Do you believe in spanking?

[Raziaar]

No... not in that way you pervs!


The question is. Do you guys believe in spanking as a form of disciplinary action for children who misbehave?

I personally do, but let me explain.

I've talked to quite a few people about this subject before, and some of them have said things along the lines of

"Oh no, we don't believe in hitting. We don't abuse our children"

Alright... first of all. It's fine that you don't use that form of discipline on your kids. BUT, you don't need to classify those who do as abusive. There are people out there who can be very abusive when spanking their children, and its wrong, but that doesn't mean everybody is abusive. It's possible to spank a child for discipline, yet do it in a mature manner that isn't abuse.

Now... I don't have kids, but I was raised by my dad, and my uncle for the most part, and they spanked when we did something bad. However, they were very loving, and it's easy to know that today as I am an adult. They had other methods, as spanking wasn't the only thing they did. Usually, if we did something not as severe, they'd make us stand against the wall, with toes and nose against it, and we weren't allowed to move or talk. If we did, we just simply had to stay on there longer.

This was very effective, maybe more effective than spanking, since we all know kids hate time outs, but I still believe spanking has its place for more serious offenses. However, it should never be done in anger or hard enough to be considered abusive.


Anyways, thats what i think, think of it as you will. Lets discuss the subject!

 

[cereal]

Well, I really don't think I agree with you. I was never spanked when I did something wrong, at most I was yelled at. And I'm fine now. Personally, I think spanking and hitting like that is only influencing the kid to be agressive or something like that. I don't know.

 

[Raziaar]

Well, I really don't think I agree with you. I was never spanked when I did something wrong, at most I was yelled at. And I'm fine now. Personally, I think spanking and hitting like that is only influencing the kid to be agressive or something like that. I don't know.

I never said spanking was better, nor did I say you'd be better off with or without it. I just said I believe spanking can be an effective form of punishment as long as its not abusive.

And, spanking does not make kids aggressive. It's other factors in a house hold that cause that. Abusive discipline might, but not if the spanking isn't abusive. If the parents come rushing at you and wailing on you, then thats abuse and not spanking, but if they came to you, made sure you knew what you did was wrong, told you they were going to give you a spanking, and did it without going overboard, then that's far more appropiate and the child understands it rather than remains confused.

 

[RMachucaA]

Its a part of life......

Kids now adays are pussies.... punishment is a form of tough love, thats all it is, granted, the father better not be some psycho. Everything has its limits.

Imma spank my kids and keep them in line, if they threaten to call the cops, i'll move to south america where they dont give a hoot about it and spank them twice as hard .

 

[cereal]

I never said spanking was better, nor did I say you'd be better off with or without it. I just said I believe spanking can be an effective form of punishment as long as its not abusive.

And, spanking does not make kids aggressive. It's other factors in a house hold that cause that. Abusive discipline might, but not if the spanking isn't abusive. If the parents come rushing at you and wailing on you, then thats abuse and not spanking, but if they came to you, made sure you knew what you did was wrong, told you they were going to give you a spanking, and did it without going overboard, then that's far more appropiate and the child understands it rather than remains confused.

Hmmm okay I suppose you're right

 

[RakuraiTenjin]

Yes, I was spanked as a child when I did purposely bad things and it helped shape me into a good person. I rarely had it happen but there were times when I was very little that I deserved it and got it, and it helped to teach me between right and wrong.

Now, if someone spanks over everything, it doesn't teach the kid a damn thing. For instance, if a kid accidently broke a vase, but it was an accident and they told the truth about it, you don't spank them. If they threw a tantrum and flung the vase across the room, or lied about doing it, that's a cause for it.

Those who don't know how to properly discipline a child, be it by not ever disciplining, or spanking wrongly/abusively (for everything) should have their kids taken away.

 

[Raziaar]

Yes, I was spanked as a child when I did purposely bad things and it helped shape me into a good person. I rarely had it happen but there were times when I was very little that I deserved it and got it, and it helped to teach me between right and wrong.

Now, if someone spanks over everything, it doesn't teach the kid a damn thing. For instance, if a kid accidently broke a vase, but it was an accident and they told the truth about it, you don't spank them. If they threw a tantrum and flung the vase across the room, or lied about doing it, that's a cause for it.

