So my good friend is going crazy....

[CyberPitz]

Ever since a woman turned him down, he has gone depressed. He'd have his happy moments again, but they lasted a few days max. He calls himself fat *he's mildly MILDLY chubby. He is really tall, so it's really not that bad.* and he just gets in a rut. Like utterly depressed. Well, tonight is the topper. He has started smoking, took some adville for a headache, and has had some vodka. I mean, shit. I'm worried about him. He collected Transformers, because he thought they were cool. *he's 26, but he's cool* He burned all of those, he gave away his D&D books, he's a fanatic about that. He decided he wanted to drench himself in gas while he burned his transformers and enjoy life that way. He thinks he is worthless, that he can't do anything with his life because he isn't in college and what not. He is the manager at the place I work, and he hates it. I don't know, I just have no idea what to do. I'm really worried. He's one of my better friends, and it's not often I find one of those. I guess I just hope he snaps out of it. He's been saying he is just going to up and move somehwere, because Joplin has nothing for him. And I agree, this town blows. I want to up and leave too, but I need money first. and I have another 3 years in this apartment before I can leave.
*We made a burn mark in the carpet, costs $700 to replace, or we can wait 3 more years and they do an automatic carpet replace for free.*

All in all, this is a rant. I just don't know what to do..;(

 

[ailevation]

3 years for a carpet replace... but $700 bucks for repair, think about it... if you save one dollar a day for a whole year, that's $365, now, think about 2 dollars, or more. If you save up 2 or more dollars a day, you'd have your little "stuck here for 3 years" fixed in one year. Sure, you could wait three years, but that's pretty damn long, and you want out ASAP? Along with your friend...

 

[Sparta]

Yeah I've felt alot like that friend of yours lately. It really really sucks. Unfortunately i haven't found a way out of this situation yet. My only advice is give it time, it gets better with time.

 

[CyberPitz]

Yeah I've felt alot like that friend of yours lately. It really really sucks. Unfortunately i haven't found a way out of this situation yet. My only advice is give it time, it gets better with time.

I tried that, didn't work. Poor guy.

And I have OTHER expenses around here that need taken care of too..*holes in the walls.* we are goign to try to fix as much of the stuff as possible, but from 3 years of living here already, it adds up.

And I can survive for a few years here. It's just him that cant. Although I wont complain if I get the chance to take off

 

[ailevation]

I tried that, didn't work. Poor guy.

And I have OTHER expenses around here that need taken care of too..*holes in the walls.* we are goign to try to fix as much of the stuff as possible, but from 3 years of living here already, it adds up.

And I can survive for a few years here. It's just him that cant. Although I wont complain if I get the chance to take off

Well, with that said, hope things work out quickly as possible and that you guys get out of the place, and find another better place... what did you have in mind? California, oh :upstare:

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

Damn that kinda sucks. Was he turned down just asking some girl? Or was he broken up with or something? As extreme as that is if it's over just getting turned down it's even more extreme it seems.

 

[Sulkdodds]

Try to introduce him to other girls?

 

[Insano]

Try to introduce him to other girls?

Seems the best thing to do atm.

And no hookers, please...

 

[DiSTuRbEd]

Hehe sounds like whats happening to meh.

 

[Mr-Fusion]

Sounds like a cool dude. At least it can't get any worse!! Depression is good, you get a lot of gaming done that's for sure! Is he playing gameS? Get him playing games if not. That's doctorB fusions advice.

Burning his transformers though...that upsets me.

 

[Black Mesa corp]

Yea introducing him to new girls will surely 'shock' him out of his tranced state. He goes home and realises. 'wow, I feel better now'

 

[baron insig]

take him out, go watch soemthing funny at the cinema, go to a pub and have a few simple drunks and get him socialising,

if he responds well, do something a lil more fun, like go to a bar have a few dirnks bring some more ppeople along who u will reckon he will get along with. then go along to a club if he used to enjoy that sorta thing, get him talking to women, ( u might have to go with him kinda wingman style)

kebab on way home cos thats jsut the way to end the night
well get home n play playstation

 

[xLostx]

kinda scary how he goes this way after getting turned down by one girl, they're just women like theres a million others out there and besides men are above women, we own. the whole being 26 and still collecting transformers and D&D is a bit...geeky? but transformers are cool but i dont/wouldnt collect them even though I did work with a 40 year old guy who still collected transformers and he was a huge geek lol, but your friend just needs to get out of this rut, do something fun because all he is doing is just thinking about it over and over again and all the negatives, that won't turn his frown upside down.

