Do you believe in spanking?

This is the question!

  • To spank!

    Votes: 79 60.3%

  • Or not to Spank!

    Votes: 52 39.7%
  • Total voters
    131
bliink said:
I don't think discipline relies on "spanking"... its more of an attitude thing IMO
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Spanking is only one way to discipline a child, yes, but a lot of parents today are so petrified of their children and of disciplining them, that the children grow up to be....Chavs and Kevs and Criminals, etc.
 
Razor said:
Spanking is only one way to discipline a child, yes, but a lot of parents today are so petrified of their children and of disciplining them, that the children grow up to be....Chavs and Kevs and Criminals, etc.
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Or at the very least, used to doing what they want even if its a bad thing and not suffering any concequences.
 
Nothing good ever comes of spanking your children. If you raise them right in the first place, you'll never have to lay a hand on them.

I wholeheartedly agree with RRunner on this subject. Children need things to be explained to them. You need to explain to your children what they're doing wrong, why they shouldn't do it, the consequences of this behavior, etc. Spanking your child doesn't automatically confer this knowledge upon them, it just conditions them to know that if they do this behavior they're gonna get hit. It's a deterrent...it's the physical equivalent of, "Don't do it, just because I said so!"

If you raise your kids right you'll never have to hit them. I was a naturally good kid, never got into trouble, never threw tantrums, or did bad things, but even so my mom raised me right. She didn't have to go to great lengths to teach me right from wrong, but she explained those things to me. It's because of this that I grew up to be the good man I am today. My mother explained things to me and it made me a good person.
My father, all that SoB did was beat the shit out of me for no good reason (I know that's not what you're talking about, but still). I think that the guys on here who got physically abused, like myself and RRunner, we're more inclined to say that hitting your kids is never the answer. It's just not a good thing to put your hands on a child...even today when I see that shit, like parents out with their kids and the kids aren't even really doing anything but they're getting hit...boils my blood.

So yeah, raise your kids well and you'll never have to raise your hand to them.
 
I got abused as well but due to him being an alcoholic.
But I know spanking ain't the answer to raising your kids good, the only thing spanking does is make the kids more and more angry imo.
Atleast that was was happend to me, when I got tired of him abusing me I tried to lit our appartment on fire...:| I was only 10 but got sent to some pscyhiatric home in a hospital here.
 
I hate kids, im opposed to "spanking" but approve of hitting them over the head with a shovel
 
Fat Tony! said:
I hate kids, im opposed to "spanking" but approve of hitting them over the head with a shovel
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hahaha :LOL:

yeah kids get away with murder these days, they all are untouchable brats, they need to be learnt a lesson imo :angel:
 
No, it's illegal. And it has been proved that if you hit your childen, they will grow more voilent.
 
My Gran told me a story where this kid was walking with his dad, all of about 7/8. F'ing and blinding, calling him all sorts in the middle of the street. She clipped the kid round the head out of impulse, only realising what she had done after. The kid was like, "Dad that lady hit me." The dad, knowing full well that she did, said, "Did she...?"

Shut the little bugger up.
 
no

there is never a good enough excuse to justify corporal punishment

btw most of you really cant formulate an opinion on this cuz you're not parents (not trying to exclude some of you ..it's just that you cant decide that till you're actually confronted with it ..it just doesnt work as a deterrant ..they learn nothing from it) ..your perspective changes radically when you become a parent
 
My dad spanked me a few times. I think it contributed to the irrational fear I had of him when I was a tot (although I still loved him very much). He was usually very loving, but I had this sense that he could just 'flip' at any moment and go psycho.
 
Spanking, as i see it, should only be used as a last resort. Like some of you have said, if you raise your children good, you would never need resort to that, but sometimes, spanking is the best thing i.e. when shouting and locking them in their room with no television, computers or music, etc hasn't worked.

I would also not allow my children to have a television, computer, stereo in their room until they're at least 12 years old. This means that when you send one of the kids to their room for being naughty, they actually see it as a punishment.

Also, anyone who can't tell the difference between discipline, spanking and child abuse doesn't deserve children. A parent should have the right to give a good, sharp slap across the back of the legs, and no one has the right to say otherwise. However, when a child is beaten with a weapon along the sides of the legs, anywhere basically, then that is child abuse and will only raise worse children then no discipline at all.
 
I have never "learned" my lesson from long talks, so I just assumed that spanking or having them beat the crap out of me would be more effective. The more I think about it the more I think that no matter what parenting style you use if your kids don't truly respect you they will never listen. I thought my parents were morons from about the age of 8, and my disgust with them only grew as time progressed.
 
awww. i voted to spank and then i read your post :) i thought u ment the other spank
 
The_Monkey said:
No, it's illegal. And it has been proved that if you hit your childen, they will grow more voilent.
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Proven by whom?

