Internet Dating

Stigmata said:
It's a relationship built around personal and emotional intimacy. In that way it can be just as strong as a relationship that allows for physical contact, since physical contact isn't there to become a crutch when no emotional intimacy can be had.
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But that just makes no sense to me. Part of being in a relationship (sex aside) is being with the person. Going out to movies, getting something to eat, being there to support them, dealing with the fact women are crazy and eventually moving up from that to something more serious. So I just don't see how you can call chatting online a relationship. Not to be a dick or nothing but people that do this simply need to get out more; plenty of women out there in the real world. I guess I just don't see how you can develop any kind of feelings for someone that you don't have any kind of physical connection to (maybe I'm old fashioned that way).

I got $20 bucks on the fact that Veggie gets asked for his credit card and social security number within a few weeks.
 
It's worked for me once, only tried it last year, sadly to say the results were disappointing, turned out she was 35 and a mother, didn't stop me seeing her for a few weeks.
 
No Limit said:
But that just makes no sense to me. Part of being in a relationship (sex aside) is being with the person. Going out to movies, getting something to eat, being there to support them, dealing with the fact women are crazy and eventually moving up from that to something more serious. So I just don't see how you can call chatting online a relationship. Not to be a dick or nothing but people that do this simply need to get out more; plenty of women out there in the real world. I guess I just don't see how you can develop any kind of feelings for someone that you don't have any kind of physical connection to (maybe I'm old fashioned that way).
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It's not that far of a stretch, really. If you have common interests, it's not that hard to do things "together" over the Internet. Like video games? Find a multiplayer one and play it together. Like movies? Download the same one, go on MSN, and start it at the same time. Emotional issues? Talk it out in a Skype call. Sexual contact? A Skype video call is the closest you'll get - but it works.

Dealing with the other moving on? That's life, relationships never last forever.

And yeah, I'll agree that a lot of people just need to get out more. But I had a RL girlfriend before I had an internet one, and now I have a RL one again, so I like to think I'm talking from a fairly healthy perspective :P. It's not something that's for everyone, but it's not impossible, or inferior (again, outside of physical contact).
 
It's not really my place to criticise other people if they want an internet relationship but I think you'd ultimately be better off finding a girl in real life.

I meet girls on and off fairly regually but I thought I'd try plenty of fish once. Met up with this pretty girl, turns out she was ****ing fat. ****ing nightmare... never again.
 
Stigmata said:
It's not that far of a stretch, really. If you have common interests, it's not that hard to do things "together" over the Internet. Like video games? Find a multiplayer one and play it together. Like movies? Download the same one, go on MSN, and start it at the same time. Emotional issues? Talk it out in a Skype call. Sexual contact? A Skype video call is the closest you'll get - but it works.

Dealing with the other moving on? That's life, relationships never last forever.

And yeah, I'll agree that a lot of people just need to get out more. But I had a RL girlfriend before I had an internet one, and now I have a RL one again, so I like to think I'm talking from a fairly healthy perspective :P. It's not something that's for everyone, but it's not impossible, or inferior (again, outside of physical contact).
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I'm about to lose my man-card for saying this but part of what's nice in watching a movie or many other activities with someone you are going out with is the physical contact associated with it. Wether it be putting your arm around the person, holding their hand, grabbing their ass when noone is looking, and so on.

And you would really have sex over a camera with someone you never met? I don't really want my chubby ass all naked posted around the internet for everyone to see; but that's just me. Not to mention this isn't much different from rubbing one out watching good old fashioned porn.
 
Stigmata said:
[edit] Oh and Veggies, she might be fake, but highfive. I hope she's as good as you make her out to be :)
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lulz, she's not fake. We cam all the time (if by fake you mean a man or something), and I've talked to her quite a lot over the past 3 months (she's no con). And thanks :)

I got $20 bucks on the fact that Veggie gets asked for his credit card and social security number within a few weeks.
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Hahaha.
 
I think particularly for older (40+'rs) they're extremely nice. Especially if you're a working person who doesn't participate in many social activities, it's a great way to simply find singles. My friend's dad who is a Psychiatrist, was formerly married and divorced (the woman left him for some weirdo bartender) who is a great guy found a moderately attractive and sweet widow from Iceland, of all places. They're happily engaged. So yeah, dating websites have their merit, especially for older professionals.
 
Vegeta897 said:
lulz, she's not fake. We cam all the time, and I've talked to her quite a lot over the past 3 months. And thanks :)
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:D!

No Limit said:
I'm about to lose my man-card for saying this but part of what's nice in watching a movie or many other activities with someone you are going out with is the physical contact associated with it. Wether it be putting your arm around the person, holding their hand, grabbing their ass when noone is looking, and so on.

And you would really have sex over a camera with someone you never met? I don't really want my chubby ass all naked posted around the internet for everyone to see; but that's just me. Not to mention this isn't much different from rubbing one out watching good old fashioned porn.
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If anything, you get an extra Man Card for admitting that. Cuddling is awesome, and anyone who denies it is no man at all.