 

[MrWhite]

You smack him accross the face and grab him by the shoulders and yell at him "GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF, MAN! FOCUS!" in all caps and such.

Nah, but go out, have some drinks, enjoy life, or whatever you cats do on a saturday night. Everyone gets horribly depressed now and then, its just because life sucks my balls, but usually everyone comes out of it eventually, you just have to cheer him up until then.

 

[Kamikazie]

if you could find him sombody to love (got that damn song in my head) maybe that would cure him...get him to play you in BF2 and let him win, get his self esteem up. cook him breakfast, do something that makes him wanted, my friend commited suicide last year and it sucks, i didnt do anything and now i fell that it was all my fault...just make him feel wanted

 

[Ennui]

Sounds like a cool dude. At least it can't get any worse!! Depression is good, you get a lot of gaming done that's for sure! Is he playing gameS? Get him playing games if not. That's doctorB fusions advice.

Burning his transformers though...that upsets me.

Gaming while depressed is absolutely no fun at all, just something to distract you and help time pass faster.

 

[Que-Ever]

if you could find him sombody to love (got that damn song in my head) maybe that would cure him...get him to play you in BF2 and let him win, get his self esteem up. cook him breakfast, do something that makes him wanted, my friend commited suicide last year and it sucks, i didnt do anything and now i fell that it was all my fault...just make him feel wanted

Whoah, what a downer
A couple years ago a friend of mine broke up with his girl, and was in a state similar to the guy's friend that started this thread. The only thing that helped was him suddenly starting to like my girlfriend. Then getting depressed again when he realized that she was my girlfriend. oops.

anyway, all I can think of to do to help him is to take him places and get him to meet other girls. And do everything in your power to try and make him forget how much he liked this other one.

Anyway, I don't want to sound selfish or self-centered, blah blah, but it really really sucks for us guys with friends who get depressed like this

 

[CyberPitz]

Yeah, he seemed alright today at work! He wasn't utterly depressed, but he wasnt his giddy self. Sadly.

And the reason he got so broken up over thsi chick, is it's the first chick he has loved since the first one a long tim ago. And I cant play him in any games, he burned his transformers, gave away his D&D stuff, and deleted everything off his computer *almost threw it away!*

I'd take him to a bar or something, but I'm only 20...yeah I know, sounds wierd, but we are pretty good friends. I'm tempted to gather up a bunch of friends, and go to ****ing worlds of fun or something. I dunno, I've wanted to do that for a while....but my good friends that i live with *he lives with his mother and brother, they are poor, he supports them...he's too nice.* are still in school, and work. So it's going to be hard to get the days off for it. I figure using one of my vacation days, while having friday/saturday off, and have sunday off...and take him.

Tomarrow, I'm going to hopefully hang out with him. We get out of work at like 11-11:30 PM, so we really can't go do too much. And this town blows cock, the closest place to do ANYTHING is one hour away. I suppose we could go to Springfield. I feel bad for him though, although it is kind of silly for him to be depressed over a woman....it happens to the best of us. I'll keep you all updated tomarrow on what happens. At least he's still alive.

 

[Cormeh]

It's a shame for your mate if he did indeed love her but she didn't feel the same way, that would be enough to cause his, well, fairly disturbing behaviour.

I read the suicide post, thats heavy stuff man, but I doubt your friend will kill himself by the sound of todays post.

And in comparison, If I had one penny for every girl, who didn't say "no", but "Absolutely no f*cking way" I'd have the handsome sum of about 20p lining my pockets.

He'll pull it together I'm sure.

 

[Mr-Fusion]

Did she reject him because he had a transformers collection?

 

[Insano]

Gaming while depressed is absolutely no fun at all, just something to distract you and help time pass faster.

QFT.

It's happening to me atm, but it's not because of a girl...

 

[G-Dub]

I've felt like this for a while.

What did I do? Determined what was getting me down and faced it head on. It took some guts but I've got a completely different outlook on life now

Try it.

 

[Sparta]

What did you face head on exactly?