As far as I can tell, I'm not a violent person...
 
Farrowlesparrow said:
Proven by whom?

As far as I can tell, I'm not a violent person...
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Well I sure as hell am.

Thanks past step-moms.
 
ComradeBadger said:
Theres nowt wrong with spanking between consenting legal adults :eek:
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Or consenting teenagers...*Cough*BDSM*Cough and whistle*
 
Farrowlesparrow said:
Proven by whom?

As far as I can tell, I'm not a violent person...
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Well I haven't met you, so I can't tell. :p I can understand that sometimes you just want to hit the kid, but you mustn't. I'm not saying that all that is spanked become voilent, but fact is that a majority of criminals have been hit as a child. I will try to find some source...

http://www.religioustolerance.org/spankin5.htm
 
CptStern said:
no

there is never a good enough excuse to justify corporal punishment

btw most of you really cant formulate an opinion on this cuz you're not parents (not trying to exclude some of you ..it's just that you cant decide that till you're actually confronted with it ..it just doesnt work as a deterrant ..they learn nothing from it) ..your perspective changes radically when you become a parent
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true. id jud bring up my child the way my parents have brought me up..

you know "say, please, thank-you and sorry" :E

but i wudnt want my child to become a nerd. :upstare:
id take him to martial arts or sumthing ...

ok im thinking too far ahead, i want kids when im 27, and im currently 17 / :eek:
 
KoreBolter, so you want to make you children become what -you- want or something?
I say, if he wanna be a nerd let him be?:p
Also going to martial arts, you can still be a nerd, I've talked to alot of nerds(albeit not fat I admit) that go to martial arts, I'm not sure if I classify as a nerd, I'm good looking and such but I do like computergames and computers and technological stuff very much(I bought a TV for 150 USD just to as soon as I got it "rip" it apart for the sheer fun of looking at how it looks from the inside :p).
I have no decided age for when I want kids, I only have criterias.
1. I want to have a nice and stable relation with the woman and make sure that I -really- love her(Duh...)
2. I want to have a good income so I can raise my child good.
3. And a stable non-violent home.

I also wanna be as my father(This is just a joke tho :p) i.e.
1. Fat
2. Tall(Already am that tho)
3. Strong(Working on it)
4. Alcoholic(He's healthy now tho :p)
5. Crazy(He's sane now tho :p)
 
I didn't grow up violent, and I was spanked. I'm probably one of the least violent people I know.

However, I did say that while spanked, I wasn't always spanked. It was usually a last resort, depending on the offense, and my dad and uncle were very loving... soooooo.
 
Raziaar, don't lie to me boy.*Takes forth the leather whips and makes your back bleed*
Now say you're sorry!:p
 
Gargantou said:
Raziaar, don't lie to me boy.*Takes forth the leather whips and makes your back bleed*
Now say you're sorry!:p
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lol.


I was only very rarely spanked with a belt. It was usually just their hands. And I was always asked what I thought I did wrong, then told what I did wrong, and told not to do it again, told I was going to be spanked for it, and was. I guess some other people who spank aren't that straightforward with the kids, and just expect them to know what they did wrong while they're being hit.
 
it's hard to be a parent, it's harder to be a good parent ..the right choice is always the most difficult choice ..you address the symptoms you dont punish the behaviour, especially through the use of physical force because you're sending the wrong message
 
I can see that there are many gray areas in parenting where there is no right or wrong. This is such a issue, you just have to work out how you feel about it and apply it. As long as they turn out to follow morality and are not harmed you have done a good job. This is me speaking as a 17 year old :eek:, most of you lot are too young, feel thankful you don't need to make sure decisions.
 
I suppose this regards one's own children...: when you really gotta hit'em, you've done something wrong.
 
Recoil said:
I suppose this regards one's own children...: when you really gotta hit'em, you've done something wrong.
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quoted for emphasis
 
Gargantou said:
KoreBolter, so you want to make you children become what -you- want or something?
I say, if he wanna be a nerd let him be?:p
Also going to martial arts, you can still be a nerd, I've talked to alot of nerds(albeit not fat I admit) that go to martial arts, I'm not sure if I classify as a nerd, I'm good looking and such but I do like computergames and computers and technological stuff very much(I bought a TV for 150 USD just to as soon as I got it "rip" it apart for the sheer fun of looking at how it looks from the inside :p).
I have no decided age for when I want kids, I only have criterias.
1. I want to have a nice and stable relation with the woman and make sure that I -really- love her(Duh...)
2. I want to have a good income so I can raise my child good.
3. And a stable non-violent home.