Webcam sexing is much, much different from watching porn and rubbing one out. Of course it's not the same or quite as good as actual physical contact - it's a video on a screen, and an audio feed if you're lucky. But like any good sexual interaction, it's more than the sum of its parts. You're doing it, mutually, with a person you really like, or possibly even love. You both wish you were in the same room, and this desire makes it all the more emotional and connective. You see the other person enjoying themselves immensely because of you. It's not some webcam slut taking off her clothes to pay for rent. It's a girl who's showing a deeply personal side of herself, for you and nobody else.

It's not the same as physical contact, but by no means is it emotionless or loveless.
 
You've hit it dead on Stig. Do you have experience? ;)

Really, that's absolutely correct.
 
As Solaris says despite my personal suspicion (and the overwhelming prejudice) that internet dating is a loser's game I've heard of too many internet meetings come to something, and know too many people I respect to engage in such things to get behind that statement unequivocably. In any case they're not for me. They are invariably over a distance, and long distance relationships are a pain in the arse.

Jintor said:
I'll say straight off the bat that I think the potential for deception is much higher on the internet than in real life.
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This could be true. But think about it - surely the internet can't be any more deceptive than classified ads or dating pages in a newspaper. Those have existed for three centuries, so clearly they speak to a deep human need and, just as clearly, either they're effective or their lack of effectiveness has never and will never stop people from using them.

I doubt they're very good because I feel that what Nuri said...
Nurizeko]Still said:
I should also add that we webcam frequently.
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But on webcam you can never look each other in the eyes. D:
 
Some people seem to have the misconception that dating sites just involve chatting online and such. The whole point is that you actually meet women irl.
 
Solaris said:
Met up with this pretty girl, turns out she was ****ing fat. ****ing nightmare... never again.
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Oh ****ing christ not a fat chick! Shit you shoulda just gouged your eyes out right there and thrown them at her yelling "EAT THAT FATTY!". Nightmare.
 
Nothing wrong with fat chicks. Not sure if they just sweat a lot or if they are a lot more horny than skinny girls but but I enjoy them very much.
 
oh man, I gotta read threads before logging in more often. vegeta, you dont understand how weird that sounds
 
Why do you have me on ignore if you keep logging out to read my posts.

How weird what sounds, Sterny? I assure you that I am fully aware of anything that is weird about my own relationship. Most people assume that because I'm happy with an internet relationship, I must be delusional and seeing more than what is there. I'm quite aware of the reality, and I don't really care what anyone else thinks.

If you're referring to my webcam delay joke, yeah, that's why it's funny. It was supposed to sound pathetic.

I'm capable of making jokes and realizing the humor behind internet relationships, even if it's my own. Just part of being an optimist I guess.

I'm also aware that you're the happily married old man who is having the time of his life after realizing how "pathetic" my love life is, and is trying to tear down some young virgin over the internet, especially because he's your sworn enemy from past confrontations. Good for you buddy, put me in my place.

This thread is no place for you Stern if you're just going to troll. I've earned my right to post in here because I actually have something to contribute.
 
Wow nobody's made a joke yet about veggie's internet girlfriend being pre-pubescent? I'm impressed.
 
That's because it would be no joke.

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Theres just the minutia and happenings of a real relationship that internet dating cant touch.


For all your supposed "we just get each other" you have, you don't know what its like to see her smile at one of your bad jokes for the first time, you'll never see how she looks just as attractive when she's grumpy at your antics just as much as when she's laughing at them.


An internet girlfriend cant get her ass smacked on a crowded Tokyo train and then she does it back.

An internet girlfriend cant sleep next to you, you cant know the smell of her perfume, warmed by the heat of her neck, you'll never know how she reacts to the cold, or have a roll-a-round on sand-dunes and kiss.

An internet girlfriend, whether to meet for sex or for some sort of relationship just isn't the same as meeting someone in RL.

I think internet dating should only be a way to help find a real relationship.

As soon as you see someone you like, meet them in RL, and make sure they aren't miles away.



I'de rather have a day of a RL relationship then a year of an ultimately hollow internet one.
 
nurizeko said:
Theres just the minutia and happenings of a real relationship that internet dating cant touch.


For all your supposed "we just get each other" you have, you don't know what its like to see her smile at one of your bad jokes for the first time, you'll never see how she looks just as attractive when she's grumpy at your antics just as much as when she's laughing at them.


An internet girlfriend cant get her ass smacked on a crowded Tokyo train and then she does it back.

An internet girlfriend cant sleep next to you, you cant know the smell of her perfume, warmed by the heat of her neck, you'll never know how she reacts to the cold, or have a roll-a-round on sand-dunes and kiss.

An internet girlfriend, whether to meet for sex or for some sort of relationship just isn't the same as meeting someone in RL.

I think internet dating should only be a way to help find a real relationship.

As soon as you see someone you like, meet them in RL, and make sure they aren't miles away.



