Dynasty
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So,
I was in town today grabbing some sales stuff, and decided to go into my bank and get some advice on savings, and what to do about my current 'graduate' account. So after 20 mins of waiting and numerous ''would a CA please come to the pod'' announcements to get someone to see me, a slightly skinny yet curvy woman walks over with a cute smile and asks if I am Mr *insert surname*.
We walk through to her own office, she closes the door and I take a seat. We go through the whole introductions thing, how can she help me etc, and after a few minutes of chatting about why I'm there etc, I cant help but notice how well we seem to be getting along. She's smiling at me almost constantly, we're talking about more than just my account; she noticed my 'balance is quite high at the moment.', and my outgoings seem minimal and she was intrigued, so I explained I had been working overseas last year and I didnt have a mortgage yet etc, and that I would be part of generation rent for the next few years most likely so I wouldnt need to look into the gold or silver accounts she mentioned as that covers things like house insurance, phone insurance etc.
A few clicks of her mouse and she beams at me asking me how my time abroad was and where I went. When I told her, she seemed extremely interested, asking more than the usual questions you'd expect.
As I was asking her probing, more personal questions, we were laughing, smiling at each other the whole time, loads of eye contact, I did a quick glance when she was looking at her screen and saw no ring, so I upped the flirting a bit asking her personal questions back, began to be a bit cocky but keeping it fun, and she was smiling and almost giggling in a way. Slightly nerdy looking girl with glasses, but so damn sweet, and I'd guess late 20s, most likely early 30s, so about 5 years older than me.
TL : DR
I had nothing to lose when we finished up, and as I got up she mentioned how busy it was out in town and how she came in the other day and felt almost claustrophobic at how many people there were, I smiled and agreed and then said ''Well I'm sure your boyfriend had fun keeping you safe.'' with a slight, sly smile on my face to keep it fun (as a subtle way of asking if she had a boyfriend), and instantly felt my face go a bit red with embarrassment for asking (god damn it). She hesitated for about 2 seconds whilst looking me right in the eyes, gave out a forced laugh, looked down and back up at me and said ''Uhh..yeah, he couldnt wait to leave either..'', almost sounding as if she didnt know what to say as she had almost no conviction in her voice, making me think it was a white lie.
Did I blow any chances I had with her? As I walked out the door I turned and said ''Thanks again for your time, you're truly lovely...'' (deliberately said 'you're' instead of 'you were') and I could see by her facial expression that I had just made her day. She had a face like girls do when they see someone do something romantic in the films and they come over all lovey-dubby with the stereotypical ''Awwwww.''
For about 3/4 of the time I was in that room I was thinking of a way to ask her out when I left.
Should I have asked for a pen and paper at some point, wrote down my number etc and handed it to her on the way out, not giving her time to react and see what happens? (ie if she called/text/emailed me later).
Should I have flat out asked her out to drinks/coffee, and if that made her uncomfortable say something like ''It's just coffee love, not a marriage proposal.'' in a fun way, and if she said she had a boyfriend say ''That's sweet.'' or ''Well that's too bad, for you I mean.''
Did I crash and burn or did I not have a chance in the first place? I just cant see where I went wrong.
She knew I was relatively 'young' (too young for her maybe?) as I graduated almost 3 years ago and she must have seen my DOB on her screen as my details were infront of her, she knew I was living at home (again, enhancing her possible though that I was too young for her?) due to wanting to save as much as possible, but she also knew what I did for a living and that I lived and worked in the same town.
I'm hating being single again, been single for..quite a few months now. Been off my game for what feels like ages, and I know there are of course plenty of other great women out there, just felt a bit down after saying goodbye to her. Confused as to whether it was rejection or if she genuinely was letting me down gently as she DID have a boyfriend.
I'm such a **ssy at this and it's driving me nuts, as my 2 other girlfriends have always come onto me, so I'm not great at asking women out on a whim, unless I prepare myself before hand and know her first.