I also wanna be as my father(This is just a joke tho :p) i.e.
1. Fat
2. Tall(Already am that tho)
3. Strong(Working on it)
4. Alcoholic(He's healthy now tho :p)
5. Crazy(He's sane now tho :p)
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when i say nerd i mean i dont want him/her to be :

1.lazy
2.overweight
3.never goes out
4.unsociable
5.quiet (sort of)

but i would want him/her to work hard in school.
learn martial arts for defence against "potential bullies:p"
id take him/her to play a team sport, to let him/her appreciate communication skills and make friends.

i find all this made my life easier.
i never have been a "nerd"( the 5 terms i mentioned above).

also i wud like my son/daughter to polite and helpful, and just have fun in life.. just like me :) ..and be computor litarate :sniper: :D
 
I think a big problem here is that...nobody is really sure what everyone else means when they talk about spanking.

Slap a baby when its done something wrong, is part of nature. If a baby touches a fire, because it doesn't know better, then the fire doesn't sit it down and talk it out...it burns it. If a baby kicks you when you're putting its nappy on, then you just slap its leg. Not hard, but just so it knows that if it kicks you, then it'l get what it dealt out.

Spanking doesn't work past a couple of years really, unless its really hard in which case I think you can use the word beating. Though, if the parents have been moderate with the physical punishment, then really just the idea that your parent is willing to hit you, is enough to make you think twice because (and I'm talking about when you're at the age when you can start to reason) you know they must be really mad, and you must have done something really wrong.

This has been my experience :)

(Then theres a whole range of other things. Like my fighting with my older brothers and father. It was never "I'm trying to kill you" but we did often bruise each other...but thats just part of toughening you up :p Lead by example, and teach by experience.)
 
Farrowlesparrow said:
I thinka big problem here is that...nobody is really sure what everyone else means when they talk about spanking.

Slap a baby when its done something wrong, is part of nature. If a baby touches a fire, because it doesn't know better, then the fire doesn't sit it down and talk it out...it burns it. If a baby kicks you when you're putting its nappy on, then you just slap its leg. Not hard, but just so it knows that if it kicks you, then it'l get what it dealt out.

Spanking doesn't work past a couple of years really, unless its really hard in which case I think you can use the word beating. Though, if the parents have been moderate with the physical punishment, then really just the idea that your parent is willing to hit you, is enough to make you think twice because (and I'm talking about when you're at the age when you can start to reason) you know they must be really mad, and you must have done something really wrong.

This has been my experience :)
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in that case, i agree, because thats what my parents have done to me, and i have turned out well..... i hope , lol ....

im not a chav, drug-dealer, bully, murderer, robber etc...

so yeah ive turned out well thus far :p
 
ComradeBadger said:
Theres nowt wrong with spanking between consenting legal adults :eek:
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Haha, I was waiting for you to get here :naughty:

Cpt, you are so left wing, they'd have to build a special extention wing for you :LOL:

Also, to all of you who're saying that spanking is the easy way out, you haven't heard me howl :angry:
 
Hmm... I many not be a parent, but I've been slapped once or twice by my own mother and father. I like to think I'm well adjusted.

Physical punishment is, in my limited view, only justified when something is required to immediately enforce the importance of an issue. I recall when my little cousin ran into the middle of the road with a friend- he was hurriedly dragged back by his mother (a van had to squeal to a halt, it was horribly close) and slapped on the wrist. He cried and never did it again. His little friend who he accompanied, however, was merely talked to slowly and carefully by his own mother. He proceeded to run off and do it again.

However, if you find it necessary to continually slap your children, there's something fundamentally wrong with your methods. It may be important to deter certain behaviour, but it's equally important to explain to them why they can't play with daddy's machinegun or whatever. Otherwise they'll still avoid doing what they've been forbidden to do, but not because of advanced knowledge- just because of fear of what you'll do to them, which isn't right.
 
Bad^Hat said:
Cpt, you are so left wing, they'd have to build a special extention wing for you :LOL:
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LOL take a look at the political bird feel free to add yourself :naughty:
LOLOL

EDIT: there is a plain bird just in case you want to change what i thought ... :rolleyes:
 
KoreBolteR said:
LOL take a look at the political bird feel free to add yourself :naughty:
LOLOL

EDIT: there is a plain bird just in case you want to change what i thought ... :rolleyes:
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Where am I on there?
 
Spanking? I got a hard slap across the face whenever I did something wrong or my dad was pissed at me. And it really depends on the kid. I hardly got beaten since I could understand what was right or wrong even from a young age - although just like every other kid, I act out of line sometimes. However, some kids are very careless and inconsiderate, so they deserve to be beaten (not harshly but just to straighten them up). I am kinda sad that parents sometimes don't employ disciplinary action like this since there are many kids my age (16) who still act like that and never learned. They believe they're #1, deserve everything, are rude, and have no respect for their parents or others.
 
Haha, Seinfeldrules, good one :D

When I said wing, I meant as in a building, thus the "special extention". Isn't that what it's a metaphor for?
 
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