What's your stance on Child Spanking?

[The Monkey]

Well?

I think spanking your children is a horrible crime. It doesn't help the children in any way, all it does is teaching them that violence is OK and to fear the person responcible for the spanking. It damages the children in more that just a physical way, it hurts them physically. They are being humiliated by the people who should love them the most.

It's horrible and disgusting that this sick ritual has lived on to this age.

 

[lePobz]

I disagree completely - as long as it's done in moderation and only when the child has done something wrong. Lack of discipline is exactly what's wrong with kids today.

 

[Cole]

I think that spanking is not the best thing but better than just yelling at them.

I have a little brother and my parents have NEVER givin him even a time-out or anything worse. They yell at him then start apologizing. He is over spoiled. He is overactive and a bitch to handle.

However when I watch him he does what I say and when I say it. Because I will spank him and I will put him in a room he dosn't wanna be in for an hour. When I tell him not to do something and he does it, he learns that doing something when I tell him not to = bad for him.


Sure I would rather not spank him but I really do not see any other way to teach him that disobeying(Could use a better term) me will result in something bad. Talking to him nicely, yelling at him, etc.. do not work with him.

 

[gick]

IMO, if you need to resort to physical violence to get your children to behave, then you either have a pretty messed up kid, or are a pretty poor parent tbh.

I always did as I was told, because my dad didnt need to hit me to be scary (he can be VERY LOUD). My mother didnt even need to shout - she just made me feel really guilty for misbehaving.

 

[Angry Lawyer]

Hell, my parents believed in it, and I turned out great. Compare and contrast with kids these days, who don't get spanked.

-Angry Lawyer

 

[Thunderclap]

Children must be disciplined, or they will be weak. As gick says, if you must result to crude physical methods to impose your will upon them, then someone has failed. My mother, while loving and caring, can make you feel ashamed and guilty of anything, if she needs too. My father is just loud, which also works.

 

[bvasgm]

If you really need to resort to spanking your kid you're a pretty shitty parent, tbh. Good parents will just make you feel so ashamed about doing whatever it is that you did that you'll never want to do it again.

I voted mostly negative instead of very negative just because there's always the odd kid that no matter what you say to them, they just won't stop being a bitch and do what you tell them.

 

[Solaris]

It's pretty pointless. If you ever watch thoose supernanny programs on tv you will see they never hit them, and turn complete hell raisers into little darlings.

Allowing violence against the most vunerable people in society is disgraceful too imo.

 

[CrazyHarij]

I wasn't spanked and now I'm an undisciplined lazy ****er. i think it should be enforced by law

 

[Gunner]

Well?

I think spanking your children is a horrible crime. It doesn't help the children in any way, all it does is teaching them that violence is OK and to fear the person responcible for the spanking. It damages the children in more that just a physical way, it hurts them physically. They are being humiliated by the people who should love them the most.

It's horrible and disgusting that this sick ritual has lived on to this age.

Well you come from sweden, where threatening physical harm to a child is punishable by a prison term. It's only natural that you would think so. But even so, I believe spanking is an outdated method of punishment. In this day and age, I think it's more suited to cut a child's internet or phone connection than to spank or slap him.

 

[The Monkey]

Hell, my parents believed in it, and I turned out great. Compare and contrast with kids these days, who don't get spanked.

-Angry Lawyer

That has nothing to do with spanking. They have to set rules and their have to enforce the, yes, but never with violence. There is no study that shows that spanking is good for the children. Here in Sweden it has been banned since 1979, and there is nothing that shows that children born after that turn out less disciplined or whatever than before.

 

[Cole]

I think some children simply have to be spanked. Simply there are children who wont listen and wont feel guilty. The only way to get through is like a shock collar for a dog. A dog barks it gets shocked, eventually it learns. A child does something wrong, he\she gets spanked. Eventually he\she learns. I do however agree that most 95 - 98% of children do not need it.

 

[Llama]

I think it's a very good thing. It taught me some restraint.

I think most children think along the lines that acting badly = pain, so being nice = no pain = good.

Why do you think this generation of children is so ****ed up? No parenting methods, that's why.

 

[Crushenator 500]

kinky :naughty:

 

[ComradeBadger]

It teaches kids that violence is a valid way of making someone do what you want them to.

It's wrong as ****.

 

[CrazyHarij]

damn, that's seriously well put CB

i wasn't too serious with my comment, i'm actually rather fine

 

[Dog--]

There is nothing wrong with it, it doesn't teach kids anything, besides don't to what they did. You people are starting to sound like Jack Thompson "Video Games Teach Violence!" same as "Spanking and disciplining your kids teachng violence!"

It's discipline. It works. My parents spanked me, and I never did anything bad after it. They've only did it like 2 times, after that they didn't need to do it anymore, I behaved because I didn't want to get spanked.

Cutting off the phone or internet won't do anything, it'll just give them more time to think of ways to **** up some more.

I'm not a violent person, I know plenty of people who were spanked as kids, and most of them are wusses...

 

[A True Canadian]

My uncle used to spank his kids when they were bad. He stopped doing it when they started hitting him back.

 

[CptStern]

never under any circumstance

 

[Black_Wolf]

I disagree completely - as long as it's done in moderation and only when the child has done something wrong. Lack of discipline is exactly what's wrong with kids today.

agreed,as long its a hard smack on the butt thoe.no hitting in the head.

