(HelpLife2.net)So I asked someone out...now what?

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She wants to hang out with you. That's what girls mean when they say "Let's hang out."

Congrats, my friend.
 
Well u know what they say...

When in Rome, masturbate.
 
You're f*cking screwed, man. Take it from me. You'll never get her. Ever. Just turn gay or kill yourself or... I dunno. Get the f*ck outta here, basically.
 
A) dont forget you have a spine for a reason: man up and stop being so indecisve

B) if signs point to her allowing you to touch her boobie, my advice is go for it
 
Going on from what Stern said; make conversation about cancer, then move it towards breast cancer, then offer to check her breasts for lumps.
 
dont forget that old standby: trip as you're walking towards her with both arms outstretched

"whoops! ..hey whatdoyouknow, no silicone"
 
Going on from what Stern and Eejit said; then change the subject to ovarian cancer, and offer to check her ovaries. With your penis.
 
make sure your penis is wearing a helmet/decorative hat

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I wouldnt suggest the viking themed one ..for obvious reasons
 
I dunno Stern he could leave the decision up to her. She might be into that kind of viking shit.

Also, you can offer to check for throat cancer, again using your penis.
And tell her that sperm has anti-carcinogenic properties, so to avoid stomach cancer she should swallow.
 
Eejit said:
I dunno Stern he could leave the decision up to her. She might be into that kind of viking shit.

Also, you can offer to check for throat cancer, again using your penis.
And tell her that sperm has anti-carcinogenic properties, so to avoid stomach cancer she should swallow.
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sperm also helps prevent cataracts
 
It's a wonder we guys don't get more sex. We're practically doctors!
 
Well, I spoke with again today.
the morning was...awkward, one of her other friends was hanging out around us, and I just got really uncomfortable.

Later on, our WL teacher was out, so I got to sit next to her, and we spent the whole time just talking. Found out she was on AOL instant messenger and got a screename.
When we went to her locker, I asked her when she'd like to hang out, and it looks like we'll be going to a Cinco de Mayo party on Friday. (Kadayi, its too late, shes known I don't do a whole lot, and am kinda anti-social) Shes also helping me with some geometry work.

Emporius- You say many things that are true, but I think I may be getting attached to her already
Glirk-shes definitely not one of those rare bitch girls.

I think I'll wait till Friday and see how/where things go from there.
 
Was it wrong to ask when she'd like to go out?

I can't help but feel that I made her think she was obligated to invite me along.
Or am I just becoming paranoid?
 
Cavalry said:
Was it wrong to ask when she'd like to go out?

I can't help but feel that I made her think she was obligated to invite me along.
Or am I just becoming paranoid?
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I doubt it but you should probably suggest something first from now on.

You're not paranoid Cavalry. You're the most sane one here. Get to Ohio as quickly as you can.

The cake is a lie
The cake is a lie
The cake is a lie
The cake is a lie
 
Your becoming too paranoid. You didn't do anything bad. You got a party lined up so just go along and have fun. Try not to drink too much or you will look like an ass. Just talk with her, make jokes and have fun. You aren't obligated to be anything so just go along with whatever happens at the party. Don't worry about being the center of attention, don't worry about being next to her the whole time It might help if you can bring a couple friends your comfortable around to the party as well so your not surrounded by a bunch of people you don't know. It can be scary so try to find some fun people to bring and everything will go well.
 
Slightly related: My friend in school is currently trying to get a girl to go out with him. Today he gave her an IOU for one trip to the cinema. It was so cheesy I almost slapped him.
 
riomhaire said:
Slightly related: My friend in school is currently trying to get a girl to go out with him. Today he gave her an IOU for one trip to the cinema. It was so cheesy I almost slapped him.
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Wow, way to force a girl to give you attention. Slap him...

EDIT: Btw, this reply is to the first post in this thread. I haven't read any of the rest of it, so for all I know she's already played tuna slappers with your wrinkle stick.

If anything i'd say you went about doing this the wrong way. What you want to do is spend some time with her once or twice, and then work from there, without locking yourself into doing so. Hanging out with her when you feel like it, instead of feeling pressured to do so.

Atm you've trapped yourself in a situation where you now have to make an actual effort to show her that you reciprocate such feelings of "wanting to hang out", and everybody hates putting in effort.

Next time, wait till wednesday or something and ask what she's doing, and if she says "I dunno yet", make it obvious that you want to do something this weekend, but don't have any plans with your friends, and maybe even don't want to hang out with your friends, but still don't want to do.

Monday, bad time to ask a girl out, because then you have to deal with the entire weeks worth of run up to the actual event, which will glorify it in both of your minds more than it should be.
 
She said she'd take him up on it, but, like usual she just said it in a friendly sort of way. She is a little bit spacey and she doesn't seem to have noticed his attempts to make a move on her. We're all watching with interest to see what will happen because the two of them are such characters.
 
Not saying that you're not doing good, but next time, you should suggest when to hang out. You're the man, you should lead.
 
