James has come... and has gone.

[JNightshade]

I have a best friend. I mean a best friend. Not just someone who you know very well, or agree with about everything. Someone you're so inexplicably close to that you know how they think, that you'd take a bullet for them, that you're more like brothers than friends. His name is James, and he lives in Switzerland.

Now, on Friday, a friend of mine walked up to me in school and said "James is here. We're paintballing with him this afternoon. Bring forty bucks." Lo and behold, after school, there he is! I hadn't seen him for a year and a half, and he's still the same old James.

Well, he only stayed for a night, but we had a blast. We dominated in Paintball, then went back to a friend's house and combined Adderall, Super Smash Bros, some old SNL DVDs, diet coke, and philosophizing for maximum awesomeness. We never went to bed. It's 8:58 at night on a saturday as I write this, and I've been awake for over 36 hours straight.

So, you're probably asking, "why am I writing all this?" Well, we took him back to the airport at about noon today, and I had to say goodbye. And now... now I don't even know what to say. I'd forgotten how good it is. He's like my brother. Just getting to chill with him was the best thing I've done in a year, and I have no idea what I'm gonna do, now that he's on his way back to Switzerland. I feel awful, 'cause I know there's a very good chance that I'm not going to see him again until we graduate and he comes back to the States for college. I feel like crap, because we only had a day to catch up, to make up for all the shit we've missed.

And yet, most of all, I feel... privileged. In my school, I'm friends with almost everyone, but good friends with almost none. For some reason, nobody is quite right, and I don't feel comfortable among many. But man... I'd forgotten how it is with James. As stupid as it sounds, yesterday/last night/today was probably the best time I can remember.

So... yeah. I just needed to get that off my chest and onto the web.

 

[NotATool]

So... yeah. I just needed to get that off my chest and onto paper.

:| Oh oh.


Anyways, I know how you feel, because I was like that once when my best friend moved to France and didn't have any good friends for years. It took me 4 to find some again, but now I'm happy as can be. So I wish you luck!

 

[JNightshade]

The funny thing is, he moved away in 6th grade. That was 5 years ago. I've had other friends move away, and I always move on, but with James... it's different.

 

[OvA]

THIS ISN'T PAPER, IT'S NOT PAPER AT ALL! Aaarrgggghhhhhaaarrrrrkakaakkaakkaakaakakaa

EDIT: Swedish people kick ass

 

[DeusExMachina]

All my best friends turned into assholes.

But I'm happy for you .

 

[OvA]

All my best friends turned into assholes.

But I'm happy for you .

By best friends are assholes :rolling:

 

[Que-Ever]

I don't think I have any best friends. no, scratch that, maybe one. I feel special <3

 

[evil^milk]

write him something man.

 

[Kamikazie]

talk to him on MSN/Trillian/AIM

one of those is bound to work

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

It's okay it's safe to come out of the closet here...

Nah I'm just kidding. It's cool you got to see him though. I made a thread a while back about my best girl Mary getting sent away, it's only been 2 months, but I can't wait until she visits down here or I take a trip up to Oregon. So I know how you feel.

 

[operative x]

All my best friends turned into assholes.

But I'm happy for you .

Tell me about it...

 

[Shamrock]

So you are gay?

 

[Beerdude26]

All my best friends turned into assholes.

But I'm happy for you .

My best friend was already an asshole when he became by best friend, so no problems here

 

[JNightshade]

Look, I've been going through some tough shit. Some of my friends are getting into progressively harder drugs, classes are growing more difficult, and my little brother has been shitting himself, pissing the bed, threatening suicide/murder, and throwing horrendous tantrums (he's fourteen, but he has some "issues" due to mistreatment at an orphanage). Everything is in a state of disrepair or chaos. Bush is f*cking over America, which is in turn f*cking over the rest of the nations, which are in turn f*cking over the environment. Pat Robertson is alive, while Martin Luther King Jr. is dead. I can buy Ax deodorant in fourteen different scents. All this, and I just want to get into a decent college :|

So, what I'm saying is, I'm not gay. I just need as many close friends as I can get, and when James came, he made things immensely better.

 

[Qonfused]

Nightshade told me the whole story on Xfire and I was just wating until a forum post. I guess I really can't relate since, yeah I have friends and "best" friends but I wouldn't take a bullet for them. I really wouldn't.

 

[Que-Ever]

seriously guys what the hell is wrong with you? all this accusing him of being gay bullshit. come on. What, do you guys need best friends? not had one? I'll be your best friend. but get over yourselves first.

 

[Qonfused]

seriously guys what the hell is wrong with you? all this accusing him of being gay bullshit. come on. What, do you guys need best friends? not had one? I'll be your best friend. but get over yourselves first.

Seriously. By the way, JNightshade just fell asleep at the keyboard.