Those who don't know how to properly discipline a child, be it by not ever disciplining, or spanking wrongly/abusively (for everything) should have their kids taken away.

Wholeheartedly agreed. It's the severity of the deed that needs to be considered. Thats why my uncle and dad had the wall punishment, for when things were less severe usually.


EDIT: And kids need discipline, even if it isn't physical.

 

[Burn]

No... not in that way you pervs!

I lost interested in this thread about there.

Oh ontopic - Yes, beat the little shits.

 

[Orcone101]

I think spanking did work, it was actually a deterrent, kids can build a resistance to yelling, but they never get used to getting hit.
Worked for me

*goes and stabs old lady in eye*

 

[Scoobnfl]

It's all in the intention and how its used.

spankin your kid for doin the silly kid things that kids do is over the line, but spnakin yer kid for intentionally disobeying you isn't.

people that automatically categorize spanking as abuse are class A examples of what is wrong with society today.

 

[Steve]

Spanking? Well, my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind...so sure!

 

[Raziaar]

Spanking? Well, my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind...so sure!

I'm sure Jim doesn't mind at all.

 

[Steve]

I'm sure Jim doesn't mind at all.

D'oh!
6****INchar

 

[Kommie]

Yeah kids are brats, all the kids that I have meant deserve a good spanking, or a "five across the eyes". My parents were talkers, I never listened to them.

 

[bliink]

So many little punk-ass brats around these days.. but there's a choice, their parents can hit them, or I can.

 

[Hazar]

Looks like this could use a poll.

Anyways, I believe in spanking.

 

[nicknitro]

Who spanks thier kids these days? besides canadians.

 

[Steve]

As I don't believe I truly answered the question, yes, I believe in spanking.

I also believe in letting the kid touch the stove to figure out what "hot" means. Hey! They won't do it again, will they?

 

[bliink]

Added a poll

 

[Raziaar]

Added a poll

Why I oughta! <raises his hand>











<shakes your hand> Oughta thank you!

 

[RRunner]

no i dont belive in hitting ur kids. have a son 16 years old and a daughter 19 months old.
Me and my older brother were beaten as children (severly, so u couldent walk or lay on ur back for a couple of days, still have the scars to remind me), sure we deserved somn for our behaviour, which grew worse with the beatings.
Now a very agressive puberty, was our result.
I belive that a child learns not to do a thing when physicaly punished, but i think that a child has to learn WHY NOT to do a thing, by explaining to them all the if´s, but´s and why´s. Yeah it time consuming to do this, and annoying as hell to repeat it. And some times you have to add a factor of punishment, that being removal socialy (go to your room), or remowal of priviliges (curfews), and remembering to tell them why, so they cant understand it, and hopefully in time learn to understand that there are consequents, and why their are consequents to their actions.

just my 2 cents.

 

[Raziaar]

no i dont belive in hitting ur kids. have a son 16 years old and a daughter 19 months old.
Me and my older brother were beaten as children (severly, so u couldent walk or lay on ur back for a couple of days, still have the scars to remind me), sure we deserved somn for our behaviour, which grew worse with the beatings.
Now a very agressive puberty, was our result.
I belive that a child learns not to do a thing when physicaly punished, but i think that a child has to learn WHY NOT to do a thing, by explaining to them all the if´s, but´s and why´s. Yeah it time consuming to do this, and annoying as hell to repeat it. And some times you have to add a factor of punishment, that being removal socialy (go to your room), or remowal of priviliges (curfews), and remembering to tell them why, so they cant understand it, and hopefully in time learn to understand that there are consequents, and why their are consequents to their actions.

just my 2 cents.

See, there's a difference there, that I was trying to distinguish. You were beaten, abused it sounds like, whereas proper spanking only results in a temporary sting that would surely pain the kid, but go away shortly after. It sounds like you were violently punished and abused, so I can understand where problems might come from that. I'm against that kind of violent action.

 

[K e r b e r o s]

I believe in Spankings. If they walk around throwing rocks at people, spitting, pulling hair -- you bet. They're going to get melee'd -- ...