Unfocused said:
Not saying that you're not doing good, but next time, you should suggest when to hang out. You're the man, you should lead.
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Exactly

Kadayi said:
Also don't be an expectant door mat. If a girl asks you whether you are doing anything later, always have something to say like 'I was going to go the library and study', 'I was thinking I might go and see brad' or 'I was thinking I might catch up on LOST or see a film of something' ' never say 'Nothing important' or 'I'm not up to anything'. Firstly it makes it look like you've got shit going on in your life, and secondly it provides you with an opportunity to invite them along. If they bail on your suggestion, you just flip it around to 'is there something you want to do instead?'. Never look like a no life bum.
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That's a crock of shit. I mean, if you're the kind of guy that's always doing something, going to the beach, surfing, smoking the ganja, partying, don't ever tell her "i'm not doing anything" just so you'll be open to hang out.

But similarly, don't make it sound like you were thinking of doing something when you really weren't. Be honest, you're not putting on a show for the girl, you're putting on yourself, and if she's not into the guy that's never really all that busy, basically you, then to hell with her.
 
sinkoman said:
That's a crock of shit. I mean, if you're the kind of guy that's always doing something, going to the beach, surfing, smoking the ganja, partying, don't ever tell her "i'm not doing anything" just so you'll be open to hang out.

But similarly, don't make it sound like you were thinking of doing something when you really weren't. Be honest, you're not putting on a show for the girl, you're putting on yourself, and if she's not into the guy that's never really all that busy, basically you, then to hell with her.
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There are times when I should be doing things, but I'd rather be with her, so I put off everything else just for a few moments to talk to her.

Unfocused said:
Not saying that you're not doing good, but next time, you should suggest when to hang out. You're the man, you should lead.
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The only thing that prevents me from doing this is my fear that I suggest something she hates, or we go out and doesn't enjoy it, and leaves me.
 
Cavalry said:
There are times when I should be doing things, but I'd rather be with her, so I put off everything else just for a few moments to talk to her.
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Thats good, but to retouch what sinkoman was saying you shouldn't saying you doing nothing. You want to seem busy so you seem like a harder catch. You don't want to seem desperate either and cancel all plans for her unless your both so busy you need to.

The only thing that prevents me from doing this is my fear that I suggest something she hates, or we go out and doesn't enjoy it, and leaves me.
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A good way around this is when talking to her say something like "So i saw that this new movie blahblah came out...it looks pretty good" then she would agree and you ask her if she would like to go see it with you on sat if she isn't busy. It is good for you to suggest a day and time but it's not that big of a deal. The biggest deal is to remain confident and have fun. That is all that really matters!
 
Isn't this sort of stuff what you find out on your own? Not ask a forum what they think??
 
Druckles said:
Isn't this sort of stuff what you find out on your own? Not ask a forum what they think??
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Last time I tried finding out on my own, I went through depression.
I really didn't want it to happen again, so I decided to ask for a bit of help.

Right now, everything is going to be strictly a friends hanging out kinda thing. I will make it my main goal to get over every fear I have of her leaving and just having a good time in the process (Before I ask her out on dates, just so I am not panicking on every date).
 
Cavalry said:
Last time I tried finding out on my own, I went through depression.
I really didn't want it to happen again, so I decided to ask for a bit of help.

Right now, everything is going to be strictly a friends hanging out kinda thing. I will make it my main goal to get over every fear I have of her leaving and just having a good time in the process (Before I ask her out on dates, just so I am not panicking on every date).
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Good...get over your fears. Also work on recovering because the only way to learn with girls is to keep trying and get shot down. Everyone gets shot down but you need to learn from it. Learn what you did wrong and don't make that mistake again. If you end up getting shot down and don't get back up and try you will be stuck not learning how to get girls and things will continue to suck.
 
Druckles said:
Isn't this sort of stuff what you find out on your own? Not ask a forum what they think??
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Concur.





But i reckon if the bloke is after advice, we should oblige because he is part of the community, and thus a friend.
 
The sort of stuff you find out on your own is the stuff you really believe in- advice is just what you already know but are too afraid to act on it.
 
Kadayi said:
Also don't be an expectant door mat. If a girl asks you whether you are doing anything later, always have something to say like 'I was going to go the library and study', 'I was thinking I might go and see brad' or 'I was thinking I might catch up on LOST or see a film of something' ' never say 'Nothing important' or 'I'm not up to anything'. Firstly it makes it look like you've got shit going on in your life, and secondly it provides you with an opportunity to invite them along. If they bail on your suggestion, you just flip it around to 'is there something you want to do instead?'. Never look like a no life bum.
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Yet you would not want to make it seem that you're avoiding her and seem to busy to be with her.

Balance it out.
 
Make her squeal like a piggy then gtfo.
 
riomhaire said:
Slightly related: My friend in school is currently trying to get a girl to go out with him. Today he gave her an IOU for one trip to the cinema. It was so cheesy I almost slapped him.
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Whats an IOU ? Sorry, im not really ontop of the american slangs lol
 
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