I was in town today grabbing some sales stuff, and decided to go into my bank and get some advice on savings, and what to do about my current 'graduate' account. So after 20 mins of waiting and numerous ''would a CA please come to the pod'' announcements to get someone to see me, a slightly skinny yet curvy woman walks over with a cute smile and asks if I am Mr *insert surname*.
We walk through to her own office, she closes the door and I take a seat. We go through the whole introductions thing, how can she help me etc, and after a few minutes of chatting about why I'm there etc, I cant help but notice how well we seem to be getting along. She's smiling at me almost constantly, we're talking about more than just my account; she noticed my 'balance is quite high at the moment.', and my outgoings seem minimal and she was intrigued, so I explained I had been working overseas last year and I didnt have a mortgage yet etc, and that I would be part of generation rent for the next few years most likely so I wouldnt need to look into the gold or silver accounts she mentioned as that covers things like house insurance, phone insurance etc.
A few clicks of her mouse and she beams at me asking me how my time abroad was and where I went. When I told her, she seemed extremely interested, asking more than the usual questions you'd expect.
As I was asking her probing, more personal questions, we were laughing, smiling at each other the whole time, loads of eye contact, I did a quick glance when she was looking at her screen and saw no ring, so I upped the flirting a bit asking her personal questions back, began to be a bit cocky but keeping it fun, and she was smiling and almost giggling in a way. Slightly nerdy looking girl with glasses, but so damn sweet, and I'd guess late 20s, most likely early 30s, so about 5 years older than me.
TL : DR
I had nothing to lose when we finished up, and as I got up she mentioned how busy it was out in town and how she came in the other day and felt almost claustrophobic at how many people there were, I smiled and agreed and then said ''Well I'm sure your boyfriend had fun keeping you safe.'' with a slight, sly smile on my face to keep it fun (as a subtle way of asking if she had a boyfriend), and instantly felt my face go a bit red with embarrassment for asking (god damn it). She hesitated for about 2 seconds whilst looking me right in the eyes, gave out a forced laugh, looked down and back up at me and said ''Uhh..yeah, he couldnt wait to leave either..'', almost sounding as if she didnt know what to say as she had almost no conviction in her voice, making me think it was a white lie.
Did I blow any chances I had with her? As I walked out the door I turned and said ''Thanks again for your time, you're truly lovely...'' (deliberately said 'you're' instead of 'you were') and I could see by her facial expression that I had just made her day. She had a face like girls do when they see someone do something romantic in the films and they come over all lovey-dubby with the stereotypical ''Awwwww.''
For about 3/4 of the time I was in that room I was thinking of a way to ask her out when I left.
Should I have asked for a pen and paper at some point, wrote down my number etc and handed it to her on the way out, not giving her time to react and see what happens? (ie if she called/text/emailed me later).
Should I have flat out asked her out to drinks/coffee, and if that made her uncomfortable say something like ''It's just coffee love, not a marriage proposal.'' in a fun way, and if she said she had a boyfriend say ''That's sweet.'' or ''Well that's too bad, for you I mean.''
Did I crash and burn or did I not have a chance in the first place? I just cant see where I went wrong.
She knew I was relatively 'young' (too young for her maybe?) as I graduated almost 3 years ago and she must have seen my DOB on her screen as my details were infront of her, she knew I was living at home (again, enhancing her possible though that I was too young for her?) due to wanting to save as much as possible, but she also knew what I did for a living and that I lived and worked in the same town.
I'm hating being single again, been single for..quite a few months now. Been off my game for what feels like ages, and I know there are of course plenty of other great women out there, just felt a bit down after saying goodbye to her. Confused as to whether it was rejection or if she genuinely was letting me down gently as she DID have a boyfriend.
I'm such a **ssy at this and it's driving me nuts, as my 2 other girlfriends have always come onto me, so I'm not great at asking women out on a whim, unless I prepare myself before hand and know her first.