I'de rather have a day of a RL relationship then a year of an ultimately hollow internet one.
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Um wat?

Who is interested in internet relationships that don't turn into real life?

You seem to be very confused. The thread is called internet dating. Not internet be together for the rest of your life and never meet her. You keep using the word "never" like neither of the participants have any desire to meet up and be together. Who the **** gave you that idea?

"Theres just the minutia and happenings of a real relationship that internet dating cant touch."

No shit, and it doesn't try to.

It's merely a different way to meet and get to know a girl, and hopefully ultimately being together with her physically.

Please do not spread such misinformation about people who look for relationships on the net.

While meeting girls in real life is better than meeting them online, meeting them online is better than nothing, which is what I had.
 
ITT nurizeko doesn't understand what a fairly common term means.
 
I think I agree with Vegeta on this. (I never thought I'd say that...ever)
 
Vegeta897 said:
Um wat?

Who is interested in internet relationships that don't turn into real life?
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How do you ever expect to turn a relationship with a girl that lives 2000 miles away (or even 200 miles away) in to a real life relationship? Seems like wishful thinking to me.
 
Because migration is kim-possible, right?
 
Eejit said:
Because migration is kim-possible, right?
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Who would migrate for someone they met online (especially in a case where you are in different countries)? Most people have careers, family, and other obligations where they live. Not to mention you know very little about the real person you are dealing with.
 
No Limit said:
Who would migrate for someone they met online (especially in a case where you are in different countries)? Most people have careers, family, and other obligations where they live. Not to mention you know very little about the real person you are dealing with.
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I don't have any real obligations. My life is still very open-ended.

After meeting up enough times and having an ridiculous amount of IM conversations, I think it would be a safe bet if you made the conclusion from all that that she's the one.

Hell, probably much safer than most marriages that occur between young people these days.
 
Did you say marriage?

BAWWWW can I be a bridesmaid?
 
Most relationships here are mainly all about the sex and they no hardly anything about the person , where as online you get to know the person for who they are, not what they look like :\
 
Vegeta897 said:
I don't have any real obligations. My life is still very open-ended.

After meeting up enough times and having an ridiculous amount of IM conversations, I think it would be a safe bet if you made the conclusion from all that that she's the one.

Hell, probably much safer than most marriages that occur between young people these days.
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So you're ready to move to communist China for a chick you met online? I guess whatever floats your boat. If you are 21 or older before you make that leap I recommend you go out to a couple bars and see what you can pick up there. If you aren't 21 there are still many other places you can pick up girls at depending on where you live at.
 
No Limit said:
So you're ready to move to communist China for a chick you met online? I guess whatever floats your boat. If you are 21 or older before you make that leap I recommend you go out to a couple bars and see what you can pick up there. If you aren't 21 there are still many other places you can pick up girls at depending on where you live at.
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Didn't say I was moving to China. We don't have any plans, really, but on the contrary we're leaning toward her moving to me.

Didn't say we had marriage in mind either, I just brought that into the discussion for the sake of the argument.
 
Vegeta897 said:
Didn't say I was moving to China. We don't have any plans, really, but on the contrary we're leaning toward her moving to me.
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Her moving from China to you seems just as absurd to me. But whatever man, if it makes you happy then more power to you. I still recommend you get out a bit more, because I think in the end you are going be hurt with the situation you have now.
 
vegeta said:
After meeting up enough times and having an ridiculous amount of IM conversations, I think it would be a safe bet if you made the conclusion from all that that she's the one.
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hell no, I wouldnt consider it til I've lived with the person for a few years ..this isnt like buying a new lawnmower, this is for life ..although a good lawnmower can last most of your life. still, you havent even met her!!! what if she has a peg leg? what if she has a giant mole on the side of her face, the side she coincidentily never shows, and what if this mole has hair growing out of it? long curly hair!!! also she could be a commie spy or hell worse yet, extremely boring in anything besides talking about communism/anime? she could have rickets, she could have lyme disease, he could be a she!!!
 
No Limit said:
Her moving from China to you seems just as absurd to me. But whatever man, if it makes you happy then more power to you. I still recommend you get out a bit more.
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Hey, people find love in strange places, she could be the one but you could just blow her off because of the distance. You could make it work if you really want it to.
 
Gemma said:
Hey, people find love in strange places, she could be the one but you could just blow her off because of the distance. You could make it work if you really want it to.
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Again, I think it's wishful thinking (to be totally honest I think it's actually crazy thinking). But whatever, like I said if it makes you happy to what you gotta do. But I think the only reason it would make you happy is if you never had a real relationship and are looking to make up for that by taking the easy way out.
 
dating a corpse means never having to hear the word "no"
 
No Limit said:
True, but they have a fairly short shelf life. A blow up doll on the other hand...
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agreed, however thrown into a sarcophagus of salt, they can last for decades. Blow up dolls, however, are susceptible to pin pricks :naughty:


HEY EVERYBODY VirusType2 WANTS A SHEBOY WITH LYME DISEASE!!!
 
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