 

[joule]

The vast majority of parenting books will tell you that spanking a child will cause more social problems down the line than it could ever possibly solve. Just about every parenting expert is against spanking and would tell you that there are plenty of discipline options that do not involve teaching the child that "might makes right" or that "violence solves problems".

Really though, it's a socio-economic thing.

 

[Raziaar]

Lack of spanking produces chavs or the equivilent.




But seriously though, spanking is only good if it's done as a punishment for something more serious. Not simple things, and only on the butt, and only done without being in anger. And not as a way of satisfaction, but a way to teach the kid that gets through rather than talk, which often doesn't. It doesn't have any negative effects that way.

 

[Solaris]

There is nothing wrong with it, it doesn't teach kids anything, besides don't to what they did. You people are starting to sound like Jack Thompson "Video Games Teach Violence!" same as "Spanking and disciplining your kids teachng violence!"

It's discipline. It works. My parents spanked me, and I never did anything bad after it. They've only did it like 2 times, after that they didn't need to do it anymore, I behaved because I didn't want to get spanked.

Cutting off the phone or internet won't do anything, it'll just give them more time to think of ways to **** up some more.

I'm not a violent person, I know plenty of people who were spanked as kids, and most of them are wusses...

Why is okay to hit a child, and not a soldier, or your wife?

 

[The Monkey]

agreed,as long its a hard smack on the butt thoe.no hitting in the head.

Why is it allowed to abuse of part of a child's body but not the other? Why this perverted interest of children's arses?

EDIT: CrazyHarij, wtf? Are you against or for spanking? If you're for you're probably the only swede under the age of 60 that is.

 

[Raziaar]

Why is it allowed to abuse of part of a child's body but not the other? Why this perverted interest of children's arses?

Don't be so rediculous. The only one who seems to be equating it to perversion here is you.

 

[Tr0n]

Taxman is a pedo.

 

[VictimOfScience]

Well, I was spanked and I turned out rather well-rounded if I do say so myself. I don't see a problem with it up to a point. It was never anything really mean or nasty--very similar to flicking your cat's nose when he does something bad.

 

[Solaris]

Lack of spanking produces chavs or the equivilent.




But seriously though, spanking is only good if it's done as a punishment for something more serious. Not simple things, and only on the butt, and only done without being in anger. And not as a way of satisfaction, but a way to teach the kid that gets through rather than talk, which often doesn't. It doesn't have any negative effects that way.

It's teaching the child on some level, that it is OK to solve your problems with violence. It also changes the social standing of the child and the parent, I would never smack or hit my child I hope. I'd like to have my child on a similar level to me, respect wise. If he was bad I wouldn't hit him, but point out the error in his ways, and get him to make things right... at least thats what I'd like to happen.

 

[Tr0n]

Or popping your dog on the muzzle for doing something bad, as well/

 

[Raziaar]

It's teaching the child on some level, that it is OK to solve your problems with violence. It also changes the social standing of the child and the parent, I would never smack or hit my child I hope. I'd like to have my child on a similar level to me, respect wise. If he was bad I wouldn't hit him, but point out the error in his ways, and get him to make things right... at least thats what I'd like to happen.

It's very unlikely that a child will grow up to use violence as a means to solve problems in their life.

It's not like it's at the level of an abusive parent totally going all out on their kid, and creating a monster.

I was spanked occasionally. I'm a monster! RAWR. Come here so I can thrash you with my violent outbursts.

 

[Tr0n]

I was spanked...

Hell, I was beat bloody a couple times by two step mom's, but I as well ain't a "monster" and do the whole violence thing.

 

[Black_Wolf]

Why is it allowed to abuse of part of a child's body but not the other? Why this perverted interest of children's arses?

EDIT: CrazyHarij, wtf? Are you against or for spanking? If you're for you're probably the only swede under the age of 60 that is.

dude,cuz when hit a childs butt,it hurts but when you hit it in the head,that can cause injuries.and spanking is NOT abuse.

 

[Raziaar]

You'd be able to make about as solid of a case for reasonable spanking, saying that it causes violence, as you would for videogames that cause violence.

 

[The Monkey]

Taxman is a pedo.

D:

 

[Tr0n]

See. You didn't deny it.

 

[The Monkey]

Who can deny it?

 

[Raziaar]

Who can deny it?

I can deny it. Denied.

 

[Solaris]

You'd be able to make about as solid of a case for reasonable spanking, saying that it causes violence, as you would for videogames that cause violence.

Not at all.

Children can tell the difference between games and real life. When they play a game they shoot people, but they understand its still a game. In real life, they copy their parents all the time, they are their role models and they want to be like them. They learn from them, sub-conciously and consiously. When they are hit by a parent they are learning a lesson about violence.

You are right however in arguing that it doesn't really have that large a negative impact most of the time. However, it is still unnessacary, and is inflicting pain on somebody to get what you want.

Unacceptable.

 

[Dog--]

Why is okay to hit a child, and not a soldier, or your wife?

Because Children are still growing and learning, and they need to know whats right on whats wrong, do you really think it'd get through to the kid if he hit the walls with a hammer and you said "don't do it again." or do you think it'd have a bigger effect if you spanked him. Only spank when you think you should, not just because the kid mouthed off or something, send him/her to their room for something little like that.

Also, I agree with some other people, spanking only in the butt, never hitting in anger or hitting in the head, ect.

 

[Raeven0]

What's your stance on Child Spanking?

"Don't go overboard."

I can't really pick a poll option, as my stance can't be simplified to positive or negative. Some spanking is positive, some is negative, some is an atrocity...