 

[Que-Ever]

Seriously. By the way, JNightshade just fell asleep at the keyboard.

well, he was awake for like, 36 hours, he said. Good. he'll have keyboard imprints on his face when he wakes up, though

 

[Qonfused]

well, he was awake for like, 36 hours, he said. Good. he'll have keyboard imprints on his face when he wakes up, though

Nothing says "Good time," like "asedfvfghnyjkl" printed across your forehead.

 

[OvA]

Nothing says "Good time," like "asedfvfghnyjkl" printed across your forehead.

He uses an unsual keyboard configuration?

 

[Codcommando]

Definetly sounds like hes coming out of the closet to me. Why are you confiding on a forum? Why is this a thread? Theres no discussion, just you talking about your friend you miss. Sorry for the flame, but im drunk and someone had to say it.

 

[Kamikazie]

seriously, just leave Nightshade alone. with everything thats going on in his life i dont think he needs for the guys that he came to for support, not to support him :|

and for being drunk you have really great key coordination...

 

[Shamrock]

seriously, just leave Nightshade alone. with everything thats going on in his life i dont think he needs for the guys that he came to for support, not to support him :|

and for being drunk you have really great key coordination...

He has a lot going on? Hah.

 

[Codcommando]

hehe im buzzing,but sober enough to type. Iff I was really drunk I would be driving

 

[Kamikazie]

from what he has posted, i personally wouldnt want to be going through any of that

hehe im buzzing,but sober enough to type. Iff I was really drunk I would be driving

even when im piss drunk i know its stupid to drive...

 

[Qonfused]

He uses an unsual keyboard configuration?

Most peoples' heads aren't one-row-of-keys tall.

 

[Raeven0]

This thread wins.

(It has a private, personal significance to me.)

 

[CyberPitz]

I merely moved to another state 6 hours away from my really best friend. We met each other in 4th grade, when I moved to Nebraska City, and we were each others only friends. Through middle school, we aquired another friend, though me and Jon were still really really close. *not gay like....that you know of, * Well, when I moved, we kept constant tabs, I saw him a few times when I visited up north to see my family, and just stopped by and hung out with him for a few hours. But I havn't seen or heard from him in a long time...kind of like a gapping hole left. Sad I think

 

[Glirk Dient]

You have a lot going on? Wow...

Let's see...

My dad recently lost his job and now I have to support my family and he isnt even looking for one, hes blowing away what money he has getting drunk and I hardly see him. My future plans of getting into the military have been cut short due to me having to stay and take care of the rest of my family at some shit job that was a time killer until I leaved and now a full time job where I work overtime every week to make just less than whats needed to pay the bills and we are going to lose our house and be homless sometime soon.

Oh not to mention my mother recently died, after we got into a fight and I told her I didnt have a mother she got hit by a drunk driver and died on the way to the hospital, all while the only friends I have known back off from me so I have no one to confide in or any time to have any fun.

Not to mention all of the small stuff, like dealing with the rest of my retarded family and life, but you get the idea that things have been shit recently. I havent made a post, yet he whines when his friend moves away? Call him if you friggin miss him and cry yourself to sleep...god damn.

 

[Pajari]

You're crying because you're going to wait four years to see your best friend? I'm moving away to another state in June, and its highly likely that I'll never see my best friends again. And before that, I moved away from my childhood friends and I haven't seen them in a solid eight years.

Move on, is my advice. At the end of high school, especially, you leave things and people behind and you never see them again, because you move on to bigger and better things. Wether you like to admit it or not, someone will replace James for you, and the next time you see him (if at all), you'll realize the ephemeral nature of most relationships. The old adage 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' isn't really that accurate.

EDIT: Glirk, I've got nothin' on you. My condolences, man .

 

[15357]

You have a lot going on? Wow...

Let's see...

My dad recently lost his job and now I have to support my family and he isnt even looking for one, hes blowing away what money he has getting drunk and I hardly see him. My future plans of getting into the military have been cut short due to me having to stay and take care of the rest of my family at some shit job that was a time killer until I leaved and now a full time job where I work overtime every week to make just less than whats needed to pay the bills and we are going to lose our house and be homless sometime soon.

Oh not to mention my mother recently died, after we got into a fight and I told her I didnt have a mother she got hit by a drunk driver and died on the way to the hospital, all while the only friends I have known back off from me so I have no one to confide in or any time to have any fun.

Not to mention all of the small stuff, like dealing with the rest of my retarded family and life, but you get the idea that things have been shit recently. I havent made a post, yet he whines when his friend moves away? Call him if you friggin miss him and cry yourself to sleep...god damn.

.........

Thats awful. What about social services?

 

[OvA]

You have a lot going on? Wow...

Let's see...

