I'm sad :(

[Tr0n]

Darkstar and StardogChampion particularly...

I'm going to do my best to refrain from any flaming, but you guys are somewhat close to idiots.

Robert is one of the best people I've ever met on the internet, he does not have any kind of sexual relationship with her, and he hasn't been 18 for long, he got together with her long before that. Believe me, he's been through the "pedo" calling business enough by now, leave him alone.

His girlfriend is from what I've seen very mature and understanding (something I have a trouble finding in you), he's been so happy together with her.

It's extremely sad to see that it goes this way, feel horrible to see him like this.. But, life goes on, with or without wonderful people, and with or without jerks.

I'm sorry, but I have to quote that for emphasis. You said it a hell of a lot better than I did.

Make that a QFE x2.

 

[Zeus]

High school drama- (middle school drama) x 2 + age

 

[StardogChampion]

Darkstar and StardogChampion particularly...

I'm going to do my best to refrain from any flaming, but you guys are somewhat close to idiots.

Robert is one of the best people I've ever met on the internet, he does not have any kind of sexual relationship with her, and he hasn't been 18 for long, he got together with her long before that. Believe me, he's been through the "pedo" calling business enough by now, leave him alone.

His girlfriend is from what I've seen very mature and understanding (something I have a trouble finding in you), he's been so happy together with her.

It's extremely sad to see that it goes this way, feel horrible to see him like this.. But, life goes on, with or without wonderful people, and with or without jerks.

Obviously you're the mod, so everyone will jump on your wagon, but I stand by what I said.

Earlier I said I thought it was slightly sick that an 18 y/o would go out with a 14 y/o, but the more I think about it the sicker I feel. If they did something slightly sexual together, it would be against the law. It doesn't matter how nice a guy he is, he should really reconsider who he gets into relationships with.

There's generally some type of reason for people shouting abuse such as "pedo", the reason here is pretty obvious, he almost is one. It's a pretty fine line.

 

[Tr0n]

Obviously you're the mod, so everyone will jump on your wagon, but I stand by what I said.

Earlier I said I thought it was slightly sick that an 18 y/o would go out with a 14 y/o, but the more I think about it the sicker I feel. If they did something slightly sexual together, it would be against the law. It doesn't matter how nice a guy he is, he should really reconsider who he gets into relationships with.

There's generally some type of reason for people shouting abuse such as "pedo", the reason here is pretty obvious, he almost is one. It's a pretty fine line.

Well you said it yourself!He is almost one...almost doesn't mean he is.

So he isn't a pedo...so lets shut up already.

 

[oldagerocker]

It's sad to break up with a close friend or girlfriend. It's sader to lose a familly member. ;(

 

[CrazyHarij]

Obviously you're the mod, so everyone will jump on your wagon, but I stand by what I said.

I'm not a moderator, I'm just a news writer.

Earlier I said I thought it was slightly sick that an 18 y/o would go out with a 14 y/o, but the more I think about it the sicker I feel. If they did something slightly sexual together, it would be against the law.

Which is why they don't. And it was a 17 y/o going out with a 14 y/o, the 17 y/o happened to turn 18 y/o. Should he leave her just to satisfy you? She'll turn 15 soon. 18 year olds aren't that horrifyingly adult, many are in fact rather childish, and 14 year olds aren't as immature as the internet portray them to be.

It doesn't matter how nice a guy he is, he should really reconsider who he gets into relationships with.

You don't "consider" who you fall in love with, it just happens.

There's generally some type of reason for people shouting abuse such as "pedo", the reason here is pretty obvious, he almost is one. It's a pretty fine line.

He has been called 'pedo' due to the joke factor, there's no other reason to it.

 

[baron insig]

yeah ive ahd that trouble about jokingly being called a pedo and the year gap was only 1 year ffs so dont beat yourself up!! they will gro up soon

 

[h00dlum]

Thats what happens when you date fjortisar. Fjortisar is only for ****ing and you should know that...hope you feel better though..

edit: i forgot to mention that the above text is irony...except for the last part.. :bounce:

 

[Robert]

First of all, thank you CrazyHarij for your.. support.


Second of all, there's 3 years diffrence between us, not 4 years.

And let me ask you: How old is your mum and dad? Are they both ~55? Or is your dad 55 and your mother 50?`

OMFG PEDO!!!!! OMG DIE!!! OMG KILL HIM!!! PEDO, RAPER, NERD, IDIOTIC!!!!1 ASDO ASDO ASKd *calls 911*


Third of all; Who on EARTH has EVER said that love has an age?

For me, the age does not matter (Well, I would never fall in love with an 12 years old), and during the time I spent with my ex, I did not once, never ever think of her age at all.

She was just HER, no one else.


And yes, I am a very nice guy, and maybe I do deserve someone better. But then again, I don't think anyone deserves anyone. Cause love is not about deserving, it's about sharing, creating and living together.


An 14-15 year old isn't that mature as an 17-18 year old, then; Since I'm _SOON_ 18, and she's _SOON_ 15, I'm more mature then her, and I've been trough the tough part of life (wish is the age 14 and 15), I know what she's going trough and I know that feelings is crazy by that time.


