REALLY need mature guys here to help me out.

Can i just say....that recently there's been quite a few mature conversations on these boards...which in my opinion is great.

I feel that each person experiances love in there own way, we all feel it differently, deal with it differently. Were all unique, some people have handled rejection and the sort in a way I'd never deal with it. Yet were all here to tell our tales, so as its said 'its your life, live it the way you want to'.
So with this in mind, if you want to hold on, then hold on to her. if you want to give up, then give up.....just listen to your heart, you'll know when its time to keep holding on, and when to stop holding on.
Just trust yourself.....but dont forget those around you :)
 
Originally posted by SidewinderX143
"better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."
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I dont know who it was that coined that phrase, but I think they were on crystal meth or something. Ive loved and lost, and if anything its made my life worse.
 
Originally posted by guinny
Ok me and my girlfriend just broke up, but not entirely. She feels she needs time to mature to handle a serious relationship, but she doesn't want me to forget that she loves me and cares about me. Now guys, I'm gonna get mushy on you, I love her so much it hurts, and I can't settle to just be her friend. How can I get her back? Can I get her back? ;(
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THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME
 
Originally posted by SidewinderX143
"better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Keep that in mind.

On the advice side, like someone said, the best thing you can do is be a friend. Don't completly ignore her now, but don't hang around/call/whatever to hte point of being annoying.
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I beg to differ... I mean, though you have love, you still get hurt... whereas the other way you would feel nothing

I just think in this situation ignorance is bliss

but I have a girlfreind I love very much... so who knows?

Everyone is different
 
Love is terrible. Can you believe that I spent 2 weeks simply thinking about her the majority of the time. Every little thing she did I find incredibly attractive. I must have repeated her name in my head 4,000 times a day. The end result is that I feel exhausted right now.

I called her today (which took considerable effort including two consecutive hours of staring at her phone number written on a stiky note). After talking to her I feel better, but it fades quickly.
 
I didn't read all the topic but i expect that at least on post was a flame of some sort...if not, what are these boards coming to.

On topic, i don't really have a clue how you should deal, except find your own way and not someone elses. I really can't figure out girls, in all my relationships, the girls say i'm not commited enough and all this stuff (because i don't wanna see them every hour of the day) and end up getting pissed off with me. I like to have time on my own:cheese: .
 
I noticed something very odd, every time I talk to her, she still talks to me like we're going out, and she keeps saying i love you. So is this a sign of things to come?
 
How old is she? I think it's fairly normal for a girl of that age not to want to enter into a serious relationship.
 
Originally posted by guinny
Ok me and my girlfriend just broke up, but not entirely. She feels she needs time to mature to handle a serious relationship, but she doesn't want me to forget that she loves me and cares about me. Now guys, I'm gonna get mushy on you, I love her so much it hurts, and I can't settle to just be her friend. How can I get her back? Can I get her back? ;(
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Chances are man you'll start seeing alot less of her due to the fact she is probably interested in some other dude and is probably getting the beef strogonov in her ass at this very moment
 
Shockwave I said mature people needed. :dozey:
 
Bro, nothing I or anyone else says is really going to help you. You've heard a lot of bullshit about how it makes you more mature and all that. It doesn't. All it does is hurt like a bitch. The same thing happened to me 2 years ago by the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. They all say that, and she probably WILL always care for you, but it's over man. I know it isn't going to work, but try not to think about her too much and focus on yourself until the pain goes away. Stay busy; give yourself time to heal. Keep away from her for awhile, just kind of back off. Being friends with her is fine, just not at this period of time. Wait until you're alright before you even casually talk to her. Then move on when you're ready. Trust me, I speak from brutal experience. That's all I can say. And shockwave, you're an asshole.
 
She's been calling me alot, and still saying i love you and all that. Is this a sign of things to come?:dozey:
 
If she truly loves you, she would want to be with you. She is mainly saying this because she doesnt want to let go of a close friend.

Sorry man, but really, you need time to greive. U need her to stop contacting you for a while, unless you still want to be friends. But I can tell u this now, if u 2 go back to just being friends, it will be very VER hard, cause u will want to get close.

It would also help if we knew both your ages. Good luck.
 
To be paingully honest, no. Girls do this, for whatever reason. They know they have the power and they use it. I see some others agree with my opinion (although shockwave made it a little cruder than it had to be). The best thing is to move on man. I realize thats seems impossible and right now it would seem like the hardest time. But from my own experience I allowed myself to think for a year that I would get her back, and it pretty much ruined me. So my advice is to let her go.
 
Originally posted by guinny
She's been calling me alot, and still saying i love you and all that. Is this a sign of things to come?:dozey:
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I have been through this myself. Not it isn't. It's more of a she wants to have her cake and eat it too.

Actions speak louder than words. If she doesn't want to be serious that should be a sign of things to come not her saying "I love you". I love my friends but I don't walk around where I work and say "I love you" to everyone, I leave that for someone special. And saying those words to someone when you mean it as a freind but the other person wants it to mean more is merely playing with someones heart strings and causes more pain than comfort. She should stop saying that and you would be doing yourself a favor by asking her to not say that to you anymore.

