Abstinance vs Promiscuity

Where do you stand?

  • I believe sex before marriage isn't right

    Votes: 9 9.7%

  • I believe sex out of relationships is wrong

    Votes: 12 12.9%

  • I believe sex without love isn't right

    Votes: 23 24.7%

  • I disagree with all of the above; I think it's ok at any time

    Votes: 49 52.7%
  • Total voters
    93
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Although it's nowhere near as simple as the title.. where do you people stand on sex before marriage, sex out of relationships, sex without love.. and is virginity a big deal?
 
I'm okay with all of them, for myself and anyone else
(Although protection is a smart idea...)
(J/k if ricki is reading this)

But if the sex is just sex and means nothing more; make sure the other person knows that too.
Screwing up someone's life isn't kewl.
 
I think banging any random chick is wrong.
 
Murray said:
I think banging any random chick is wrong.
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Come on. You know there are really hawt chicks you see all the time that you've never had any sort of communication with whom you'd totally screw if she wanted to.

Thats no worse than meeting that same gorgeous chick at a club and taking her home.
 
IMO, people shouldn't have sex until they graduate high school.
 
I agree. Sex shouldnt be allowed before a person has some emotional maturity, but after that it's up to h/h. I personally feel sex without love is wrong.
 
Why am i always in the minority....

Edit: W00t, not alone anymore
<3 veggie
 
No he touches himself all day long.

With 'sex without love' I think of porn, and porn is ok IMO.
 
Depends, depends, depends, you can't fit the huge range of possible situations into four boxes. Closest to my opinion is number four
 
I don't like it when people have sex just to have sex. (then again it is not my business) But I think it should be with the one they love. Being married prior to just helps prevent sex with someone they may not end up not marrying. Virginity is not a big deal but when you choose to have sex is. Rather than just a sensation desire you need to satisfy, I'd like to think it means more than that to the people involved.
 
The moment some hot, wet poon's rubbing up on your junk begging you to take her I guarantee you you people wouldn't refuse it.
 
Anytime, anyone who isn't unbearably ugly or incapably fat.

But that's because I'm incredibly horny.
 
In my personal experience, I prefer to be in a relationship before I get busy.

-Angry Lawyer
 
My crude view is a rides a ride. So many people feel a lot more comfortable when they have an emotional attachment before they have sex.

To be honest, it's not as good when it doesn't matter.
 
This is going to become a speech, but I don't like any of the options.

I don't mind the idea of prostitutes (Option 4) or sex buddies (Option 2), but I would strongly discourage both of them in favour of real love--there's a reason we have the euphemism "to make love", but I don't hear it much, especially from younger people. Wonder why.

Of course, for a significant number of males in particular, the only notable purpose to sex is making Mr Penis down there very happy for a few minutes out of the day; so why care whom you're getting busy with as long as Mr Penis is happy? Mr Penis's standards are much more important than Mr Emotionalstability's or Mr Interdependence's for some people, and who am I to impose my pompous ideas of strong relationships upon them?

I've been suddenly called away on business, so I'll have to finish my speech later.
 
It's not "wrong" anywhere, being a natural human thing to do.
But for me it's a matter of finding a woman who i care about first, which i havn't done yet, hence my status of vigin.
 
"Love" is such a stupidly ambiguous term. If I love curry, does that mean it's okay for me to hump it?
 
I see nothing wrong with sex without love, sure it makes it better but even in relationships it's often lust rather than feelings of intimacy. I dont see why it has to be an emotional act every single time. That extends to outside of relationships as well ..so long as both parties are in consent and expectations are understood I'm sure some of you will think differently once you're 30 and still single/virgin ...plus it's not healthy to repress normal biological functions and human needs

btw always wear a condom
 
Being in a serious relationship creates more of an impact when you do have sex. So much so that that having sex when not in a serious relationship...seems wrong. I personally believe marriage should happen before sex, but I did not follow that belief. I just know that when you truely love somebody having sex is more satisfying, more complete than you can possibly imagine.
 
ComradeBadger said:
and is virginity a big deal?
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Virginity is always considered to be a bigger issue for girls, but i think it`s just as big for boys. Sure if your a girl it`s not like you can get your skin back "shudder"..

But with some males (im one of them) it`s about finding the right girl.
 
15357 said:
IMO, people shouldn't have sex until they graduate high school.
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Pretty idiotic way of thinking if you ask me. There's no 'ready for sex' switch that activates in your mind the day you graduate high school.
 