I also know that I took a good shot when I, just as an joke, asked if we could get together over MSN.

Then we met IRL, then we got together and falled inlove.

Then again, I did expect to much. Since it went so well for 7 months, I didn't think of: Nah, I know she loves me and we've been together for 7 months, she won't leave me now.


I've learnt something from this, and I did know this before, but you CAN NOT EXPECT TOO MUCH OUT OF AN 15 YEAR OLD!


My GF.. EX <- Is the most beautiful and wonderfull girl I ever met, and I bet no one for a long, long, LONG, time can competite with her.

I just love her for who she is, not for how old she is or how she looks.



I don't give a fck about you and your opinions about me beeing a "pedo", since I don't consider myself beeing one. I can't really see how I am a pedo just because I love the one my heart has chosen?

You're the sick ones tbh, not me. I have a heart and I don't think with my dick as the most of you seems to do. I'm sorry if I'm harsh, but well, you didn't expect me beeing an angel, did you?

 

[DarkStar]

Darkstar and StardogChampion particularly...

I'm going to do my best to refrain from any flaming, but you guys are somewhat close to idiots.

Robert is one of the best people I've ever met on the internet, he does not have any kind of sexual relationship with her, and he hasn't been 18 for long, he got together with her long before that. Believe me, he's been through the "pedo" calling business enough by now, leave him alone.

I don't appreciate being called an idiot.

I'm sure Robert is a great guy, although I don't know him. I never called Robert a "pedo" and my comments about the age difference were not meant to be taken as personal attacks, but as justification for the advice I gave.

He asked for advice and my advice was this: The lifespan of a romantic relationship between an 18-year old man and a 14-year old child is limited for a plethora of reasons, legalality issues notwithstanding. A four year age difference is no big deal when both parties are grown and mature, but at that age it is just too large to overcome. Thus, in my estimation it is best Robert let it go and go find someone he can actually be intimate with. That's all.

If that makes me an idiot Harij, so be it. Guess I'm an idiot.

 

[PoeticRocker]

Always happens - girl gets with older guy to act cool for their friends and to establish their popularity. Later they THINK it wasnt true love, so they say now that i've went that route, lets go over here... SHE USED YOU MAN!! but really is that a bad thing...?

 

[Bad^Hat]

Geez, what is up with you guys lately? Ever since the "thing you don't normally tell anyone" thread, it's like every time someone posts something even mildly objectionable you feel the need to voice your disgust and tell them how wrong and sick they are. ****ing chill, you don't know the first thing about the guy or their relationship, but that didn't stop you judging him. And you keep emphasising the age gap like he should give a damn. He doesn't. She doesn't. Shut the **** up. Case closed, end of argument.

 

[burner69]

I aint read any of this debate, just the first message, and buddy - good luck to you. Hope you sort things out, just remember that can often be in a way you'd least expect it.

I've been in your shoes before, and days later met a girl, had a mint night, done some cool sh*t, and forgotten about her soon after.

Best of luck :thumbs:

 

[CrazyHarij]

Just as a note so I don't get in trouble for this; these are solely my own personal opinions and comments, only to be associated with me as a person and my friendship with Robert, and in no way whatsoever representative of halflife2.net, or the sites and staff's opinion and standing on the subject.

Geez, what is up with you guys lately? Ever since the "thing you don't normally tell anyone" thread, it's like every time someone posts something even mildly objectionable you feel the need to voice your disgust and tell them how wrong and sick they are.

It works as a way of forgetting their personal problems and disgustful nature for a moment, to instead spit on others and make themselves feel superiour..

Always happens - girl gets with older guy to act cool for their friends and to establish their popularity. Later they THINK it wasnt true love, so they say now that i've went that route, lets go over here... SHE USED YOU MAN!! but really is that a bad thing...?

People here sure like to spout out theories like they were solid facts..

I don't appreciate being called an idiot.

It wasn't really a compliment, if that's what you're implying.

I'm sure Robert is a great guy, although I don't know him. I never called Robert a "pedo" and my comments about the age difference were not meant to be taken as personal attacks, but as justification for the advice I gave.

You don't have to say the word to imply paedophilic characteristics.. And i do not see how this acts as justification, nor "not calling someone a 'pedo'":

Wait.....let me get this straight.

You're 18 and she is 14?

That's illegal. Or at least it should be.

It's still kinda weird. No wait.....really weird.

14 years old = CHILD

18 years old = ADULT

Entire situation = WRONG

Stay away from the kiddies.

( u seggesting this guy is a pedo?)

Well, he IS dating a 14-year old child.

And my advice was to let her go because 18-year old men dating children is just.....wrong.

As for this..

He asked for advice and my advice was this: The lifespan of a romantic relationship between an 18-year old man and a 14-year old child is limited for a plethora of reasons, legalality issues notwithstanding. A four year age difference is no big deal when both parties are grown and mature, but at that age it is just too large to overcome. Thus, in my estimation it is best Robert let it go and go find someone he can actually be intimate with. That's all.