And I can concur with Sgt. Nate. It hurts, it sucks, its no fun, but it is best to let her go. If she comes back, then it will be great. If she doesn't, you will be happier to have ended the misery sooner. And once you find someone who returns all your affection, not holding back a serious commitment to you, then you will never look back on all other previous relationships that went bad because you will have found everything you wanted.

Trust me... I am married now and very happy and do not miss my dating days because I found myself in your situation before.
 
I totally agree with you guys, but I asked her if she wanted to be with me, despite this bullshit, and she yea but she feels she needs to be single now. So idk, I'm not going to wait around forever, but it's only been 4 days, I have to give her some more time than that.
 
Oh. My. God. Sorry to hi-jack your thread.... but my ex (you remember... i made a thread about it)..... well she just told me that she thinks i'm the 'one' and that she made a huge mistake... and some of my mates have told me that shes beating herself up over us (not literally) .... what should i do... i guess i still like her... I'm really confused
 
Originally posted by mrBadger
Oh. My. God. Sorry to hi-jack your thread.... but my ex (you remember... i made a thread about it)..... well she just told me that she thinks i'm the 'one' and that she made a huge mistake... and some of my mates have told me that shes beating herself up over us (not literally) .... what should i do... i guess i still like her... I'm really confused
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I had the exact same thing happen, was a fool and took her back, 3 months later she cheats on me.......so Id be slightly skeptical about you being "the one". not to discourage you, maybe you are the one (insert random "the matrix" joke here;) )
 
Go for it badge, at least one of our girls isn't ashamed to admit it. ;)
 
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Originally posted by Shockwave
Chances are man you'll start seeing alot less of her due to the fact she is probably interested in some other dude and is probably getting the beef strogonov in her ass at this very moment
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Lol, tis probably true:cheese:

Stop being so clingy and move on..it's not gonna get any better if you keep pretending she still wants to get back with you, she's just pissing you about...
 
Well, she just txted back saying: "YES YES YES YES YES YES YES..." etc ^_^
 
mrBadger, be careful my friend. tell her, that u will ONLY take her back if she REALLY means it, and NEVER lies to you, and stays with you.

If u 2 get back together, and she wants to berak it off, u gotta let her know u will never want to see her again. U cant put urself through that kind of torture again, it will break you man. Believe me.
 
Re: Re: REALLY need mature guys here to help me out.

Originally posted by Shockwave
Chances are man you'll start seeing alot less of her due to the fact she is probably interested in some other dude and is probably getting the beef strogonov in her ass at this very moment
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OMFG ROFLROFLROFLROFLROFLROFLROFL
 
Uh yea alb, thanks for the mature comment. But ah, yea, idk, I still have that feeling she wants me, idk if it's stupid or not, but shes making it seem like she does.
 
Its funny...

The only place i ever hear the word "mature" is on the net in game forums. The last time I heard it actually in person was in 6th grade. What is "imature" to you 12yr olds is funny to us people in the 20s and older.
 
Shockwave, your the kind of adult who acts worse than a 10 year old because they think they're so much better than everyone, when in reality they suck at life. :cheers:
 
I suck at life?...come on man tell me you got something better than that?.
 
Well you're supposedly 20+ and want to start a flame war with a 14 year old kid ... I don't know.
 
Ahem...17. ;) Don't even bother paying him attention. Maybe his corny comebacks work on 80 year old women (you know, the ones he told us months ago he likes to pick on), but here he's just pathetic.
 
Umm guinny I don't think what he said was a comeback...and you're quite the one to talk about corny comebacks my friend.....*cough*suck at life*cough*
 
"Its funny...

The only place i ever hear the word "mature" is on the net in game forums. The last time I heard it actually in person was in 6th grade. What is "immature" to you 12yr olds is funny to us people in the 20s and older."


Under different circumstances, it most likely would be funny. But part of being older and more "mature" is developing a sense of TACT and COMPASSION for what someone else is going through. Grow up.
 
Originally posted by Obraxis
mrBadger, be careful my friend. tell her, that u will ONLY take her back if she REALLY means it, and NEVER lies to you, and stays with you.
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Waaaaaaaay ahead of you man, (and also I've heard that she isnt lying.... I know this time) :)
 
Ok, me and her had a long serious talk. It turns out because of the shit I did to her, she's fed up and isn't going to take it again. She wants to be with me, but she's afraid I might hurt her again. Yea, ok, I forgot to mention I'm the one who treated her wrong alot. And I'm going to change, cuz she's worth having back. I guess you really don't know what you have til you lost it.
 
guinny, if you did her wrong... then you don't deserve her.... sorry mate, but if you hurt her, then thats just not fair.
 
What about a second chance? A chance to right my wrong?
 
What exactly did you do? If she says you did something wrong it doesn't necessarily mean it was really wrong. She could just be messing with you to try and make you feel sorry for her.
 
Originally posted by guinny
What about a second chance? A chance to right my wrong?
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Well you shouldn't had got it wrong in the first place.
 
It really depends on what you did, do you feel that what you did was wrong (oh and are you gonna tell us what it was?) but seriously.... you shouldn't treat women bad, a mate of mine did that..... and then later she messed him up bad.... not fun
 
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