I mean that they should focus on studying and doing your part for your country, even if you are ready.
 
15357 said:
I mean that they should focus on studying and doing your part for your country, even if you are ready.
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It only makes them want it more when you try and stop them.
 
15357 said:
I mean that they should focus on studying and doing your part for your country, even if you are ready.
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Well maybe I can agree with that in korea, but here in the USA, trust me studying almost never takes place in our schools. lol
 
Well maybe I can agree with that in korea, but here in the USA, trust me studying almost never takes place in our schools. lol
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Yes, and all our teachers are like: "US westerners are stupid they don't do anything and they're too lazy to study. We're better because we work harder and have more intellect." because of that. :p :)

True story.

We kill our selves studying, the average high school student sleeps at 3am, and people kill themselves for getting 'C's in tests.
 
My teachers just don't care anymore. It's more sad than funny.
 
15357 said:
Yes, and all our teachers are like: "US westerners are stupid they don't do anything and they're too lazy to study. We're better because we work harder and have more intellect." because of that. :p :)

True story.

We kill our selves studying, the average high school student sleeps at 3am, and people kill themselves for getting 'C's in tests.
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Korean patriotism ftw!
 
I figure if both people love one another then that's just brilliant, but if they don't and it's for enjoyment then that's brilliant too, so long as no-one gets hurt.
Emotionally, that is... :naughty:

When I lost my virginity, it wasn't to someone I cared really deeply about (I liked her, we were sort of going out but we certainly weren't in love) but it was loads of fun. I didn't feel nervous really, because I didn't see it as a massive deal - it was just sex; it just so happened to be the first time I'd slept with someone.

And no, I don't think virginity is too big a deal. If you haven't had sex, it's no big deal - there shouldn't be the pressure around it that there is, it just makes people feel uncomfortable and embarassed, especially when it comes to your first time.
I've slept with someone on their first time and, to be frank, it wasn't cool. They were very nervous, which in turn made me very nervous - sex really shouldn't be a nervous experience. It was not good.

As for sex before marriage, if people want to abstain, then that's their deal, but it means that you don't know whether or not you're compatible in the sack, so to speak. Personally, I don't see that sex with your new spouse should be more special then it before - either way it's your wedding night, which is bound to be pretty...exciting, shall we say? And again, if both parties are nervous, because it's not something they've ever done before then that could take away from the specialness of it.
And no, I don't think specialness is really a word.
 
I forgot to answer the question, 'hodearymeonacow'sanus.

I think there is nothing wrong with it if both people are ok to go through with it. Before or after marriage.
 
I think it's better if you're in love, because as others have said, it has more emotional impact. I wouldn't mind if a hot girl comes up to me and asks me if I want to have sex with her though (which is probably never gonna happen) :(
 
Sex out of relationships ftl.
Sex without love ftmfl.
 
So as I was about to say...

If people want to go out and make hot, sweaty whoopee with every fellow member of the species that they find, well--while I find the thought deplorable, I wouldn't indiscriminately stick the label WRONG! on the people partaking of said hot, sweaty whoopee.

Not everyone in the universe values souls and hearts like I do, after all, and I have not yet discovered a way to inject my values into others. Aside: a real problem comes when, by accident or by deception, an emotionally-ordered person (usually female) and a sexually-ordered person (sad but true: usually male) somehow come together and form a ceaseless hell of confusion and mismatched priorities FROM WHICH THERE IS NO ESCAPE. I would like to think that this doesn't happen often. Teenagers seem especially bad about this.

Option 1 is a different topic entirely. I would say marriage is a higher-level function of love as provided by Part 1 of my speech. As a sexual benchmark, marriage is almost worthless, especially considering the number of homosexuals that Option 1 would exclude.

Virginity is a subjective deal, and it seems to me that it would take a unique combination of emotional and sexual ordering to care about it at all. There's just some mystical specialness about the first time a certain thing is done. If it were my choice, though, having lost just about everything but my virginity at some time or another, I can think of a few things that are on the whole more important.
 
Raeven0 said:
Not everyone in the universe values souls and hearts like I do
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Have you got a good view from your high horse?
Just because a person thinks that sex can be a pleasurable experience to be shared with someone they do not necessarily love, this does not mean that they value "souls and hearts" any less. Maybe you could say that about the person who sleeps around without caring whether they hurt other people, but if it's consensual and understood that it's pretty much for fun, not forever, then no harm no foul.

On the other hand you were very good to not ram your values down others' throats, and for that I applaud you. It's just that comment that sounded awfully conceited.
 
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