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lePobz
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Depends ... It's a bad idea to get engaged to your first girlfriend, because she's all you've experienced ... It's easy to think you've found true love... I'd give it at least 2 or 3 years ... if you're still with her, then pop the question. If you're not, move on and keep fishing.
I'm never getting married. I can't be doing with commitment, its useless. Times change, marriage isn't for me.
I'm never getting married. I can't be doing with commitment, its useless. Times change, marriage isn't for me.
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I think too many people rush into marriage.
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30, no less...
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Yes, very bad, wait till you're at least 21 . . . even if you're very intelligent and mature for your age.
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DeusExMachina
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Don't ever get married. That's a good age I think. Just stay with your sweetheart and love her good.
Unless you really need those tax breaks.
Unless you really need those tax breaks.
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Horrible idea.
Live with someone for a few years before even engaging.
Don't be a fool.
^Pretty much what he said, marriage is mostly pointless. It's not like you need to be married to be commited
Yes, it is a terrible idea. You need to be slapped for even thinking that.
But really, not to be mean or anything, I looked at your profile and saw that you're 17, and I just laughed. Not because of your age by itself (I'm only 18), but just because I think getting married that early is a ridiculous idea. Just forget it. You are going to **** up your life completely if you get married right now. Relationships will do many things to a person's mind (like make you think you're ready to get married when you have so much ahead of you). Even if you REALLY think that you and your significant other really have something going on, wait it out. If anything, marriage that early is going to doom the relationship because you're bringing lots of unwanted stress and pressures to a relationship that hasn't had time to stabilize yet.
But really, not to be mean or anything, I looked at your profile and saw that you're 17, and I just laughed. Not because of your age by itself (I'm only 18), but just because I think getting married that early is a ridiculous idea. Just forget it. You are going to **** up your life completely if you get married right now. Relationships will do many things to a person's mind (like make you think you're ready to get married when you have so much ahead of you). Even if you REALLY think that you and your significant other really have something going on, wait it out. If anything, marriage that early is going to doom the relationship because you're bringing lots of unwanted stress and pressures to a relationship that hasn't had time to stabilize yet.
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true
I thought differently until i faced the "negative" side of marriage. Times change and People change
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tip: push her down a flight of stairs, only make it look like an accident
getting married cuz you knocked her up isnt the solution
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I read the thread title as "ape to get married", and I was like "omfgbbqrox!!11" then I opened the thread and was sorely dissapointed
+1
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It's different for different people.
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Ew. Wait until you're at least 30.
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It's an odd situation. I find the Christian-inclined quite often bitch about rising divorce rates everywhere, but they're typically the ones who get married young.
Don't set yourself up in something that should last the rest of your life until you've actually lived.
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Don't set yourself up in something that should last the rest of your life until you've actually lived.
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Don't marry before you've lived together for at least two years. Well, make that three, since chemically it's impossible for you to be in love with someone for more than three or four years, and one would assume you'd spend the first six months not living together.
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Assuming you're male, not before 25.
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Makes a lot of sense.
+1. if thats true, then i think any possible faith i might have had in god, or the jeudochristian based churches has just died.
Psychology wins mostly in this. Theres proof that Psychology has beaten the odds many times in this subject.
We can choose not to be tied to our natural chemical instincts. Otherwise we wouldn't have those old farts who are still in love and happy.
My point was that chemical science is not equal to psychology.
While chemicals do influence the way a person thinks to some extent, it's obvious that psychology is an entire separate science and a much more prominent factor in something like a person's love life. It's really stupid to say that a chemical level in the brain will influence someone's thoughts so specifically that they will stop loving someone after a predetermined amount of time. The chemicals will influence basic moods and wants, but they are not entirely responsible for the way a person's mind works.
While chemicals do influence the way a person thinks to some extent, it's obvious that psychology is an entire separate science and a much more prominent factor in something like a person's love life. It's really stupid to say that a chemical level in the brain will influence someone's thoughts so specifically that they will stop loving someone after a predetermined amount of time. The chemicals will influence basic moods and wants, but they are not entirely responsible for the way a person's mind works.
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I'm pretty sure he just means rapturous, lusty love. I know plenty of long-married couples who still love each other very much- just a trusting, comfortable kind of love, rather than the passionate, oh-god-I-want-to-f*ck-you-every-waking-moment-of-my-life kind.
Now that I will believe to some extent because chemicals are responsible for sexual attraction which a lot of people will perceive as infatuation or "love". But there is never any kind of guarantee about it as in saying that the chemicals will inevitably make someone unattracted to someone after a specified period of time.
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15, earlier if you can.
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Yeah, it seems like there's this 'keeping up with the Joneses' meme in marriage where if you're not having sex five times a week until the day you turn 80, something must be wrong. Ask yourself what marriage means to you: do you want to be like a grown-up, are your parents pressuring you into it, does the bible tell you to, etc. Living with someone for several years before deciding to tie the knot is a good idea. There should be no question at all in your mind though. If you're nervous on your wedding day, you might not be ready. Also, how seriously do you take marriage? You can always get a divorce if it's not a big deal to you.
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Seriously, wait. I got engaged at 19, but we both knew we had no immediate plans to wed, and just carried on as being engaged.
Now nearly 4 years later, I'm 23, and we split up last week.
I seriously thought she was the one, but I was young and still had so much of my life to experience. Don't throw your life away by doing something that you don't need to just yet.
Remember, no one is forcing you to get married, just yet at least.
Now nearly 4 years later, I'm 23, and we split up last week.
I seriously thought she was the one, but I was young and still had so much of my life to experience. Don't throw your life away by doing something that you don't need to just yet.
Remember, no one is forcing you to get married, just yet at least.
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I'd like to say I'm an expert in this, but I only learned this in a Gender & Sexuality class I took at college last year
I think the main problem with debating the psychology or chemistry of love is that there's no catch-all definition of love. It's completely subjective, since what love means to one person won't necessarily be what love means to another. Even two people in a relationship will hardly ever love each other in the exact same way.
I'd say that a lot of people who have been in a relationship for years and years (marriage, long-term relationship, cohabitants, etc.) are either not actually in love, or have at one point fallen out of love and are now able to love each other again. In the case of two people not actually being in love, it could be analogous to the "keeping up with the Joneses" thing, where sex is substituted with love. Almost like a subconscious way of bragging to others about how long you've been in love, if you get what I mean.
In either case, as far as I'm aware it's impossible to be passionately in love, if not in other ways as well, for more than 3-4 years due to brain chemistry. And brain chemistry almost always overrides anything a psychology theory might predict
I think the main problem with debating the psychology or chemistry of love is that there's no catch-all definition of love. It's completely subjective, since what love means to one person won't necessarily be what love means to another. Even two people in a relationship will hardly ever love each other in the exact same way.
I'd say that a lot of people who have been in a relationship for years and years (marriage, long-term relationship, cohabitants, etc.) are either not actually in love, or have at one point fallen out of love and are now able to love each other again. In the case of two people not actually being in love, it could be analogous to the "keeping up with the Joneses" thing, where sex is substituted with love. Almost like a subconscious way of bragging to others about how long you've been in love, if you get what I mean.
In either case, as far as I'm aware it's impossible to be passionately in love, if not in other ways as well, for more than 3-4 years due to brain chemistry. And brain chemistry almost always overrides anything a psychology theory might predict
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I read the thread title as "ape to get married", and I was like "omfgbbqrox!!11" then I opened the thread and was sorely dissapointed
God yes, same.
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