He maybe does not have the intention to be 'intimate' with someone? There are actually sane relationships out there (beleive it or not, perhaps you should remove yourself from the computer and take a look at NORMAL mature relationships for one second, strong relationships rarely have sex as the main reason for staying together, since sex creates a 'use-and-discard' relationship.)

Look again at the fact that he has just recently turned 18. They got together long ago when he was 17, but now when he's 18 he is supposed to leave her just because he is suddenly "really weird" to date a 14 year old? She'll get 15 real soon aswell, so I fail to see your point.

Also, disregard common internet status customs or public legal matters; the age 18 is not that special! You do not suddenly become 'adult' and mature. I haven't seen anyone under 20-25 acting like an adult "man", to become socially, biologically and intellectually adult is something that takes time and many years, it's something far more than just turning another age.

If that makes me an idiot Harij, so be it. Guess I'm an idiot.

You said it yourself.

 

[ailevation]

:dozey: I remember when I was in the process of talking to my current girl. It was one of those situations where it involved her and somebody else, so it is a win and lose no matter what I picked situation. My girl and I chatted on AIM. She asked me if I was talking to another girl, I said, a little bit. By the way this was like when I knew her only for 2 days, my girl that is, but I liked her for quite a long time. So she was like, "I think i'm going to back off." Right then and there I was so torn, this was something new I have experienced! This has never happened to me til that moment, I was actually about to cry when I went to bed. But then we both lefted each other messages in Myspace... from there on looks like things turned out okay. Then, there's the other girl... ... .. .. ... .. . .. . . . . . . .

 

[PotatoX]

Everyone who posted is here is wrong. What you should do about this situation is....bring a gun into school and kill everyone.

 

[Ikerous]

:dozey: I remember when I was in the process of talking to my current girl. It was one of those situations where it involved her and somebody else, so it is a win and lose no matter what I picked situation. My girl and I chatted on AIM. She asked me if I was talking to another girl, I said, a little bit. By the way this was like when I knew her only for 2 days, my girl that is, but I liked her for quite a long time. So she was like, "I think i'm going to back off." Right then and there I was so torn, this was something new I have experienced! This has never happened to me til that moment, I was actually about to cry when I went to bed. But then we both lefted each other messages in Myspace... from there on looks like things turned out okay. Then, there's the other girl... ... .. .. ... .. . .. . . . . . . .

T_T Girls!?! I thought you went for men
[size=-2]I love you...[/size]

 

[ailevation]

T_T Girls!?! I thought you went for men
[size=-2]I love you...[/size]

:thumbs: Baby, i'd choose you over them any day!

 

[Kongo]

http://img195.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img195&image=bangbangbang6ab.swf

 

[StardogChampion]

 

[DiSTuRbEd]

Lol after seeing that, it makes it sound nasty. But he lives in a different place with different laws and other things. But Robert, sorry to hear what happened, hope you get her back....still fighting for the one I want right now.. :thumbs: Good luck though mang, get err done! hehe j/king.

 

[The Monkey]

Stop your shit. As long as they love eachother it doesn't matter how old they are. You are not allowed to have sex before you're 15, but who said they had? And even if they had, what's the big deal, she would turn 15 soon enough. You are supposed to support the guy, and if you're too narrow-minded to do so, don't post.

 

[Bad^Hat]

That picture is ****ing funny

Ok, you shut up now.

 

[Sui]

Look again at the fact that he has just recently turned 18. They got together long ago when he was 17, but now when he's 18 he is supposed to leave her just because he is suddenly "really weird" to date a 14 year old? She'll get 15 real soon aswell, so I fail to see your point.

Also, disregard common internet status customs or public legal matters; the age 18 is not that special! You do not suddenly become 'adult' and mature. I haven't seen anyone under 20-25 acting like an adult "man", to become socially, biologically and intellectually adult is something that takes time and many years, it's something far more than just turning another age.

perfectly stated.

If I may add something... one of my freind's dad is around 30, and his mum is around 50. As far as i know they have been together a long time and are perfect for each other, despite the huge age gap. Now NO-ONE would regard that as "wrong", as it is actually mature, true love... and in comparison a 3 year age difference is nothing. And as he said there hasn't even been any sex so what's wrong with this relationship?

 

[Incitatus]

Lol they should start making 'lighten the f*** up pills' for people in puberty going over the deep end like that. 7 months for a high school romance is almost a record. oh and 18 and 14 is not cool

You guys talking about maturity miss the point of having a legal consenting age.

 

[TheUnkillableDot]

18 dating a 14 year old?

hmmm....

Well young girls are like that. I think you should just chill. Find someone else or try and work it out with her.

Why would you kill yourself over a highschool crush?

Anyway, goodluck.

 

[Bad^Hat]

Yeah, so thanks for the input, guys.

Someone needs to close this =/

 

[Crushenator 500]

Any more flames and this baby goes the way of the Closed.

Ahem. Closed.