. But with normal friends you kinda have a facade, you never really get that personal with them.
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That's not entirely true. Submissive people get the shit end of the stick, by virtue of being "weaker" they don't usually command respect or status.
It's entirely possible to be dominant, commanding and also nice. The difference is that by being such a person, you don't need to be nice - you choose to be as an act of your own volition, rather than because you are weaker.
But being an unconditionally "nice guy" is a sign of weakness, and will be exploited as such. In fact you will find you elicit far more positive responses from people by being both strong and friendly - a leader, if you will, than by being a jackass. It's just that there are a hell of a lot more jackasses out there than true leader personalities.
Not particularly fair, but that's just life. Best to understand how things really work so you can turn them to your advantage. And don't hesitate to call people on their bullshit the instant they try anything, they will respect you for doing so. Social relationships are ultimately about power more than anything else.
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Indeed indeed.
Why must the people you care so much about, suck so much. Not that I am saying I'm not partly to blame. But I am tired of being on the blame end. Some people do some shit that I never would have done to them.
I used to have 3 or 4. I am down to 2. Maybe 2 and a half. Sometimes, I just don't know anymore.
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Aww.
I'm similar, only I become funny around people I'm comfortable with. A close friend is someone who you can hang about with and feel like it's time well spent even when you talk about nothing, or even not having to talk at all.
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In the case of facebook or myspace, a friend is someone who
a) Is a spam bot
b) Barely knows you
c) Is a stalker
d) Is a pedophile
e) all of the above
f) tollbooth willeh (see (e))
a) Is a spam bot
b) Barely knows you
c) Is a stalker
d) Is a pedophile
e) all of the above
f) tollbooth willeh (see (e))
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Friends are people who don't hold things against you, in my book. Not just things you've done (of course there are exceptions to that), but things about who you are. If you can feel comfortable to share something personal about yourself with someone, and they don't run a mile, then that's someone you want to keep around.
Of course, there are friends and then there are mates. Mates are important too, but they're mostly just people who are fun to hang around.
Of course, there are friends and then there are mates. Mates are important too, but they're mostly just people who are fun to hang around.
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Friends are people I enjoy spending time with, play games with on a fairly regular basis, and the like. These are people I know, but not particularly well. I enjoy spending time with them and talking to them, but I don't invest a great deal of trust in them.
Good friends are people I know well and spend a considerable amount of time with. I'm more willing to trust those I consider good friends. These are the kind of people who I'd invite to my home if they were in town.
I have three good friends, and about ten friends, everyone else I consider an acquaintance.
Good friends are people I know well and spend a considerable amount of time with. I'm more willing to trust those I consider good friends. These are the kind of people who I'd invite to my home if they were in town.
I have three good friends, and about ten friends, everyone else I consider an acquaintance.