 

[RRunner]

See, there's a difference there, that I was trying to distinguish. You were beaten, abused it sounds like, whereas proper spanking only results in a temporary sting that would surely pain the kid, but go away shortly after. It sounds like you were violently punished and abused, so I can understand where problems might come from that. I'm against that kind of violent action.

Yes, but i still belive that you break a bond of trust, when you hit your children.
Do you want to be the person who physicaly punish your children when they are wrong? or do you want to be the person who explains your children why they are wrong? There is a subtle diff here.
I´ve never laid a hand on my kids, and never will. I have on the other hand sat on the floor for 2 hours with the son when he wanted to stick his fingers into the eletric socket, and carefully removed his fingers very single time. All this was a hell of a lot easyer when he finally manage to master speech and comprehending.
I still think physical punishment is an easy way out of parenting, IMHO a parent takes his time to ensure his childrens upbringing in the best way, stimulate their intelligence, and not create Pavlovs dogs.

 

[Pi Mu Rho]

I've got two kids. No way on earth could I ever bring myself to hit them. There's other ways to teach them what's right and what's wrong.

 

[bliink]

I've got two kids. No way on earth could I ever bring myself to hit them. There's other ways to teach them what's right and what's wrong.

You're right... electricity! :naughty:

 

[BabyHeadCrab]

So many little punk-ass brats around these days.. but there's a choice, their parents can hit them, or I can.

Agreed but they may be punkasses because people treated them in such a way during early childhood

I've got two kids. No way on earth could I ever bring myself to hit them. There's other ways to teach them what's right and what's wrong.

damn good to see a parent with values such as these.

 

[Gargantou]

I don't like spanking, it's okay to be a bit rough with your kids but spanking is not what I prefer, like, it's okay if my parents grab me by my arms and throw me into the wall(not that my mom can do that but my father can) but they don't do that anymore tho
My dad usewd to before tho and it helped a bit, albeit I'm only mostly afraid of him now but he was fun when we lived with him lol.(Once when he was pissed of at my mom he poured ketchup into her hair!)

 

[bliink]

Agreed but they may be punkasses because people treated them in such a way during early childhood

to be completely honest, I was (am) a punk ass kid too heh.. not a brat though

 

[BabyHeadCrab]

My parents spanked me and firmly grabbed my arms at times. I can say that it didn't really hurt me as a person.. i'm very very conflicted on this topic because I believe that no matter what the case a non physical approach is almost always the solution. (with the exception of course of extremities)

to be completely honest, I was (am) a punk ass kid too heh.. not a brat though

thats funny because I was going to say (But didn't want to sound like a brat ) that the post you made qualified you as a punk-ass

 

[Rochet]

I totally think spanking is ok, whenever I miss behave to a big point, such as scratch a picture on a new car or etc, I got spank with the belt and slipper,. I don't consider it abuse if a child knows not to do something major and he does it and something major happens, but some people are different and they are for it and against it, but people who are against it should view it as abuse, abuse is when you and child is hurt for no apperant reason, or stupid reasons.

 

[Gargantou]

Can I abuse my girlfriend if she missbehaves too?*Take forth the whip*

 

[BabyHeadCrab]

Can I abuse my girlfriend if she missbehaves too?*Take forth the whip*

rawr

 

[Ranga]

my parents never spanked me...... it was always "the wooden spoon"

 

[RRunner]

my parents never spanked me...... it was always "the wooden spoon"

sounds nasty and very painfull :naughty:

 

[Ranga]

sounds nasty and very painfull

i didn't get it very often tho..... but my brother did!

 

[Raziaar]

my parents never spanked me...... it was always "the wooden spoon"

What the hell would you have to do to bring out the wooden fork.

Or... or... Oh my god, I can't even begin to fathom this. The WOODEN SPORK!

 

[Razor]

Any parent who doesn't spank their children or properly discipline them is the main reason why children today are such scum.

 

[bliink]

Any parent who doesn't spank their children or properly discipline them is the main reason why children today are such scum.

I don't think discipline relies on "spanking"... its more of an attitude thing IMO

 

[Bad^Hat]

I lost interested in this thread about there.

Hawt.

I was spanked a bit as a kid and it didn't effect me negatively. I've seen the home videos, I deserved it for being such a shite