My dad recently lost his job and now I have to support my family and he isnt even looking for one, hes blowing away what money he has getting drunk and I hardly see him. My future plans of getting into the military have been cut short due to me having to stay and take care of the rest of my family at some shit job that was a time killer until I leaved and now a full time job where I work overtime every week to make just less than whats needed to pay the bills and we are going to lose our house and be homless sometime soon.

Oh not to mention my mother recently died, after we got into a fight and I told her I didnt have a mother she got hit by a drunk driver and died on the way to the hospital, all while the only friends I have known back off from me so I have no one to confide in or any time to have any fun.

Not to mention all of the small stuff, like dealing with the rest of my retarded family and life, but you get the idea that things have been shit recently. I havent made a post, yet he whines when his friend moves away? Call him if you friggin miss him and cry yourself to sleep...god damn.

oh shit, PLEASE tell me you are going to become a badass vigilante that overcomes all his problems with excess firepower

 

[Sparta]

but with James... it's different.

Bet you're questioning your sexuality now huh?

You should be you know.

You're gay.

You have a lot going on? Wow...

Let's see...

My dad recently lost his job and now I have to support my family and he isnt even looking for one, hes blowing away what money he has getting drunk and I hardly see him. My future plans of getting into the military have been cut short due to me having to stay and take care of the rest of my family at some shit job that was a time killer until I leaved and now a full time job where I work overtime every week to make just less than whats needed to pay the bills and we are going to lose our house and be homless sometime soon.

Oh not to mention my mother recently died, after we got into a fight and I told her I didnt have a mother she got hit by a drunk driver and died on the way to the hospital, all while the only friends I have known back off from me so I have no one to confide in or any time to have any fun.

Not to mention all of the small stuff, like dealing with the rest of my retarded family and life, but you get the idea that things have been shit recently. I havent made a post, yet he whines when his friend moves away? Call him if you friggin miss him and cry yourself to sleep...god damn.

Jeez man. How old is the rest of your family? Do you have any relatives that can help you out besides your Dad? Even distant relatives or obscure relatives that only visit once in a while? I mean someones gotta be able to help you out. Have you spoken to any social workers or anything?

 

[Angry Lawyer]

The majority of you are see-you-next-tuesdays and it disgusts me to post on the same forum as you.
Christ's sake, somebody opens their heart and all you say is "Olololol ghey".

No wonder most of you will never get laid.

-Angry Lawyer

 

[Sulkdodds]

Hey man, stop instigatin 'all the player hatin'.

I know exactly what you mean J. Platonic love = win. I'm lucky enough to have...I'd say three, maybe four friends like that, but I was/am in almost exactly the same situation with one of those four. Admittedly, it's lately threatened to stop being quite so platonic, which makes the whole thing rather more complicated, but for a long time I was 'just friends' with her in the purest sense.

 

[DeusExMachina]

The majority of you are see-you-next-tuesdays and it disgusts me to post on the same forum as you.
Christ's sake, somebody opens their heart and all you say is "Olololol ghey".

No wonder most of you will never get laid.

-Angry Lawyer

Seriously, you people are assholes :|.

 

[ríomhaire]

Too bad you live so far away from eachother but it sounds like ye had a great time.

 

[bvasgm]

Bet you're questioning your sexuality now huh?

You should be you know.

You're gay.

Dude, seriously, shut the **** up.

You're crying because you're going to wait four years to see your best friend? I'm moving away to another state in June, and its highly likely that I'll never see my best friends again. And before that, I moved away from my childhood friends and I haven't seen them in a solid eight years.

Cry me a river. My dad used to be in the Navy, so I've moved, pretty much, every other year for the last sixteen years. I know it sucks, and it never gets any easier, but just suck it up and move on. Get your friends phone numbers and email addresses and stay in touch. It's not the same as hangin out, but at least it's a way to stay in contact with each other.

I can't belive I'm agreeing with Angry Lawyer, but most of the people in this thread are being inconsiderate assholes and It disgusts me to think that I share a forum with you.

 

[Sulkdodds]

I also hate how whenever anybody bitches, everybody goes 'ha, you think you have it bad? My situation is worse!' instead of phrasing it like 'man, I know exactly how you feel, my situation seems even worse'...what, so nobody in the world is allowed to complain unless they're literally the most unfortunate person in the world? It's all relative anyway.

 

[jimbo118]

Jnightshade=Legend...seriously dude that sucks abit alright, my best mate who i knew since our first day of school(when we were what 5 or sumit?) moved away to Oz just over a year ago and i havent seen him since...we went through primary school and highschool together and then he moved with his family once he finished his final exams, never really talk to him much since except the odd time on msn, so i know how you feel abit and i havent found anyone to ''replace'' him yet even though thats prolly not the right phrasing tbh, atleast he(james) IS coming back though right? so its not all bad, i've talked to you on voip in bf2 and you seem like a real good bloke too so chin up